COMMUNITY

Community Matters: Message from the President

By Eirikah Delaunay

While the Board is still analyzing all the insights you shared in the recent membership survey, there were a number of messages that came through loud and clear:

  • 27% of the 303 respondents were former members, and 27% have not attended an in-person event during the last year.

  • The reasons shared for lack of attendance were overwhelmingly related to the inaccessibility of the Gallery Erato space, whether that inaccessibility was due to parking issues, concerns about the neighborhood, or challenges with the facility itself (stairs, air quality, etc.). Other top reasons were personal in nature–time crunches related to work, etc.

  • Respondents could select as many preferred areas as desired for an additional space dedicated to CSPC activities. The top three selections were the East Side, North Seattle, and a continued presence at Gallery Erato, all with a 64% selection rate. Snohomish County was a distant 4th place with 37% of respondents. There were also numerous write-in comments, many of which suggested a South End location, which was not originally included in the survey due to other organizations already providing service in that area. We will dig into those comments in greater detail in the coming weeks.

  • 62% of respondents said they would attend events in Bellevue more than occasionally, and 40% said they would volunteer either in person or behind the scenes if events at a Bellevue space were an option.

  • Only 69 of 303 respondents had volunteered in the last year, although more than twice that number had volunteered sometime in the past. Again, the write-in responses to the question about volunteer roles was illuminating in terms of the breadth of service this community has generated during our 25 years.

  • The top priorities of respondents based on our initial scan of the comments are accessibility in many different forms (good parking AND public transit access, more masked events, greater inclusion of BIPOC members, other disability access, etc.), stronger cultivation of and support for volunteers, and more events—parties with different themes, in-person munches and game nights, and education. Again, there is a lot of rich data that we are continuing to analyze toward taking action in alignment with member voices.

However, the Board has made progress on many fronts in the last month: in addition to extending our contract with our Operations Consultant, 7, we are now finalizing the job description for a paid role that will manage our daily operations to alleviate some of the burden on Board members and other volunteers; we have had an initial consultation with a non-profit attorney for advice on how we can better recognize our volunteers without creating tax liabilities for them or the CSPC; and we have rented a storage unit and moved CSPC inventory out of Larry Grella’s donated space and into paid storage. Huge thanks to Larry for eight years of donating space at his home to house CSPC property—a $16,000 value over that time period.

September 2024 is my last meeting as President of the CSPC Board, and October will be my last meeting as a Board member. While the last three years of service to the CSPC has been intense in terms of time and energy spent, I feel good about spending this time giving back to the community that has meant so much to me over the last 13 years. 

I have enormous faith in the incoming Board officers to continue leading this organization into its next 25 years, and I want to encourage the membership to get involved whenever and however you can. Ari will be sharing more later about an opportunity to serve a one-year term as a Community Board member, or on the Nominating Committee that will oversee the election process for those two Board positions, and we are working diligently to create a more accessible and actionable job board for the many volunteer roles that aren’t solely focused on running events. 

Thank you all for all you do to make the CSPC the community—and family—it is for so many of us. <3

Message from the President

As I shared at the July Board Meeting, in our 25th Anniversary year the Board has been working hard toward growth and sustainability for the CSPC as an organization. In addition to working toward hiring a full-time Operations Manager to lead much of the administrative work that keeps the Center running smoothly, we have been actively continuing our search for a space to expand our services as a sex-positive community center as originally envisioned and operated for the CSPC’s first 17 years.

The CSPC Board is seeking community input related to the organization's search for a 24/7 space and the need for additional volunteer bandwidth to support our continued activities at Gallery Erato and a new expansion location.

The Building Committee has located a space in the Northup neighborhood in Bellevue that the CSPC can occupy 24/7 to expand our current party structure to include additional parties and many other kinds of community events — potluck munches, game nights, dedicated tasting nights, in-person discussion groups, skill shares, workshops, vendor fairs and more — IN ADDITION TO maintaining our current events at Gallery Erato. 

This space meets many, but not all, of the priority specifications established for a new space:

  • This space is the lowest level of an office building owned by a cooperative dedicated to creating queer spaces who intentionally sought out the CSPC as a potential tenant. There is plentiful free parking surrounding the building and an elevator for ADA access. There are many bathrooms, including one with a shower, and the property owner has agreed to add laundry and kitchen facilities to our specifications so that we can wash our own sheets and host events that involve food service. There is one very large space with hardwood floors previously used as a karate dojo, plus several smaller spaces on the same level. 

  • However, this space is not easily accessible via public transit, and the standard-height ceilings will limit the use of longer whips. We also have no guarantee that the city of Bellevue will approve our specific use at this location; we must sign a conditional lease before the city will consider a business license application (this is true of all potential new locations).

The decision to submit a non-binding Letter of Intent to sign a lease (and then sign a lease) is a big one. It is a big financial commitment, and the Board is still working through the numbers related to how many events and other activities will be required to break even and whether the time required to ramp up to those numbers can be supported by other resources.

It is also a big commitment by the community. Hosting more parties and other activities at a second space will require many more volunteers, including volunteers who are not currently active with our community. We need previous members, current members, and local sex-positive folx who are not yet members to consider whether this is a space they would support by attending events and by volunteering to make those events happen. 

Laundry facilities don’t matter if nobody is adding soap and bleach and pushing that hot water button, and it’s not safe to host events without a full complement of volunteers. Even in our current space, we often have important roles unfilled or filled at the last minute by Board members dedicated to keeping our doors open for members. We are currently considering a new event cancellation policy for events that don’t have essential roles filled at least 48 hours prior to the event time to ensure that we can maintain the CSPC’s standards for safety.

Please respond to the 2024 Community Survey here to share your thoughts about this opportunity, your ability and willingness to contribute as a community volunteer, and on our efforts to expand in general. This survey is widely available, with one response per email address possible to ensure that we avoid duplication (you must sign in with an email address to respond). 

Please complete this survey and share with your local partners and friends. The CSPC is an organization by and for its members, and it is critical that we have the membership’s support in this decision. The link for sharing this survey is: https://forms.gle/68ePF4PwUUVYWQB28

Thank you all for all the ways you contribute to helping our community thrive. Here’s to our next 25 years! <3

Community Matters: Message from the President

I have a nasty relationship habit of blaming myself when things are rough and just doubling down internally on working harder to fix it myself instead of engaging my partner in developing solutions that will work for both of us. Often, my partners don’t even realize just how much I’m struggling. I realized a few weeks ago that the Board has fallen into this pattern since the beginning of the pandemic, and we need to share with the membership just how challenging our work has become so that we can work together toward solutions.

I am concerned about the ongoing sustainability of the CSPC organization if we aren't able to restructure the way our leadership is managed. Leadership volunteers are exhausted to the point of burnout, and we aren’t seeing broad participation by volunteers who are actively growing their experience and engagement with an intention to eventually step into leadership roles.

I believe that to be sustainable into the future, the CSPC needs to be attracting, training, and retaining more leadership volunteers, especially EC's, and we need to be considering a long term paid operations leadership position. 

The first step for growing our volunteer corps, including those on a pathway to leadership, is to consult a nonprofit attorney about how we can recognize (not "compensate") volunteers without running afoul of tax laws either for our 501(c)(7) nonprofit organization or our volunteers. At the June 2024 Board meeting, the Board approved the expense for an initial legal consultation toward this effort.

During most of our 25-year history, we had a managing director handling the day-to-day operations of the organization, and I believe it is also time to return to that practice. The first step toward hiring a managing director is for the Board to review our financial position carefully and determine a budget that the organization can sustain as a salary, then develop a job description that will take on many of the administrative responsibilities that the Board and other volunteers have been performing for the last four years. We will be working on this in the coming months. 

In addition to providing space for smaller and more community gatherings–potlucks, game nights, discussion groups, skill shares, and others in addition to parties–I believe that expanding into a new space will create opportunities to attract new volunteers from a new (and previous) membership base who will not participate in events at the Gallery for a variety of accessibility reasons, but we must address the issues of leadership burnout and volunteer scarcity, with or without an expansion space. Without more volunteers, we would not be able to safely schedule activities at an additional space

The CSPC is strong, and we have grown even stronger in the nine years since we lost our original home in Interbay. We provide welcoming access to diverse, supportive community that encourages the celebration, development, and exploration of each person’s unique sexuality and sensuality. I believe in this community’s power to create the organization, spaces, and events that we want to be part of, but that requires all of us to do our part.

Enormous thanks to those of you who have been stepping up this year: to all our Frolic volunteers, all our Pride volunteers, our two new Board members, and those who have expressed interest in joining the Board and who are working toward greater leadership responsibilities. Thank you to our (almost) 12 EC’s (including those nearing completion of the extended training process for this critical role) and to the many, many volunteers who make our events possible. Thank you to the volunteers who write our newsletter, update our website, answer emails, meet the laundry person, clean up flood damage, lead new member orientation, tech host our online discussion groups, moderate our Discord server, and so much more. You all are fucking rock stars.

I invite you to share your thoughts with the Board via the Feedback form on the front page of the website. If you see a need where you are willing and able to put your own skills to use, please propose a solution that you can lead. Got a great idea for something new and the bandwidth to help make it happen? Share it with us! The CSPC is an organization with events and other community services created by and for our members. Your creativity and passion are needed, now and always. <3

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in every issue. If you have an event suggestion, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

May 30–August 8

Consent Academy: Consent and Leadership Summer Series ($300+ | online)

Consent and Leadership is a unique opportunity for leaders to deepen their understanding of consent, power, trauma, and accountability. It consists of 8 workshops and one optional lab, each exploring the knowledge, skills, and practices anyone who finds themselves in a position of influence or authority needs in order to foster a consensual space.

July 4–7

Woodwinked at the Whump & Hump campout ($20–$50+ | in person)

You are most cordially invited to Temptr’s private party out at Kinky Acres! Everyone must be pre-approved. RSVP instructions on FetLife.

July 7–12

The Goodenough Community: 2024 Summer Gathering - Consent: The Heart of Relationships and Communities ($690+ | in person)

The Goodenough Summer Gatherings are a rich mix of learning, practice, and skill-building that happen within a container of friendship and good will. For over 55 years, we have developed and refined our method of offering these life-changing experiences to ourselves and the wider world. Expert teaching sessions are enlivened by an atmosphere of play and exploration. These lessons are further explored in small group sessions where participants can feel safe and respectfully held as they learn to manage their inner landscape of feelings in ways that promote greater understanding and well-being.

July 10

Papaya Project: Sex Trivia ($10–$20 | in person)

This monthly event is the best way to learn about and celebrate pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex! Trivia questions cover a wide variety of sex and sexuality-related topics, so get ready to challenge yourself, learn something new, and have a good time. A portion of each ticket will be donated to Camp Ten Trees, a nonprofit residential camp in Washington State for youth of LGBTQ and nontraditional families, LGBTQ youth, and their allies.

July 15 (every Monday through August)

Emerald City Trapeze Arts - Beginner Shibari ($25 | in person)

In this foundational session, students will learn fundamental ties and techniques to begin their rope journey. Though fundamental, these techniques can be combined in uncountable ways to produce elaborate shapes and scenarios. Besides learning technical skills, we will focus on rope bondage as a movement and acrobatic art, with emphasis on flow, aesthetics, and partner connection.

Editor’s note for all events*

As a reminder, these are non-CSPC events. We include them as a way to open your mind to possible other experiences, but we have no control over them, their content, or their missions.

Frolic 2024 on the Fly

June 16th Stewardship Day

Sunday, June 16th, 10 a.m. - 3 p.m.
We look forward to joining The Grove’s residents in laughter, elbow grease, and property primping, followed by hot tubbing and hob-knobbing with new friends! Email frolic@thecspc.org if you have questions not covered by the instructions below.

The Frolic 2024 Stewardship Day! 

Once you follow the link to VolunteerLocal, do the simple join process with a chosen name and email.

Sign in if you already have done so.

Then, under the list of Community Service options, choose Stewardship Days and sign up! (June 16th)

Have You Checked Out the Website?

Presenters and Workshops

This newsletter is spotlighting our two amazing Featured Presenters: the dynamic duo Mac Scotty McGregor and Dawn Celeste McGregor! Read on to discover an Olympic athlete and deeply thoughtful transman, as well as a passionate soul-expansive woman. She’s the type of doctor you will love! Check out their profiles!

All Presenters Bios HERE 

All Class Descriptions HERE

The Grove

The Grove has added four dedicated RV spots and two pairs of composting toilets! There’s a lot more space to camp in too!

Registration

Don’t wait to buy your ticket!

Our online ticket registration includes a quick-ish orientation video and asks for all the information we needed to have you fill out last year onsite. You will literally drive up to the Loop, park, show your legal identification, get a swag bag, and go find your campsite! 

Join in the discussion on Discord and Fetlife

NOTE: Our Orientation also counts as a CSPC New Member Orientation! Once you watch the 26-minute video, you’ll be a CSPC member*! Bonus! (*after registration processing)

We will also have a virtual Pre-Frolic 411 again so store up those questions for Wednesday, July 17, 7-9 p.m. Add it to your calendar!

Redbubble displays all the fantastic swag you can order. Check it out! 

YURT AUCTIONS

Yep, I said it! Click on the link to be wowed by their awesomeness! The Gaia Yurt was won for $610 at auction! The Prism Yurt is up now and runs through 12 p.m. on June 24.

The Prism Yurt Auction 

One yurt left after this! 

Celestial Yurt: Auction starts June 25. Ends July 15. (16-foot dome yurt with electricity)

Commonly Asked Questions

  1. Are there bathrooms? 

    1. Yes, one VIP/ADA full bathroom, two outdoor hot/cold showers, two pairs of composting toilets, several portable toilets, and two pairs of handwashing stations.

  2. Is there water available? 

    1. Yes, from a hose and the hospitality tent, where you will also find coffee, hot water for tea, and various snacks.

  3. I have a special diet. 

    1. No worries. There is a section of the registration process to delineate specialty diets. We will do our best to address everyone’s needs. It may not be possible to accommodate EVERY request though, so we will publish our best efforts of a menu plan with plenty of time for you to add yumminess to your camp packing plans. 

  4. Ummm…what do I wear? 

    1. Be legally covered when you can be seen by the neighbors. Mostly though…whatever you do or don’t want. If you prefer to go naked, make sure you judiciously apply sunscreen. If you prefer to wear clothing, just make sure you are making eye contact with naked folx, no staring. Now in the clothing department, go crazy! Go leather, go latex, be a horse, wear a onesie. You do you!

  5. I don’t know ANYONE. I’m super nervous! 

    1. It’s ok. We’ve all been there! And there will be plenty of opportunities to meet people in a variety of situations.

  6. I don’t know how to get what I want or make sure no one does anything crazy to me. I want to feel safe. 

    1. Visit our trained staff in the Consent Canopy. They will be happy to discuss these concepts with you. If you feel unsafe, for any reason, visit the Consent Canopy, security personnel (in red shirts) or any on-shift Lead (in yellow shirts.)

Any other questions? Join the Frolic channel in Discord for answers or email us at frolic@thecspc.org.

Frolic Discord!

The More You Know!

Are you wondering where all the active members are posting, if not on Fetlife? Where are we sharing titillating thoughts, planning scenes for events, and just gabbing about our interests?

Did you know that we have a Frolic-specific channel on the CSPC Discord server? 

If you are a CSPC member with an active membership, you can join the server by clicking on the Discord link on the bottom of our CSPC website 

If your membership is inactive, choose the Membership tab at the top of the page to reactivate your membership first. 

Otherwise, go to our event page to register for a New Member Orientation. They are available both virtually and in person! It’s only $10 to join and one hour of your time! 

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in the first issue each month. If you have an event suggestion, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

May 19–29

Beacon Cinema: A bunch of sexy, unsettling, and subversive films ($12.50 | in person)

The Beacon declares fidelity to a cinema utopia in which our struggle for collective liberation is bound up with all the unrealized possible futures woven through the forgotten histories of film. Together we explore our dreams so that we might some day possess them in reality.

May 25

Kremwerk: Kings ~ A Drag King Show ~ Queer Prom ($10–$20 | in person)

Come enjoy an amazing alt drag show and compete for the title of Prom "king" and Prom "queen" (non binary competitors welcome too!) and win all access tickets to the Kremwerk Pride weekend next month.

May 26

Pan Eros: Practical Application of Floggers ($45–$85 | in person)

Want to create a great flogging scene? Not sure about the basics? Know the basics inside-and-out but think there might be something more? This experiential flogging workshop is for anybody that thinks they’ve got something to learn. We’ll discuss the foundations, practice basic and non-basic strokes, and cover how to turn it all from a collection of techniques into a scene.

May 30–August 8

Consent Academy: Consent and Leadership Summer Series ($300+ | online)

Consent and Leadership is a unique opportunity for leaders to deepen their understanding of consent, power, trauma, and accountability. It consists of 8 workshops and one optional lab, each exploring the knowledge, skills, and practices anyone who finds themselves in a position of influence or authority needs in order to foster a consensual space.

June 2

Abbey Arts: The QUEER Not-Creepy Gathering for People Who Want to Fall In Love ($10–$30 | in person)

This structured event (held outdoors, weather permitting) is not about scrolling and swiping and making snap decisions based solely on physical appearance. This event is about being open enough to see each other's humanity.

June 6

Papaya Project: Sex Trivia! ($10–$20 | in person)

This monthly event is the best way to learn about and celebrate pleasure, queerness, and the science of sex! A portion of each ticket will be donated to Lavender Rights Project, a Seattle-based organization that elevates the power, autonomy, and leadership of the Black, intersex, and gender diverse community through intersectional legal and social services. 

The Frolic Follies (2023)

Member quotes from the 2023 Frolic

"There is an undeniable magic that happens when this community gets together in the woods. This was my second year and once again, those who arrived as strangers become friends and lovers. Together we held a safe space for each of us to express who we are and experiment with who we could become. I left feeling seen and welcomed." —Freebird

"I didn't know I needed waffles until there were waffles!" —anonymous

"Today I got all emotional doing laundry remembering all the fun I had in various outfits, particularly the onesie. I tried to find a better laundry setting because 'normal' did not seem to fit, and 'kinky' was not an option." —Anthropic 

"Someone wrote on the pick-up play board for a stunt bottom to practice techniques from the Digital Orgasm class. Can I just write, 'me too!' under it?" —heard three times from three different people.

"So lovely seeing everyone share their experiences. There was so much going on, I wish I could have experienced it all. For me, one of the highlights was meeting so many people with different kinds of families, friendships, and relationships. You really made me feel seen and welcomed! You are all wonderful people." —Allen

"Why is everyone telling me about consent? Is it because I'm the consent person?"

"Um…no. It's because it's a Kinky Kindness Bingo square!" —Seq and Turtle

"I experienced an unparalleled level of spontaneous community, body positivity, and acceptance that still have me glowing. I've never received, nor been so able to take in, the sort of positive attention and compliments I got in spades at The Frolic, and I am doing my best to hold onto all the highlights as reminders of my self-worth and sexiness. Inspired by everyone who worked hard to make it happen and so looking forward to future kinky camping opportunities." —betwixt

"I'll never be able to look a pony girl in the face again after that story [by 7]!" —overheard anonymously in the dark

"As a socially awkward kid new to the CSPC, I was really nervous to go to Frolic alone. I'm really glad that I pushed myself to do it though: by meeting people at Frolic I now feel a lot safer attending other CSPC events by myself, because I'll definitely know people there. Thanks everyone for being so welcoming!" —GB (GoodBoy)

"Power Bottom." [nuff said] —the entire audience

"I hope he didn't get any pubic hairs caught in the guitar strings." —overheard in the dark

CSPC Pride 2024 - Call for Volunteers!

Where’s Your Flair? Pride Volunteers Needed! 

It’s May 2 today, and Pride is June 30. Wow! Two short months to work on our 25th Anniversary theme, source decorations, recruit marchers, build a float, and show up to share in the ecstasy of energy that is Seattle Pride. We are looking for a few people to help with the prep work and the day of execution. This includes the Tabling Organizers for Saturday and Sunday, Tabling Representatives, Float Lead, Float Decorations Lead, and Parade Marchers Lead. Email Pride@thecspc.org to express interest or ask questions.