by Eirikah Delaunay

One of the core values of the CSPC is inclusive community building. Our identity as a sex positive community center is one of our defining qualities. The CSPC is created by members, for members. This means that all the work of organizing and staffing parties, communications and website management, fundraising and email answering is done by members who volunteer to share their time, energy, and skills to support the community. We are also fortunate to be supported by members who may not have the capacity to volunteer their time, but who contribute financially above and beyond their membership fees and party ticket purchases.

We strive to be a welcoming and inclusive space for the diverse individuals who seek out sex positive community. What can you do as a member (or volunteer) to help create the culture of belonging we all want to experience?

First, when you attend events, make an effort to talk with folx you don’t already know, especially folx who seem like they might be there alone. It takes a lot of courage to break into a new social group, and you can be the person who makes that newcomer feel welcome and connected. 

But what do you say to a total stranger at a sex party? Especially if you don’t want to come off as creepy? That’s not as tough as it sounds. Consider starting with a compliment. Telling someone you like their hair or shoes or outfit (not a body part) is a great ice breaker. You might also begin with a question that can get a conversation rolling, like “How long have you been a member?” or “How did you find the CSPC?” Be sure you share your name and pronouns, and ask them for theirs.

Those tactics also work if you’re a newer member and you’re trying to meet people. You might also ask members who have been around a little longer what their favorite party is and why, or what’s the most memorable scene they ever saw at an event. (Remember, no names unless it was your own scene! Confidentiality still applies.)

Our new online discussion group, finding YOUR way, is another great way to connect with people in the community as a newer member–or as a more established member who has been away for a while (think building change and COVID lockdown…).

And if you’re not yet a volunteer, there’s no time like the present! As our membership continues to grow, we want to be able to offer more and more parties tailored to what turns our members on, and that means we need YOU! Every party starts as the fantasy of a Champion, and every party requires a full staff of set up and strike, registration, D.J.s, monitors, and event coordinators to make attendees’ dreams come true. We’re also always looking for more people to help out with the behind-the-scenes work as well, including Board roles. Get started with your online volunteer orientation and application today! Our next online registration and monitor training session is Monday, August 22, from 7-9pm. Join us!

The CSPC community is as strong as we make it, and our differences make us stronger. Thanks so much for all the ways that you take care of each other and our community, and for all the ways you bring connection and hotness into each others’ lives.