People often ask me why sex work shouldn’t be a crime. They tell me it’s dangerous, that they think it’s disgusting or humiliating, and that they wouldn’t want their children doing it. They say that it’s degrading to women, that nobody really chooses to do it, and that it has negative effects on society. Sometimes they even tell me that sex is special, that a woman is spiritually damaged by being paid for it, or that sex work is against their religion. They say a lot of things, and yet they can never explain why having sex for one certain reason is worse than having it for other reasons.
When you say that sex work should be a crime, what you’re saying is that a certain motive, a specific thought in a person’s mind, can make a good act into an evil one. According to current laws, it’s perfectly alright if I have sex with someone for love, or to have babies, or for fun, or for friendship. But if I have it because I’ve got bills to pay, that idea in my mind makes the sex so dangerous the state has the right to send armed men to stop me and lock me in a cage. Continue reading