by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake 

Hello sexy readers! We hope you’re enjoying the lovely crisp weather that means November.  It’s fall and the trees are showing us how to let go of what we no longer need.  

Are you thinking that it might be time to add some new fun to your life? We’re talking about good consensual fun, of course.  

Adding something new might mean letting something else go. Marie Kondo suggests letting things go while thanking them for what they have brought to you. That sounds about right.

You may want to let go of old beliefs that are no longer serving you well. Maybe you could replace beliefs that begin with “I can’t…” to “I can…” or “I choose not to…”.  Beliefs that start with “If only…” or “I should…” might also be ripe for review and consideration.

While you’re pondering letting things go, here’s an important fact. Did you know that those expiration dates on condoms are for real? The material they’re made of can degrade or rot over time. Small holes in that material can make them unfit for their intended purposes and cause considerable grief to all involved. Toss them out, please!  

Embarking on new consensual adventures can be both exciting and scary. It might mean considering what assumptions you bring to the experience. Clearing away what no longer serves you well makes space to work on creating a consent framework that’s as beautiful and supportive as possible.  

Homework: think about a recent experience when you became aware of an assumption that turned out to be unfounded. Gently let it go, and then share it with us at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel