You must be willing to disappoint me. No, I'm not kidding. I choose to play like kids:

I get over a hundred messages each month from people I have not met. Many of these have to do with House Wildfire, http://thecspc.org or Myself! Often, the party inquiries are quite simple and I enjoy reassuring people about CSPC events. I also have profiles on various sites and occasionally place a personal ad for potential mischief.

Sometimes it happens. You see something. Your inner voice is yelling at you,

“This is SO WRONG!!"

These instincts that tell you to call the police when someone's backpack or phone gets snatched on the train can be a challenge in BDSM play space. (We'll talk about Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission and Sadomasochism another day.) You're enjoying a play party, dancing and watching a couple start to play. Then suddenly the top hits the bottom and you know it HURT. You've heard the advice:

As 2012 draws to a close, I'm taking a look back. One of my greatest joys of 2012 is being Lady Wildfire. I have the great privilege of being able to create and host my fantasy at the Center. A year ago I was finishing my 4th, and final year as co-team lead of the Hump with TeeeBone. I greatly enjoyed working with the team and creating an event that merged the visions of many wonderful people. I miss them. With House Wildfire, the vision is all mine and I'm excited that those who came enjoyed my fantasy. One comment said, “Loved, loved, loved House Wildfire!” I am a very lucky woman.

“Be who you is

'cause if you be who you ain't

Myself, the CSPC’s masturbation friendly sex party, has been my favorite event for a couple of years now.   Self-pleasure tends to be frowned on at BDSM Kink and Sex parties.  Allowing only partner sex is one of the ways organizers create a sense of safety.  Myself brings masturbation “out of the closet.”  The men who attend are pleased with a wide variety of attention and interactions.  The vibe is extremely polite....and often very hot.  This party does encourage partner sex play and sexy D/s play as well as masturbation.  

I ran Hump for four years and I’ve just enjoyed my first House Wildfire. While these events, and several others, find special places in my heart, Myself continues to be my favorite party of all. So many people are taking a first step at Myself.  Perhaps this is the first time she’s been naked with a bunch of men around.  Perhaps he hasn’t talked about the shape of his cock.  Perhaps we haven’t heard a series of orgasms like that, ever. Maybe they have always wanted an appreciative audience for their sex play. Maybe he can’t even express the fear and joy in his heart when he sees that whip. We’re opening up a bit of ourselves, to be watched, to watch, to come together with our own desires.  Perhaps we never touch each other, or even speak, and yet we are having a very unique experience together.  

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to unique pleasures,

Celia

Here is a very helpful article on calming things down.  I hope you enjoy it!  ~ Celia

By TK, Continuing Education Team CSPC 

Jack just touched Jill’s toy bag and she doesn’t know him. She rushes over and angrily confronts him.
He responds already pissed that he had to move it because she put her stuff on top of his. Your response
determines whether a difficult situation is averted or moves on to become volatile or hostile. The only
way is to have practiced skills ingrained to de-escalate the incident.
Over time, training, and research, I have developed a few pointers that have saved the day. I am not
an aggressive person generally. In fact, I am submissive and have to overcome my basic nature to be
assertive. Conflict and confrontation sends me looking for the nearest exit. However, even the most
passive person can learn to diffuse a crisis.

Orders

I love orders. Orders are a good way to make the submissive playmate take action. This afternoon I received some very sideways orders. My dominant playmate said, “I believe you will wash my rope and bring it back to me.” I wasn't convinced. They had just tied a piece of rope against my labia and around my hips. I was a bit pre-occupied. Was this an order? It was.

I do intend to mostly obey orders from this particular playmate, choosing in each moment to obey or not. The language of this 'order' made me confused. My mind leapt to asking myself if I believe it or not. I didn't believe it. Perhaps I would wash the rope and tie it into a rope cock. Perhaps I would tie it to my bed and make them come and get it. Perhaps.......and my mind was off to a thousand silly possibilities.

The Tapestry

I have often thought of the Center as an umbrella that gives us a place to participate in a vast variety of fun, friendship and support. I've been thinking that an umbrella seems too connected and too uniform to be a good descriptor. Here are some thoughts about the people of the Center as a tapestry.

What does my strand look like? I arrived in Seattle six years ago. I had heard of the Center during my straight veggie oil RV travels with my husband and our children. I was very excited when a friend brought me the first time. I became a watcher. This was back in the days of Grind on Thursday and Pan parties on Saturday. I came, I danced, I grew a few roots. The following year I met a new playmate and started having sex at events (yes, that really took me an entire year!). My thread grew stronger and connected to a few more people.

This is Allena's keynote speech from NW Leather~~

I had a terrible time figuring out what to say. I’ve already done my “It’s About Sex” speech. Then I thought I could talk about 50 Shades of Gray since it’s all the rage right now, but that didn’t work either. I’ve spoken at conferences, on TV, radio, in documentaries and I usually am not at a loss for words (those of you out there who know me, know how true that is). However, I’m not a part of the Master/slave community and while I know that Northwest Leather Celebrations is more than about the Master/slave community it is the primary focus. So, what can I bring to this? I’m a simple bi/poly/switch who knows a lot of people in the M/s community but doesn’t partake of it.

So, I got to thinking, what about this conference stands out and how does it compare to my life, the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle and the greater leather community and its leaders. I initially found two common threads. Perseverance and Personality. The clubs, conferences, organizations that have survived long term have survived because of Perseverance and Personality and then I realized that there was one more P word. Principles. It’s kind of like a three legged stool. All three are important