By Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake

Welcome back, dear ones.  Thank you for continuing this journey through the complexities of Consent.

For this edition, we decided to ponder how to make consent communication as hot as possible.  It’s our considered opinion that any communication can be hot - it all depends on what’s said and how it’s said.

Remember that mutual enjoyment is the goal.  A sense of humor and an open mind will serve you well.

Talk with your partner(s) about words that light your fire.  What do you call your private parts?  You know which words get you ready for action.  Maybe just hearing a word like tool or johnson gets you hot and bothered.  Maybe talking about a bush or a pussy gets your juices flowing.  Talk, share, and have fun!

Will you create a scenario for your activities?  What roles will be played?  How will we interact?  Your imagination can be useful in creating a satisfying interaction.

How will you know when you’re done?  Safewords can send a signal to your partner(s).  The word “red” can indicate that you want to stop now.  The word “yellow” can mean that you want to slow down what’s going on and ask your partner(s) to check in with you.  

Nonverbal signals can be quite useful, too, when speaking is difficult.  Think about wrestling, where a person taps out of a situation.

Got a signal for us?  Send it to info@thecspc.org.