CSPC HOUSE RULES
Guidelines for Appropriate Conduct
Please read through this short list of guidelines to help make your visit as pleasant as possible.
Diversity and Tolerance
The Center for Sex Positive Culture welcomes everyone, regardless of gender, orientation, play style, relationship choices, race, religion, ability or disability or body type.
Many types of people attend our events, from many different communities within sex-positive culture, and it is important to leave our intolerances at the door. Racist, sexist, homophobic, heterophobic, bi-phobic, gender-phobic, leather-phobic, sex-phobic, size-phobic, ableist, ageist or other prejudiced remarks and attitudes will not be tolerated.
The Center for Sex Positive Culture is open to everyone, regardless of gender, orientation, play style, relationship choices, race, or religion. Many types of people attend our events, from many different communities within sex-positive culture, and it is important to leave our intolerances at the door. Homophobic, heterophobic, bi-phobic, gender-phobic, leather-phobic, sex-phobic, or other biased remarks and attitudes will not be tolerated.
If seeing a particular type of scene makes you uncomfortable, or if there is someone at an event whom you have personal issues with (such as exes or about to be exes), then it is up to you to remove yourself from the situation. Relationship or interpersonal drama is also not tolerated.
No Means No
We are very strict about this rule. We do not allow touching in a sexual or sensual manner without express permission. Do not touch anyone unless you know that the touch is welcome. If someone tells you no (whether it's a request to play or have sex or a request to just talk) please accept their "no" and move on or change the conversation. Do not ask why, or ask if they'll do something else. If you aren't sure, err on the side of caution and don't touch.
Privacy and Confidentiality
We take privacy and confidentiality very seriously. Do not “out'' other people you see here without their consent. Outside of our events, and especially in public contexts or written forums, do not name names, email addresses, or any other specifics that might identify someone that you saw here. At our events, it is advised that you not share personal information, real names, occupations or other specifics that might put another person in a compromised position in their daily lives.
Cell Phones, laptops, tablet computers and other electronic devices are prohibited in the building or on the smoking deck during CSPC events, except at the cashier stations and in the library, unless they are being used by CSPC/FSPC Staff for CSPC/FSPC related business. This includes texting, web-browsing or phone calls. Headsets, blue-tooth devices, pagers and PDAs are also prohibited. All electronic devices must be silenced.
Photographing, videotaping and audio taping are not permitted during a CSPC event without prior permission from the Executive Director or a representative of the Executive Director.
Only Service Animals are allowed in the building during events. Attendees will be asked to sign a Service Animal Agreement each time they bring a Service Animal to an event.
Body fluids and emissions must be properly cleaned up, and equipment must be re-sanitized after use. Cleaning agents, paper towels, etc., are all readily available, and you are welcome to ask a Staff member for assistance if you need assistance.
Whenever you are unclothed, a towel or other barrier should be between you and any furniture you may be sitting on.
These Rules apply to the premises of the CSPC and to all offsite events sponsored by the CSPC unless otherwise posted.
You must be at least 18 years of age to attend any events at the CSPC. Upon request by Event Staff, you must be able to present acceptable picture ID verifying your age. Current accepted forms of ID include a valid state driver license or instructional permit with a photo; a valid DMV ID card with photo, name, date of birth & physical description from any state; a valid passport or a valid U.S. military ID card.
The consumption or use of alcohol, marijuana, poppers or other recreational, illegal or controlled substances is prohibited on the premises of the CSPC - including the parking lot and the smoking deck. Further - anyone appearing to be impaired or otherwise intoxicated may not be admitted to events, and may be asked to leave the premises.
There is no smoking in the building or the breezeway, including electronic cigarettes. There is a fenced smoking area on the south side of the main space. Please dispose of ashes and cigarette butts properly.
Offering or agreeing to any sexual service for money is strictly forbidden (including, but not limited to, prostitution and professional domination).
No firearms are allowed on the premises. This includes any gun-like object that looks in any way like a real gun, no matter the material or color. Only the Executive Director may issue an exception to this rule.
You must be dressed in appropriate street attire whenever entering or leaving our building, in the cashier areas. in the library, or whenever you can be seen from outside the building. There is no loitering allowed in front of the building at any time.
Parking is allowed in front of our building and along the south side of our building at most times. We will not be held responsible if you are towed for parking illegally. There is evening parking in the lot to the north of us. Do not park in front of the nearby businesses when they are open. Do not block ANY driveways, gates or exits.
Sexual behavior is not allowed on the premises outside of the buildings. This includes the parking lots and the smoking deck. “Sexual behavior” includes bdsm/kink play or sex of any kind.
Do not affix anything to the walls, attach anything to the ceilings, or move furniture or equipment (except chairs) without first getting permission or assistance from a Staff member. Only certified hard-points are to be used for suspension purposes.
- The House Safeword is “safeword”. Use of this word could result in staff intervention.
If you wish to join a scene in progress, you must have prior permission from the participants. Do not interrupt a scene to ask to play, or for any other reason.
Unless an area is designated “non-voyeur,” you may politely watch what other attendees are doing, but always give the participants plenty of space so you don't interfere with or disrupt their scene. In particular, do not stand in doorways to watch scenes or carry on loud conversations close to the play area.
Event attendees are welcome to use the shower. If you want to “scene” in the shower, let a Monitor know.
Remember that not everyone can tolerate strong scents and perfumes, and that some people are allergic to them. Please keep your use of scents to a minimum.
Clean up after yourself, both in the social areas as well as the play areas. Please ask a Staff member for help if you've spilled something and need assistance in cleaning it up. When using the beds, please take the time to make the bed with a clean sheet before using it. Sheets, towels, etc should be placed in the laundry bins after use.
Safer sex is always highly recommended. We are all adults, and should know the degree of safety required for safe play. A wide variety of safer sex supplies are available free of charge, so that you will be able to meet whatever your mutually understood safer sex standards are.
If you feel that particular rules or guidelines are not being followed, if a person appears inadequately experienced for the type of play they are doing, or if you observe someone behaving inappropriately, then advise a Staff member of your concerns. Do not intervene on your own.
Prohibited and Restricted Activities
The Center for Sex Positive Culture encourages the exploration and celebration of the many facets of human sexuality. Unfortunately, we are not able to allow the following activities:
- Fire Play, Fire Cupping and Candle-Wax Play *These activities are allowed only with a permit issued by the City of Seattle. Cell popping, branding and heated wax play are still allowed.
- Solid state power supply electrical “wands”. *All of the solid state power supply type "wands" are currently banned. This includes the Kinklabs neon wand, the Nova violet wand, the Sian violet ray device, and all other similar devices.
- Significant oxygen deprivation *Covering someone's nose, mouth, or gas-mask opening is permitted as long as breath is not restricted to the point of unconsciousness. Gags, hoods, collars and other head gear are fine so long as they do not significantly impair the wearer’s ability to breathe.
- Intentional significant carotid artery compression *Choke/sleeper holds
- “Scat play”
For the safety and comfort of all of our attendees, we ask that certain activities be discussed with the Event Coordinator prior to your scene.
- Solo Play *We ask that you not masturbate to a scene in progress or engage in solo masturbatory play unless the rules of the event specifically allow these activities.
- Suspension *Not all events allow suspensions. ALWAYS check in with an Event Coordinator before proceeding with a suspension. *Please see the section labeled “Suspension Rules”.
- Blood Play, Takedown Resistance or “Forced” Sex Play *Please consult with the Event Coordinator prior to your scene. The Event Coordinator has the authority to approve or deny these activities.
- Loud, potentially disruptive or potentially messy scenes *Not all events allow this type of play. Please consult with the EC and alert the Monitor on duty of any protective measures required.
All suspensions, including partial-suspensions and self-suspensions, must be approved in advance by the Event Coordinator. The Event Coordinator may exercise their judgment taking into consideration several factors on where, when or whether a suspension may take place.
Examples of factors include: The nature of the party/event, availability of Monitors and staff, and the Event Coordinator’s own personal experience and/or knowledge of the player(s).
The Event Coordinator may not delegate this decision to other staff.
In order to do suspensions at the CSPC participants must supply all of their own equipment. The CSPC provides only the attachment point at the ceiling, wall, and/or the rack or frame. Everything else is the responsibility of the participants. The participants are responsible for knowing their equipment's strength, safety, and condition.
When requesting to do a suspension the participants must be able to articulate to the event coordinator's satisfaction how they will raise and lower a person. The Event Coordinator may ask to inspect the person's equipment for items that are not allowed.
Mats must be used when:
● A person is hanging from the equipment under their own power;
● A person is climbing, or plans to climb, on the suspendee Exception: A person may sit or lean on a partner who is suspended without the use of a mat.
1. Rope or straps directly in contact with any of the CSPC's metal hard points. Participants must supply their own metal connection to ceiling hard points and are responsible for their equipment's condition.
Reason: The Center’s hard points are not routinely checked for roughness. Rope or materials susceptible to abrasion may get damaged.
2. Open hooks or carabiners.
3. Items labeled or designated as "Not for overhead lifting" or "Not for overhead lifting of persons." Examples may include: Ratchet straps, winches, etc.
Further Guidelines for Approving Suspensions:
Individual ECs may have different guidelines for approving suspensions depending on their own knowledge and/or comfort zone. These are to be respected as criterion for the evening.
The EC may request that you:
● Use mats;
● Have scissors, or the equivalent, available and visible;
● Have a spotter (exception: Self suspensions must have a spotter)
● Have to be “hard-bound” to the rig before going up.
On-duty Staff members can be identified by their colored CSPC badges. All of our Staff members are here to help you. If you have a problem or a question, you are welcome to ask one of them for assistance.
A Staff member may ask you stop an activity:
- If the staff member believes that your actions present an imminent and unreasonable danger to yourself, your partner, other members, or the property of the CSPC.
- If there is some other circumstance or outside influence that necessitates an interruption.
If a Staff member asks you to stop an activity, you must do so at once. If you disagree with the request, you are welcome to talk to the Event Coordinator, but please do not argue with the Staff member.
A Staff member may ask you to leave the premises for:
- Disobeying our rules or engaging in illegal activity
- Refusing to produce acceptable identification or fill out a Release Form
- Disorderly conduct or harassment of another attendee
Failure to abide by event or facility rules may also result in suspension or revocation of membership.
All CSPC Members are permitted to bring non-member guests to our events. The number of guests you are allowed to bring, and the price for attendance, is outlined in your membership documents.
The following rules and restrictions apply:
Members are required to arrive with or before their guests and the guests must depart when the member leaves.
Guests may attend events for one year before they are required to become a CSPC member.
Anyone bringing a guest is responsible for the behavior of their guest. Please be sure your guests are familiar with our rules and be sure they have a full understanding of where they are going before they arrive (so they are making an informed choice about whether attending might be right for them).
All guests must show valid government issued, picture ID showing they over the age of 18.
Guests not escorted by a member (at an event “open to the public” or as a guest of the CSPC with permission from our Executive Director) are expected to abide by the same rules as guests of members.
We are here to help
CSPC staff is committed to providing the best possible experience for all of our members.
Please let us know if:
You have been touched in a non-consensual way;
You have been “outed” by another member;
You are being harassed or approached repeatedly after saying “No”;
You believe that someone at the event is intoxicated or impaired;
You discover a broken piece of furniture or equipment;
You feel that a member or guest at an event is in violation of our House Rules.
Important Contact Information
Phone: (206) 270-9746