The Frolic: Bittersweet Farewell

by Mina (she/her), Co-Director

TL;DR: It is with mixed feelings that I announce that the Frolic event has been discontinued. I recommend checking out Kinky Acres WA and their outdoor Spring/Summer events on FetLife! If interested in discussing potential options for hosting a small outdoor event within the CSPC, I encourage volunteers to reach out to the Events Director at eventsdirector@thecspc.org. 

The Frolic group on FetLife and the designated channels in the CSPC Discord server will become inactive and archived at the end of January 2026. 

My intention of the following writing is to break the glass. I’m more than a name on the Directory page, more than a volunteer. I’m a guarded introvert that believes everyone deserves to have a safe place to be themselves, and I enthusiastically devote a lot of time and energy to make that happen within this organization, as do so many other folx within our community. So this is me taking up space, taking a leap of vulnerability, and sharing maybe a little too much of my humanness.


A Little More Personal | Content Warning: Bereavement, Mental Health

Where: Hugo House

Music: “You Know I Can’t” - Josh Kramer, Shades of Grey

After volunteering in various roles for The Frolic three years in a row, I can say that it was an event like no other for me. Its unique space fulfilled my needs of community, kink, and self-care. I was able to share an intimacy and vulnerability that I typically wouldn’t have felt inspired or comfortable enough to do at a play event. Through shared meals, classes, and scenes, I experienced connections in a gentle but raw and primal sense.

I had the privilege of co-directing the 2024 event with Turtle (as perceived), a long-time volunteer with The CSPC. Without her creativity, passion, and steadfast support for this 6-day, 5-night event, I believe it would not have succeeded as well as it did while she held leadership roles in 2023 and 2024. After doubling our volunteer staff in 2024, both Co-Directors and 50 Lead and Core volunteers gave their all and then some, leaving too many of us hollow by the end of it. And yet, we still wanted to come back again the following year; volunteers and attendees giving immediate feedback and alternatives to strengthen this space of exploration. When Turtle announced her leave of absence from volunteering for personal needs, I felt anxious taking this on without her but optimistic about the future.

A few short months later, that optimism and excitement was suffocated by a sickly moment of dark surprise, seasoned with a series of unfortunate events. My younger sister had passed away and I had to announce that Frolic 2025 was on hiatus. If you know, you know how twilight zone grief can feel (“a feeling of being disconnected from reality, where things seem ‘off’ or you're just zoning out into a daydream”). For the last year, I have been avoidant of my reality, taking a large step back in volunteering, keeping only a small thread to feel anchored in the dark comfort of isolation. 

While I hope to be more involved in the future, I’m protecting my fragile peace by walking away from projects that ask more than I’m able to give. Thank you for all the support and memories during my time with Frolic. I hope to make more memories one day with new outdoor adventures.

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If so, please check out the flyer below!

For more info, or to sign up: email Claire Sanchez, MA, Ph.D. Candidate, Meridian University eroticritualandemotionstudy@protonmail.com

Ticket Cap Reminder

With cold and flu season rapidly approaching (if it isn’t already here), we want to remind you that in the months of December, January, and February we will be capping parties at 100 tickets. This is especially important for the parties that sell out consistently — looking at you, Fresh Meet and LaQueer — and will also mean that parties that don’t usually sell out might do so in these months! We encourage you to grab tickets early if you want to attend parties, and take advantage of the Ticket Transfers channel in the Discord server if you are looking for last-minute tickets or want to offload tickets you bought. 

Another great way to get into parties is to become a volunteer and sign up for events! You can find more about how to get started as a volunteer on our website. Please note that the volunteer approval process is not instantaneous, so get started soon so you’ll be ready to go when your favorite party hits the calendar. You have to have an active membership in order to volunteer, so make sure you’re up to date before you submit your volunteer application. 

Lastly, thank y’all so much for continuing to stay home when you’re not feeling well. It’s a huge bummer to miss a party, but we see everyone taking the necessary steps to protect yourselves and each other, and the community is a lot better for it. 

Stay safe and stay sexy, even in the depths of cold and flu season! 

Event Arrivals and Departures

Arrival Reminder

When attending an event with a New Member Orientation (NMO), please be aware of your impact. If you arrive while the NMO is still in progress, keep noise levels to a minimum. Talk only as loud as necessary to complete registration. 

Once you move from the registration area to the main area, please wait quietly for the NMO to end. Save conversation for when the event has started or take it outside the building. 

If the downstairs is open, you may proceed there to socialize, put your items in lockers, or use the restrooms. Please be aware that play is not permitted before the event start time and that early admittance to the downstairs is not always possible due to the demands of setup. 

Members are welcome to attend NMO with a regular member ticket, just let the registration volunteer know that you are a member so they can look for your name on the correct registration list.


End of Event Reminder

All play should wrap up at least 15 minutes prior to the end of the event. Attendees should be ready to exit the building by the event’s listed end time.

The only people remaining in the building after the listed end time should be volunteers involved in strike, trash removal, or with Event Coordinator permission, such as attendees waiting in the reception area for their transportation to arrive or to provide transportation for a volunteer. 

This is not a new rule, rather it is a return to enforcing our already existing policy. Thank you for your understanding.

So You Want to Be a Board Member?

By Skitty

Fantastic! The Center for Sex Positive Culture needs you. You are the Center. The Board is always looking for folx who want to step up, take on more responsibility, and help chart a path forward for this organization that we all love so passionately. To assist with getting you more involved, here are some things you should know.

Why does the CSPC have a Board of Directors?

The Center for Sex Positive Culture is a 501(c)(7) nonprofit, operated in a manner consistent with maintaining that tax-exempt status. We are a membership-based community center for the benefit of sex-positive culture, focusing on Seattle and the surrounding areas. Here is our mission statement:

  • The Center for Sex Positive Culture creates spaces to celebrate, develop, and explore sexuality and sensuality among a diverse, supportive community.

We are required to have a working Board of Directors, including the Executive Offices of President, Vice President, Secretary, and Treasurer, with a minimum of seven Directors. We may also have up to two Community Directors (chosen by Membership).

What do individual Board Members do?

  • Board members typically volunteer between 10 and 40 hours per week, on top of attending events and any other volunteer roles they take on (such as EC, Champion, Online Host, etc.). 

  • Basic duties include:

    • participating in weekly Board video calls

    • preparing for, and attendance at, the monthly Board Meeting

    • engaging in a yearly Board Retreat (intensive, day-long work meeting)

    • serving on committees and disappearing task forces (DTFs)(e.g., building committee, document creation/revision DTF)

    • managing special initiatives

    • participating in fundraising by volunteering as staff, donating or procuring items, or making financial contributions

    • directing recurring seasonal events (e.g., CSPC Pride, the Frolic)

    • attending/leading one-on-one and small group meetings

    • answering emails — so many emails!

    • writing reports, creating documents, compiling spreadsheets

    • monitoring CSPC social media, engaging when necessary, and keeping a professional tone and attitude

    • liaising with other organizations and individuals sharing a similar or related mission

  • Executive Officers (President, Vice President, Secretary, Treasurer) and Division Directors (Events, HR, Operations, and Communications) all handle a ton more responsibilities related to their role, contributing many additional volunteer hours per week.

  • All Board Members are expected to take on an initiative of their choosing, or a Directorship, or an Executive Office, after a few months of settling in and getting a feel for the basic responsibilities of being a Board Member.

What qualifications does a person need in order to be a Board Member?

There is a lot of flexibility with respect to the qualifications required to be a Board Member. This is on purpose — to help remove barriers and promote diversity in leadership. That said, a few things are necessary.

All Board Members must be willing to:

  • consistently devote productive time to the CSPC

  • maintain communication with the other Directors

  • serve the three-year term for which they have been elected

  • allow their full legal name to be made available in public record

  • provide their current address, phone numbers, and email address to the Board

  • fill out a conflict of interest form, understand the implications of their personal, financial, and other volunteer relationships, and be willing to answer questions about those relationships

  • maintain an active CSPC membership

  • execute the documentation required for membership and Board participation

Recommended qualifications:

  • minimum one year of active CSPC membership

  • extensive volunteer experience within the CSPC, including leadership positions (demonstrates characteristics required for successful Board participation)

  • periodic attendance at Board Meetings (demonstrates an interest in, and understanding of, the workings of the CSPC)

  • work experience relevant to the role of Board Member

  • volunteer experience outside of the CSPC

  • education, apprenticeships, certifications (in whatever — all of these really do count!)

  • life experience and the ability to demonstrate how that is applicable

What are the characteristics of a successful Board Member?

The CSPC is a diverse community and so are Board Members. That said, there are a number of characteristics needed to be successful and effective:

  • consistently demonstrate a solid understanding and application of consent culture, commitment to consent culture, and a willingness to engage in ongoing consent education

  • demonstrate an impeccable practice of confidentiality

  • behave with emotional intelligence

  • when applicable, disagree productively in the appropriate venue

  • ability to collaborate and communicate electronically or have a willingness to learn how to use Proton, Google Drive, docs, spreadsheets, forms, etc.

  • consistently represent the organization, adhering to the mission statement and House Rules

  • think and act independently

  • be highly motivated

  • be reliable

  • be dependable

  • follow through on commitments, responsibilities, and projects

What else do I need to know before applying?

Volunteering as a Board Member is an enormous responsibility. It is not for the faint of heart. You will be a public-facing representative of the organization, both within our events, and outside of the community. Much of your work will go unrecognized and will often be criticized. There will be much you cannot speak about publicly — ever. It will change the way you interact with the rest of the community. Some of the things you can do as a regular Member, you cannot do as a Board Member. For your entire term, and quite a while after that, everything you do or say will be interpreted (rightly or wrongly) as coming from “the Board.” It is, at times, exhausting.

All that said, being a Board Member is an honor and a privilege. It is an opportunity to connect with membership in a unique way, and provides a profound opportunity to shape and change the organization. It is an act of service that will forever change you and the way you view this beloved community.

What is the application process?

  • Reread the above information and consider whether this is the right time for you to put your name forward. We will always need new Board Members — next month, next year, next decade… There is no rush. 

  • Engage with current and/or past Board Members, asking them about their experiences and any questions you may have.

  • Fill out the Google Form.

  • Include some sort of résumé. This can be along the lines of a customary business résumé or some other format that provides information as to your skills and experience relevant to the work of a Board Member. If this, or any aspect of the application process is preventing you from putting your name forward for consideration, please let us know. Assistance can be provided or accommodations made.

  • Demonstrate your ability to represent the community in a respectful, informed, and civil manner. This includes the ways you interact with others at CSPC events, on social media, and in the surrounding sex-positive community.

  • Demonstrate your ability to lead by becoming more involved: 

    • If you haven’t already, volunteer to take on other leadership positions within the CSPC. If you are not sure how, ask someone in leadership, preferably in the area that interests you the most.

    • Check out our monthly Board Meetings and if applicable, participate during the attendee comments period. Get to know the inner workings of the organization, the Board Members, and help us get to know you and your vision of the CSPC.

What if this isn’t the right fit? How do I make a meaningful contribution to the organization?

Not everyone is best suited for the role of Board Member. Not everyone wants to serve on the Board. That doesn’t mean you can’t contribute to the CSPC in a substantial, meaningful, and enriching way. The CSPC needs volunteers in every capacity. If you see a need, bring forward your ideas of how you can make changes in the community.

Approach this as you would when considering a new play partner. Think about what you have to offer, what attracts you to the other person, what kind of play you are interested in, and then negotiate a scene or a relationship that can be enjoyable and fulfilling for both of you. As with play, you may not end up with the scene you first envisioned, but hopefully something even better!

Please direct questions and feedback arising from this article to: president@thecspc.org

Reminders for cold and flu season

Still-life photo with crumpled tissues, a tissue box, black-rimmed glasses, and a mug with utensil inside

Hi kinksters! We want to remind you that cold and flu season is quickly approaching, and as such, we have some reminders for you. 

  1. All parties will have a reduced ticket cap from December through February, so make sure you’re picking up tickets to your favorite events early! 

  2. We always have KN95 masks available at the registration table for in-person events; masking is a great way to cut down on seasonal illness transmission if you’re wearing them correctly. 

  3. Taking a COVID test prior to attending in-person events is a great practice! 

  4. If you don’t feel well before an event, you can email registration@thecspc.org to let them know you’re ill and you will get a credit for a future event.

  5. If vaccines are available to you, consider getting your annual flu shot and COVID booster. 


Please help us care for ourselves and each other by taking precautions wherever you can. Thank you for your community care!

Community Health Update

We are knee deep in peak flu and covid season already so it’s important we as a community stay diligent to protect ourselves and others wherever possible. We’ve put together a few reminders for best practices as well as a few resources.

Vaccination remains the most effective tool in reducing illness related complications and acts as a protective measure for those who are immunocompromised and unable to receive them. If you are able to and haven’t yet received your flu and covid boosters for the year:

  1. And have insurance and are financially stable. You can get your flu shots and covid boosters almost anywhere from your family doctor to your local urgent care to pharmacies like Walgreens, CVS, and Rite Aid. 

  2. If you have no insurance, are underinsured, or financially vulnerable, Care-a-Van Mobile Health Services provides vaccines as well as other basic health services at no cost:
    Care-a-Van Mobile Health Services | Washington State Department of Health 

Hand washing is another frontline defense against illness. Use soap and water to wash your hands for at least 20 seconds, including the backs of your hands, between fingers, and under nails. Use paper towels in public restrooms to dry hands and avoid using hand dryers. Sanitizer is a good option when there isn’t access to soap and water but should not replace regular hand washing. To effectively apply, rub over hands and fingers for at least 20 seconds until dry.

Wearing a mask is a simple yet effective way to protect yourself and others. Masks act as a barrier, reducing the spread of respiratory droplets that may carry viruses or bacteria, especially in crowded or enclosed spaces. They are particularly important when you're feeling unwell or in situations where physical distancing isn't possible.

When feeling sick stay home from parties and avoid going out in public. Not only does this help with recovery time it also minimizes exposure to additional bacteria and viruses that could worsen your condition. If you have to go out, wear a mask, practice good hygiene, and social distance as much as possible to keep yourself and your community as safe.

Additional Resources

  1. King County Virus Dashboard to keep up to date on transmission alerts and hospitalizations: Respiratory virus data dashboards: COVID-19, Influenza, and RSV - King County, Washington 

  2. Free covid test kits (4 per household in the U.S.) are still available to order for free through USPS: COVID-19 Testing 

  3. The Emerald City Resource Guide is a free list of various organizations that is updated pretty consistently on a yearly basis: Emerald City Resource Guide

Community Matters: Message from the President

By Eirikah Delaunay

While the Board is still analyzing all the insights you shared in the recent membership survey, there were a number of messages that came through loud and clear:

  • 27% of the 303 respondents were former members, and 27% have not attended an in-person event during the last year.

  • The reasons shared for lack of attendance were overwhelmingly related to the inaccessibility of the Gallery Erato space, whether that inaccessibility was due to parking issues, concerns about the neighborhood, or challenges with the facility itself (stairs, air quality, etc.). Other top reasons were personal in nature–time crunches related to work, etc.

  • Respondents could select as many preferred areas as desired for an additional space dedicated to CSPC activities. The top three selections were the East Side, North Seattle, and a continued presence at Gallery Erato, all with a 64% selection rate. Snohomish County was a distant 4th place with 37% of respondents. There were also numerous write-in comments, many of which suggested a South End location, which was not originally included in the survey due to other organizations already providing service in that area. We will dig into those comments in greater detail in the coming weeks.

  • 62% of respondents said they would attend events in Bellevue more than occasionally, and 40% said they would volunteer either in person or behind the scenes if events at a Bellevue space were an option.

  • Only 69 of 303 respondents had volunteered in the last year, although more than twice that number had volunteered sometime in the past. Again, the write-in responses to the question about volunteer roles was illuminating in terms of the breadth of service this community has generated during our 25 years.

  • The top priorities of respondents based on our initial scan of the comments are accessibility in many different forms (good parking AND public transit access, more masked events, greater inclusion of BIPOC members, other disability access, etc.), stronger cultivation of and support for volunteers, and more events—parties with different themes, in-person munches and game nights, and education. Again, there is a lot of rich data that we are continuing to analyze toward taking action in alignment with member voices.

However, the Board has made progress on many fronts in the last month: in addition to extending our contract with our Operations Consultant, 7, we are now finalizing the job description for a paid role that will manage our daily operations to alleviate some of the burden on Board members and other volunteers; we have had an initial consultation with a non-profit attorney for advice on how we can better recognize our volunteers without creating tax liabilities for them or the CSPC; and we have rented a storage unit and moved CSPC inventory out of Larry Grella’s donated space and into paid storage. Huge thanks to Larry for eight years of donating space at his home to house CSPC property—a $16,000 value over that time period.

September 2024 is my last meeting as President of the CSPC Board, and October will be my last meeting as a Board member. While the last three years of service to the CSPC has been intense in terms of time and energy spent, I feel good about spending this time giving back to the community that has meant so much to me over the last 13 years. 

I have enormous faith in the incoming Board officers to continue leading this organization into its next 25 years, and I want to encourage the membership to get involved whenever and however you can. Ari will be sharing more later about an opportunity to serve a one-year term as a Community Board member, or on the Nominating Committee that will oversee the election process for those two Board positions, and we are working diligently to create a more accessible and actionable job board for the many volunteer roles that aren’t solely focused on running events. 

Thank you all for all you do to make the CSPC the community—and family—it is for so many of us. <3

News from the Board - Community Matters

COMMUNITY MATTERS

Join us in creating a Community Director Nomination Committee!


The CSPC Board of Directors is really excited to announce that we’re reviving the Community Director role! There are two Community Director spots, and they will be fully functioning Board members who are elected in by the membership at large, and who will serve 12-month terms. The idea is that these positions will enable the membership to choose who they want to represent them on the Board, and as such we want the whole process to be defined and owned by you. 

To facilitate these positions being filled, we need a Nomination Committee of at least five active members. Initially, your job will be to work together to figure out how the Committee will function, and then you’ll move on to defining the nomination process for Community Directors. Once the groundwork is laid, the Committee will gather nominations, hold elections, and deliver the results to the Board. This will become a standing Committee with work to be done year-round, but you all know that many hands make light work! 

Disclaimers: members of the Nomination Committee will be ineligible to run for a Community Director position while they are on the Committee and for six months afterwards. It is our intention that Committee meetings are open to the wider membership so that folks can watch what’s happening if they so choose, however Committee members are able to join virtual meetings off-camera and with the name of their choice.

If you are interested in being a part of the Community Director Nomination Committee, or if you have questions about participating, please email ari@thecspc.org