Conflict Resolution Coordinator Handoff

Hi fellow CSPC Members! This is Skitty, your HR Director and Conflict Resolution Coordinator. I have been volunteering in these roles (as well as additional roles) for years. This has been a lot of heavy lifting, for a very long time. So, I will be stepping back from the position of Conflict Resolution Coordinator at the 8/13/25 Board Meeting. That may seem like a long time off, but from a handoff sense, there isn’t a moment to lose. 

You may be thinking, “I didn’t know we had a Conflict Resolution Coordinator. What even is that?” Here’s an overview. The Conflict Resolution Coordinator:

  • leads the Incident Handling Team

  • designs and improves incident handling tools and processes

  • collaborates with volunteers in other areas of the CSPC to resolve incidents and reduce the likelihood of future occurrences

  • actively designs CSPC policies to promote a culture of consent

Over the past few years, there has been a lot of growth in how we handle consent incidents at the CSPC. I am continuing to lay the groundwork for a team approach to conflict resolution and incident handling that wasn’t viable in the past. My plan is to have a solid, well-functioning structure in place prior to the August handoff. 

Hopefully you are thinking, “What can I do to help?” I’m glad you asked. Here’s what we need:

  • Keep practicing consent!

  • Keep speaking up when something looks or feels nonconsensual or just “wrong.”

    • preferably in the moment, communicate your concerns to those involved and to those who can help problem solve (including Monitors, ECs, and Discord Mods)

    • if you are not able to reach resolution, file an incident report or Discord ticket

  • Educate yourself! The opportunities are endless.

  • Volunteer - your ideas, your time, your expertise.

  • If you are already volunteering, train for a position of greater responsibility.

  • If you wish to volunteer with the Conflict Resolution Team, email hrdirector@thecspc.org

    • Heads-up:

      • volunteering with this team requires you to initiate each step

      • you need to self-direct and follow through

      • an ongoing commitment is required

      • willingness to maintain impartiality and confidentiality are mandatory

  • If you are already part of the team and are interested in being the next Conflict Resolution Coordinator, email hrdirector@thecspc.org.

I will continue to share more information between now and August. Stay tuned!

Additional Changes for New Member Orientation offerings

We have made some new adjustments to when we offer New Member Orientation based on community feedback, volunteer availability, and event host suggestions. 

Back in April, both Power Play Mixed-Tape and The Grind events ceased to include a New Member Orientation (NMO). These parties now begin one hour earlier and end one hour earlier. 

NEW! We have added Myself! to the list of no-NMO parties. Check the Event Listing for more info!

We are hosting our first in-person New Member Orientation and social hour at the Gallery on June 4th, 2025. If you’re interested in becoming a member and the idea of attending a full party feels like a lot, we encourage you to check out this new NMO format as a gentler introduction to the CSPC and our community.

If you are interested in becoming a NMO leader, please email volunteerliaison@thecspc.org to get more information!

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in every issue. If you have an event suggestion or feedback from a past event you’ve attended, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

Editor’s note for all events*

As a reminder, these are non-CSPC events. We include them as a way to open your mind to other experiences, but we have no control over them, their content, or their missions. We encourage you to vet other organizations to see if they are places you would feel comfortable, and we appreciate feedback if we have listed an organization/event that does not appear to uphold CSPC values.


May 15–17

puppets: a coming of age story about identity and acceptance ($10–$34 | in person)

puppets is a bold dramedy exploring identity, stigma, and ostracization through the eyes of Noelle who is navigating self-discovery. Written and directed by a University of Washington student as her human rights thesis, this original Seattle theatre production challenges societal misconceptions and sheds light on the struggles of those whose desires don’t fit the norm.

May 22

Papaya Project | Sex Trivia ($10–$20 | in person)

This monthly event is the best way to learn about and celebrate pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex! Trivia questions cover a wide variety of sex and sexuality-related topics, so get ready to challenge yourself, learn something new, and have a good time. A portion of each ticket will be donated to the Seattle Dyke Alliance, a great local organization that runs Seattle’s annual dyke march, along with other community events. 

May 18

Lionesse: The Sacred Slut Circle ($55 | in person)

The Sacred Slut Circle is your invitation to reclaim your pleasure and step into your full expression. This monthly gathering for women and feminine beings is designed to help you reconnect with your sensuality, embrace pleasure and feel deeply rooted in your sexuality. In this ritual space, we shed shame and embrace radical self-acceptance of our erotic selves. Each month, rituals focus on a different theme of erotic embodiment, facilitated by myself and other sex witches, mischief makers and pleasure priestesses. Imagine shedding the shame that holds you back, embracing your body fully and reconnecting with your pleasure in a way that feels powerful, playful and unapologetic.

May 31

Pan Eros | Queering Tantra: Queer and Trans-focused solo Tantra and Touch ($60–$75 | in person)

This playful Tantric workshop, just for solo queer and trans attendees, covers meditation, relaxing breathwork, and how to touch yourself for healing and pleasure. You'll fill in gaps that mainstream scripts miss, and prepare to take yourself on a hot date. We’ll set the stage for your self-date night, dream up sensuous spaces to arouse your senses, and get you in touch with more facets of your sexuality. Tantric principles, viewed through a queer and kinky lens, will illuminate new aspects of your own pleasure.

June 7

Beacon Cinema | Best of SECS Fest ($13 | in person)

Ready for an evening of very hot, very queer sex? Sure you are! BEST OF SECS FEST presents ten short films from the 2024 edition of Seattle's annual, sex-positive festival of international art-porn. This compilation features such carnal delights as... horny puppets, shadowy theaters, BDSM rituals, human furniture, licked boots, beaten meat, sustained eye contact, networked jacking, villa cruising, and plenty of butt stuff. Founded by the Seattle Erotica Cinema Society in 2016, SECS Fest celebrates a diverse range of sexually explicit representations, finding beauty in erotic difference and inspiring adult conversations about sex.

June 7

Abbey Arts | The QUEER Not-Creepy Gathering for People who want to Fall in Love ($10–$30 | in person)

This structured event specifically for the queer community is not about scrolling and swiping and making snap decisions based solely on physical appearance. This event is about being open enough to see each other's humanity. You might meet your new boo! Or you might not. You might meet your new bestie or protest buddy. Or you might just leave feeling more connected to your community and more connected to yourself. Bring a notebook!

Search for a Certified Public Accountant!

The CSPC Treasurer is seeking a Certified Public Accountant (CPA) to assist with filing our 2024 taxes.

Details:

This is a one-time engagement request to prepare and file the 990 form for non-profits. There is potential for an ongoing relationship to support our future annual tax filings. This would be paid based on a negotiated hourly rate and invoiced as an independent contractor. We have an extension until November of this year and will be conducting a search over the next few months.

Candidate Requirements:

  • Licensed CPA 

  • Familiar with IRS compliance for non-profits specifically social clubs 501(c)(7) organizations

  • Detail-oriented and responsive

  • Able to provide references or examples of similar work

  • Comfortable with government name being attached to the CSPC

If interested, please email treasurer@thecspc.org with the subject: "CPA Needed" 

In the body include a brief description of your experience, if you are self employed or work for a company, and how long you have been certified. No need to attach a full résumé.

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in every issue. If you have an event suggestion or feedback from a past event you’ve attended, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

Editor’s note for all events*

As a reminder, these are non-CSPC events. We include them as a way to open your mind to other experiences, but we have no control over them, their content, or their missions. We encourage you to vet other organizations to see if they are places you would feel comfortable. 

April 16

North End Makers | Be Gay, Do Crafts (free | in person)

An LGBTQ+ craft night. Bring your projects and craft in community! North End Makerspace is an inclusive, volunteer-run nonprofit organization dedicated to helping people make cool stuff. 

April 19

Pan Eros | Hypnokink Enthusiast's Trance Night ($30–$50 | in person)

Welcome to the bi-monthly hypnokink-themed play party! We have demos, trance tastings, and group trance play. We also have spaces for quiet coupled trance play, hypnosis-themed BDSM play, and for trancey, sexy time. There is also a nice social area. Trance play is allowed everywhere. This party is hosted by VisibleRestraint and is a fundraising opportunity: 100% of ticket sales benefit the Pan Eros Foundation.

April 20

Papaya Project | Sex Trivia ($10–$20 | in person)

This monthly event is the best way to learn about and celebrate pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex! Trivia questions cover a wide variety of sex and sexuality-related topics, so get ready to challenge yourself, learn something new, and have a good time. A portion of each ticket will be donated to the Queer Sick Pay Fund (qSPF). This fund provides sick pay to queer performers in nightlife spaces who live and work in Seattle, WA. NOTE: This is a repeat of Sex Trivia on April 9th @ Stoup Cap Hill. Only choose one of the two events to attend!

May 2

Beacon Cinema: SECS Fest Presents Fongaluli ($13 | in person)

Behold Fongaluli, the wild and adventurous fairy-tale odyssey of Professor Wurtsis, a scientist obsessed with breeding animals of different species together. His research has brought him to a tropical island where he experiences the LSD-like sensation of the Fongaluli leaf and witnesses the transformation of a lobster into a gorgeous and eager young woman, then back again. Professor and lobster set out in search of the Island of Fongaluli, and their adventure leads to encounters with all manners of strange things including the evil Fongawitch and her orgy-practicing disciples. SECS Fest, an annual sex-positive festival celebrating the artistry of erotic cinema, will be held at the Beacon Cinema in Fall 2025!

May 2–4 

Seattle Erotic Art Festival ($23–$350 | in person)

The annual weekend-long event that showcases erotic art in diverse media including painting, photography, sculpture, film, literature, and interactive installations. A wide range of performance art is also represented, including burlesque, ballroom dance, circus arts, and live music. Not to be missed!

May 9

Emerald City Trapeze | Silver Linings ($28–$65 | in person)

In partnership with Versatile Arts, SANCA and Emerald City Trapeze Arts proudly host their first Silver Foxes Spectacular, where seasoned performers defy gravity, time, and societal expectations! Experience the excitement as these incredible artists take to the air, showcasing breathtaking flying trapeze, mesmerizing aerial acts, and awe-inspiring circus arts!

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in every issue. If you have an event suggestion or feedback from a past event you’ve attended, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

Editor’s note for all events*

As a reminder, these are non-CSPC events. We include them as a way to open your mind to other experiences, but we have no control over them, their content, or their missions. We encourage you to vet other organizations to see if they are places you would feel comfortable. 

March 15

Hypnokink Enthusiast Group (suggested $10 donation | in person)

Have you thought about including hypnosis in your kink or sex life? Infinitely adaptable, you can use hypnosis to enhance arousal, do bondage without restraints, build fear play and mindf*ck scenes, strengthen D/s training, increase relaxation for sensual scenes, and much more!

Doors open at 1pm, and we start our programming at 1:15pm with introductions, icebreaker activities, and demos. For details on the theme of one of our meetings, you can visit the Seattle Hypnokink Enthusiasts FetLife group at https://fetlife.com/groups/53446 or email heg@pan-eros.org.

March 20

Papaya Project | Sex Trivia ($10–$20 | in person)

This monthly event is the best way to learn about and celebrate pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex! Trivia questions cover a wide variety of sex and sexuality-related topics, so get ready to challenge yourself, learn something new, and have a good time. A portion of each ticket will be donated to the Healing Retreat for Survivors of Child Sexual Trauma, taking place from June 12-15, 2025 at The Whidbey Institute. NOTE: This is a repeat of Sex Trivia on March 12th @ Stoup Cap Hill. Only choose one of the two events to attend!

March 20

Lumberyard Bar: ABDL Night (free | in person)

Seattle's ABDL bar event, Diapers and Drinks, returns to the Lumber Yard on Thursday March 20. It's a school night, so this time we'll be ending at 12am. King Corvid and Lil B will be DJing all night, we'll be handing out free diaper samples, there will be an area to store your vanilla clothes, and the bar will be serving our themed drink, ABDLemonade. We'll also be setting up a private space for diaper changes! Come out and enjoy an evening of diapered fun with us.

March 22

Pan Eros: Practical Application of Floggers ($45–$100 | in person)

Want to create a great flogging scene? Not sure about the basics? Know the basics inside-and-out but think there might be something more? This experiential flogging workshop is for anybody that thinks they've got something to learn. We'll discuss the foundations, practice basic and non-basic strokes, and cover how to turn it all from a collection of techniques into a scene.

March 22 and 26

Beacon Cinema: SECS Fest Presents The Visitor ($13 | in person)

The Visitor is a British-set reimagining of Pier Paolo Pasolini’s 1968 film Teorema. Pasolini’s enigmatic protagonist, known to everyone as “the visitor”, arrives at the house of an upper-class family and seduces each family member one after the other. When he suddenly departs, he leaves behind an emptiness for which the rest attempt to compensate in different ways. The Seattle Erotica Cinema Society brings world-class erotic films to Seattle audiences throughout the year, inspiring diverse communities to engage in adult conversations about sex. SECS Fest, an annual sex-positive festival celebrating the artistry of erotic cinema, will be held at the Beacon Cinema in Fall 2025!

April 10–12

Theatre Off Jackson: Sweaty Thots ($10–$20 | in person)

Matthew Reynolds bares all in this hilarious, heartbreaking and inspiring sharing of his life story as he emerges into his biggest, fullest, brightest self. Meet important figures in Matthew’s life, including Sissy and Isidor (of ReBar fame!) A performance of transformation, sparkle, and an invitation to find your JOY! Afro Puff Girls Unite – APGUFS, WORLD WIDE!

Applications Open for Discord Moderators

  • Do you enjoy hanging out in the CSPC Discord server and want to make it a better place to be? 

  • Do you have experience moderating online groups or servers? 

  • Do you have a solid foundation of knowledge around consent practices and how to enact them in digital spaces? 

You may be a good candidate to help moderate our Discord server! Check out the job description here, and submit an application using the link in the document. We are so excited to build up our moderation team, and look forward to what our membership has to bring. 

Questions? Email Ari at communicationsdirector@thecspc.org. 

We Want to Hear From You

Thanks so much to all the folks who turned out for our March board meeting this past Wednesday evening! We always appreciate getting to hear from the community, especially when there’s something that you’re passionate about.

If you have ideas, thoughts, or concerns, please bring them to a Board member you trust at any time; you don’t have to wait for a Board meeting! You can find email addresses on the Board directory, or fill out a feedback form and use the last question to request someone contact you (you have to provide contact info though, if that’s something you want). If you know a Board member who is on Discord, feel free to ask to DM them, and respect their boundaries around when and where they choose to discuss CSPC business. Please keep in mind that everyone is volunteering their time and can’t always be on call to handle CSPC business immediately, and everyone is doing their best to respond to things in a timely manner.

Lastly, if you have reached out and feel you’re not being heard, please email the Board President directly at Jadzia@thecspc.org. Thank you to everyone for your contributions and ideas for making our community a better place! 

Call for Community Resource Articles

Hi all, Ari here (your Communications Director). I’ve been hearing a call for more community resources to be made available online around various topics including how to vet play partners, ways to practice consent, and sexual health. I want to take this opportunity to tap into the vast knowledge of this community and start building that up! To that end, I want to start collecting articles written by the CSPC membership, for the CSPC membership (and also people who happen to come across our website). 

If you have a topic that you’re knowledgeable on, an experience you had (good or bad) and how you dealt with it, or any information that you think could serve the community, please write it up and send it to communicationsdirector@thecspc.org. If you’ve written up any extensive responses to questions on Discord and just want to copy and paste that into an article, do that!  

Logistics:

A name of your choosing will be attached to the piece, and it will live on our website and appear in the next newsletter following the submission’s approval. Please don’t name anyone other than yourself in these pieces (Person A and Person B are great ways to anonymize stories!). As consent is revocable, if an article of yours is posted and you want us to remove it, just email and we’ll take it down within three days. 


Questions? Comments? Email!