Welcome to All In!

by Jadzia, All In! Co-Champion

All In is called the Pan Party 

As in Pansexual and Pan gendered. 

But I think of the party as a party for everyone. 

Because it is All In. 

What is your kink? 

What do you find sexy? 

What power dynamic gets you off? 

At this party it is All In. 

If it is allowed at the Center for Sex Positive Culture, it is All In. 

If you would enjoy doing it in public, it is All In. 

If it is something you have never done before but have always wanted to do, it is All In. 

If it is something you do at every party you have ever been to, it is All In. 

The party is only as sexy, as hot, as intense, as fun as you make it–so come make it All In and more! Want to socialize? Do impact play? Bondage? Show off your fetish finery? Find a play partner or mentor? Have sex? This is the place and time! Our lights are high enough to see the whips, our music low enough to hear the moans. We will have food and social areas, sex space, play stations, and hard points- everyone is included! Any play sanctioned by The CSPC is on the table for this party. If you’re going to get messy, bring a tarp and check in with the EC! Whether you are gay, straight, queer, bi, cis, trans, gender non-conforming, dominant, submissive, a switch, top, or bottom, this party is for you.

Get your tickets today! Attendance is limited to 120, and tickets must be purchased online. If you have questions, please email us at allin@thecspc.org! To stay up to date as well as discuss play plans, rides, scene ideas, or any other mischievous debauchery, check out and join our Fetlife Group!

The Life of the Party

by Teeebone

What is the life expectancy of a given party at the CSPC? In my experience, parties typically last somewhere between two to three years. Historically, once a party got past its third year, it tended to become a fixture. If longer running parties did end up shutting down, they were remembered as classics.

But parties come and parties go. From a big picture perspective, each party has its own natural life cycle. As an event coordinator, champion or host, you help build a core team of like minded individuals who share a vision of what the party is about and give it purpose. You develop personal leadership skills to hold the crew together, and if somebody needs to step back for any reason you find folks who can take their place. Staffing the events and keeping the talent within the team are the greatest challenges team leaders face when running regularly scheduled parties, whether they are quarterly, monthly, or weekly. That’s why we at the CSPC always (and often) encourage folks to become volunteers.

The next most important thing to having a trusty and reliable staff is holding on to your audience. Even before the party actually happens, you have to plan things out. You have to ask yourself hard questions like what the target demographic is or if the event is financially viable. You plan and plot with your fellow champions, compose your pitch, and then present it to the Board. Once it gets approved, it’s game on!

Even when there’s an audience waiting to attend your party, you’ve got to do the heavy lifting of party promotion on FetLife, Discord, and other social media. Generating excitement and anticipation is crucial, especially if it's a new party, though I have seen success stories with rebrands and reboots too. Sometimes it’s necessary to change things up during a party's tenure to keep the attendees coming back for more.

As Host/EC/Champion of the Hump I saw and dealt with all these issues in one fashion or another. Each party has its own lifecycle based on team dynamics, community support, and the natural ebb and flow of something fading so that something new and exciting can take its place. When the team for every new party first gets together, they are filled with the drive, enthusiasm, and desire to “DO” that party. And then they make that party happen. People show up and everyone there has a booty-shakin’ good time. For one bright, shiny moment... They are all HAPPY.

All new parties typically enjoy a honeymoon period of six to twelve months, then attendance stabilizes and then declines over time. But that’s just part of the nature of things: parties come and go, they create great memories, and then inspire the next wave of party champions.

Because none of the CSPC’s parties can happen without volunteers first. If you are into some particular hotness or belong to a specific segment of our community, consider creating or working at a party that caters to what you are into. The CSPC makes it easy to volunteer! Just follow the magic footprints...

Say What? Sex Positive Dictionary

by Eirikah Delaunay

I had such a fabulous time at the Seattle Erotic Art Festival (SEAF) last weekend! I got to have hundreds of short, sexy conversations with festival patrons at the sponsorship table for my sex+relationship coaching practice, Desire Alchemy, using my “Let’s Talk About. . .” conversation cards. One of the things that came up over and over again was just how many definitions people have for the words we use in the sex positive community, and how confusing related words can be–edging vs. edge play, for instance. And that doesn’t even scratch the surface of how many different kinds of play people with different experiences might classify as edge play.

To help folks better understand each other in the context of our shared sex positive community, the CSPC is seeking assistance from our members to create a crowd-sourced Sex Positive Dictionary. We’ll share a short list of words here in the newsletter periodically to solicit YOUR definitions to be shared with your peers in an online resource, similar to the Urban Dictionary.

In April, we shared five words for your definition generation pleasure. Huge thanks to those who submitted! Some sample responses:

• Brat–A bottom/submissive who tends to act out in ways that are likely to bring chastisement, restrictions, or punishment from their Top/Dominant, typically for the mutual enjoyment of both. Usage example: “I love giving a brat the spankings they are clearly asking for.”  –7

• Genderfluid–Identifying as two or more genders (not necessarily feminine or masculine), in a way that shifts between those genders over a period of time. Usage example: “I am male-bodied but I fluctuate between being in nonbinary-identifying and strongly female-identifying modes.” –7

• Impact Play–Sexual or sensual consensual play in which some implement is used to hit another’s body.  Implements can include:  hand, flogger, whip, wooden spoon, cane,and paddle.  Know which parts of the body will be happy to get that impact and which will cause lasting distress. –M@

• Primal–An animalistic/primitive style of play, often with aspects of consensual non-consent (chasing, wrestling, capture, etc.) and unrestrained expression (scratches, bites, growls, and the like). Also, a kink identity as one favoring such play, sometimes with Top/bottom identities such as “primal Dom/sub/hunter/prey/switch.” (Not to be confused with Optimus Primal: roleplaying as an Autobot for purposes of seducing Megan Fox.)

• Sensation Play–Using a variety of objects or techniques to create different physical sensations, such as fur, feathers, claws, knives, temperature play with ice or hot wax, etc. Can include scratching, biting, pinching, stroking, and other sensations. Might also target other senses besides touch. –E

Our words for May reflect common questions from our newer members:

• Bottom

• Top

• Scene

• Scene Name

• Safeword

How would you define these terms in your experience? Tell us at sexpositivedictionary@thecspc.org! Be sure to include the initials you’d like us to use to identify your contributions. We may share them on Discord, social media, and the newsletter, as well as the dictionary platform when it’s complete.

Have a Spanking Good Time at LaQueer!

By 7

The first time I had a plan to attend LaQueer, I was riddled with anxiety. I didn’t have anything really queerfabulous to wear, so I often came across presenting as cisgendered. My Domme persona only really comes out in dynamics and scenes with submissives, and I had no partner to bring along. Was I queer enough to hang out with the cool queer people?

A very wise friend has informed me that this kind of imposter syndrome is basically an indicator that yes, I am queer enough. Because people who are not queer do not have anxiety about whether they are queer enough to hang out with the cool queer people.

So I’m passing on this message to you. You are queer enough, and we love that about you! Come out to LaQueer and be part of our weird and wonderful community. 

We’ll have a tour of the space for people new to the Gallery, volunteers to help with any questions/advice you might need, and this month we’re trying an Impact Line of Dominoes: Anyone willing to participate will form a circular line, each with a toy of choice. One person will be the first to spank the person in front of them, who will then spank the next person, and so on, all the way around the circle. Circles don’t end, so this might continue round and round until we all fall down! ;-)

The fact that you get to perv on (and possibly take part in) some creative and smoking-hot scenes set to music by amazing queer artists will be icing on the cake.

Just a Taste of Wicked Wordplay

By Eirikah Delaunay

Wicked Wordplay is coming soon! Join us online next Wednesday, 4/27, from 6-8pm to share a half hour of co-writing time followed by readings by writers who choose to share their smokin’ hot words with the group.

Your co-hosts, Chel and Eirikah, offer a prompt to guide your writing if desired, but you are free to follow your own erotic and creative impulse. During reading time, writers can share their freshly written words or something else they’d like to read to our appreciative collective. Not a writer, but love storytime? This event is for you, too! 

At our inaugural event in March, the writing prompt was “Play Space: Imagine your ideal sensual/sexual environment. Is it a BDSM dungeon, wild outdoors, cozy bedroom, or some other special place? Write a detailed description.” The brief extracts below offer just a little taste of some of the pieces shared by attendees that night:

The sunlight slant on your warm skin, playing off your fur; the silver and gold of your bristly, close-cropped beard; the soft brown of your chest hair and sparkling ginger of your still-damp belly and groin. You are so relaxed, stretched out on our air mattress. I envy you your quick transition after the hazardous trek back from the makeshift shower across the rocks, and roots, and mud of the campsite. I’m still struggling to kick off my boot, wet foot refusing to let go as I wobble wildly, half in and half out of our tent, trying to keep the dirt out, now that we are finally clean. You’re laughing at me, even as you reach up to steady me, hand pressed firmly against the back of my thigh.

–Skitty

This is it. The lighting set to low—goddamn LEDs looking fine as hell. Red cast on everything, the sheets, the pillows, the wood, the leather.

We’ve wanted this for years, my love. Talked about the st. andrews cross and the automatic fucking machine. We’ve joked about the firmness of positional pillows, and the wall of whips and paddles. The displays took too long to make, had too many splinters, and god, who can forget the paint spill?

The crash, the blackness draining from the bucket all around you on our carefully laid plastic sheeting. How you covered your face and apologized for your clumsiness. How I ignored your embarrassment and climbed on top of you, pushing you into the tar-like sea. Black handprints on your paint shirt, black strokes on your jawline. My kisses left no mark but a memory.

–Chel

They gave others on the street a wide berth, since they liked to go maskless outdoors. The road to the beach was downhill the whole way, and even in November she stopped to take pictures of the unseasonable flowers or the pattern of mulch left in the gutter after a hard rain. At the beach, the water stretched into the distance, small, insistent waves lapping the shore. A few dog owners strolled idly in the shoreline park, watching the ferry boats come and go.

They settled on the bench she liked, the one that was slightly sheltered from the wind by a large rock.

“I want to give you a treat,” she began. “May I?”

He was curious about what sort of treat she could possibly give him on the public park bench, exposed to so many watchful eyes. “Yes,” he said with only a little hesitation.

–Eirikah

They met at a Starbucks and decided to walk into the woods, except the woods were just a small stand of trees at the edge of an apartment development, more like the representation of woods. He held her hand as they walked into those trees, looking around for a spot of green thick enough to hide them from the road and the apartment windows. While he scoped it out, he listened to her talk about her favorite poets. A part of him would have gladly listened to her opine on poetry for hours, but another part of him pushed her firmly against a tree, smiled, then kissed her deeply. That tree became their first impromptu play space. He pushed his body hard against hers. After minutes of soft kisses, he pulled back, then rested his palm against her cheek. He waited a moment, kissed her once more, then slapped her face lightly – just barely enough to sting. He kissed her again, and this time her kiss was warmer, more open, like she wanted to melt into him.

–Ophir

Join us to hear more, with content so fresh it’s still steaming! Participation is free for CSPC members and $5 for non-members. Be sure to RSVP here to receive the zoom link for next week’s Wicked Wordplay!

Hump History: Year Two--Coming Back for Seconds!

By Teeebone

January 22, 2009: "You all rock!!! Thank you soooooo much for having taken this idea and run with it for a year..."- (From a congratulatory email sent from the office.)

The second year began with celebration and excitement, but there was still so much for us to learn and experiment with, including new music and event themes, workshops, demos, and much more. Looking back, I see it was still a very busy time for all of us.

In late February, we celebrated Mardi Gras with a King Cake, which is a large New Orleans pastry with a little plastic baby baked inside it. Whoever found the baby in the cake won their choice of a music theme for a future Hump, which resulted in a Hip-Hop Hump in May.

On March 20, 2009, we created “The Hump CSPC's Wednesday Party” discussion group on FetLife, which remains online to this day. FetLife became an important part of publicizing upcoming CSPC events and information as it acts as an unofficial social network for members of the CSPC.

At the end of April, we held our first "taster" event, jokingly referred to as the Whump. This event was very much like the Try It, You'll Like It Party held on fifth Sundays as a quarterly event. Planning for this started late in 2008, but we waited for a fifth Wednesday to come up for it to happen.

A "taster" event typically had 10-12 stations that catered to different BDSM activities like flogging, rope, whips, claws, etc. Experienced Tops volunteered to share their specialty and give new members "a taste" of what a scene could be like. Experienced bottoms could volunteer to be the "stunt bottom" if the attendee wanted to learn any Topping activity. Attendee turns were regulated with sign-up sheets and prompts from the PA mike and/or event monitors.

Converting the Hump into the Whump meant closing the Back Room (no sexy time) and clearing out the Cuddle/Romp Pile, Solo Space, and Dance Floor to make room for the stations. The level of activity was much higher than any previous Hump and we gained a serious appreciation for the folks who ran the Grind and the Saturday BDSM Pan Parties. The event was well received and broke an attendance record (75), so we decided to do it twice a year.

In June, the Center celebrated its tenth year in operation. That same month the Center was also offered the remaining space in the building, which became the RAW Dungeon. Later that same month, the Hump broke another attendance record with 81 attendees.

In August after 81 weekly Humps, I finally took a night off. I have to admit it was a strange experience attending as opposed to working the event. Taking time off the "job" was a bit unusual for me. I guess volunteering in this community is just part of who I am. I ended up attending practically every Hump that was held–for eight years, seven months, and a week. That's a whole lot of Humps! :3

By September, the new RAW Dungeon was available for use and on the 16th, we had our 1st Whump at the Hump, an add-on party from 8pm-12am on the third Wednesday of the month. The "taster" event that was held at the end of September was re-named "Sweet Taste-ations". Yet another attendance record was broken on that night, this time at 93.

The second year ended with higher average attendance levels (60-70 attendees) and the Hump crew felt confident about the future. We had managed to break the attendance record three times! Even more good news for us would follow into the new year of 2010...

Until next time... :^)

PPMT 2.0: Best Party Ever!

By Teeebone

On March 12, 2022, I had the wonderful experience of reliving the glory that is Power Play Mixed-Tape (PPMT) 2.0. Even though it was only the second party since the return of this legacy event, this time it felt like everything had effortlessly fallen into place–smooth execution of setup, a full crew of experienced team members working together harmoniously, a number of pre-planned scenes being scheduled throughout the night, and a sold-out crowd.

I had just put together the tightest two hours of music for my closing DJ set, and the whole PPMT team was pumped up for the night because everybody involved was looking forward to having a good time. TK (aka Turtle) has a knack when it comes to team building, and when the team gets together, that’s when the magic happens. We got on FetLife and Discord and chatted PPMT up. Contacts were made, and scenes were discussed and negotiated. The word got out, and just like that, all the tickets were sold!

And what a party it was! The theme was “Mardi Gras: Farewell to the Flesh!” and the headliner scene involved smashing and mashing King Cakes on a naked attendee who was laid down upon a table with tarps placed all around to catch escaping crumbs and icing. Good, clean, messy fun! A PPMT Team Tasting Top provided sensation play tastings in the Exploration Bay, and there was also some heavy play including a hood scene, some whip scenes, and a pussy-kicking scene. I even got to see some of the PPMT crew play after they had finished their shifts for the night! The combination of play, music, and good feels made for the one-of-a-kind awesomeness that we strive for when we have CSPC parties.

Will this fabulousness ever be matched? Will it be surpassed? That is the challenge we as volunteers face when we work at these events and that night... it was all good. I’ll tell you what, though–on April 9, Power Play Mixed-Tape returns! In April, PPMT will be brought to you by the letter L! Lace, latex, leather and OTK (over the knee) spankings for littles! Our Exploration Bay (main floor near Registration) will offer firsthand experiences (Top & bottom) in leather care and in OTK spanking so come get a taste, and help us create the next “Best Party Ever”!

To join us at April’s PPMT, learn more and buy tickets here: https://thecspc.org/events/power-play-mixed-tape/2022/apr

Did reading this article give you a thrill? Volunteering for the CSPC is a great way to get involved and meet people! Find out more about volunteering at https://thecspc.org/volunteering. Our volunteer teams are the secret sauce that makes the CSPC so delicious!

Until next time! :^)

Hump History: Year One--First Impressions

by Teeebone

"You are getting this because you expressed some interest to be involved with the Wednesday Dance Party Team."- Excerpt from an email in late 2007

Our first team meeting was January 2, 2008. Originally the first Hump was supposed to be January 9, but we clearly weren’t ready so a follow-up meeting was held instead. The new start date was set for January 30, 2008. We decorated for the party with spare or borrowed gear, silks and member contributions to the CSPC, including some new lamps and vases, a red LED "lips" rope light wall sculpture and a plaster camel lawn ornament that we nicknamed "Humphrey" that became the party's mascot.

The weekly Wednesday party consisted of a social from 6-8pm, which was free to attend and open to the public. At about 7:45pm somebody got on the mic and announced that the party was about to begin and that those who hadn’t paid admission needed to go to the cashier’s desk or go home. Then from 8pm-12am it was sexytime!

To be honest, the first year almost killed us. The pace of the activity was exhausting. We jam-packed the Hump with demos, classes, and discussions during the social and served a simple hot dish with goodies at the party. We had a lot to learn about how to sustainably run the Hump, and it would be a while longer before we got into a more laid-back tempo.

In February, we had our first challenge. A conflict developed between the Cuddle/Romp Pile and the Self-Gratification Area (as it was called back then), which resulted in one or two drama threads on the old CSPC board on the Internet. Some folks were walking and wanking (wandering around the front area of the Main Space, looking for scenes to masturbate to), which disturbed the folks on the Cuddle/Romp Pile because they had NOT consented to being watched and masturbated to, so the Hump Crew sat down and wrote up new rules and set some boundaries:

• The Self-Gratification Area would be marked and veiled all around.

• Have the rules for this zone in the area for attendees to read.

• Intervene with attendees who walk & wank.

• Intervene with attendees who are wanking in the zone and watching people in other areas.

• Have the TV + DVD player set up with porn in the Self-Gratification Area.

• Rename this area "Solos, Sex and Voyeurs."

These measures helped heal the rift between the two groups. In any case, the fans of the Solos, Sex and Voyeurs space still had the option to attend a monthly party known as Myself! an event which focused on masturbation.

In March I was made an Event Coordinator, adding to my duties as a DJ, Poster Artist, and a Host of the Hump. I found myself wearing many hats! As the year went by, we found ourselves helping attendees plan scenes. Some were private, others were public. Public scenes like bukkake, glory hole, or gangbang scenes are more of an audience participation event, requiring more attention and care such as:

• Finding out what the requesting member’s preferences, expectations and boundaries were.

• Informing the requesting member about what needed to be done in order to structure a scene that would fulfill their desires while respecting their boundaries within the limits of CSPC rules..

• Ensuring all participants knew the rules of the scene and helping enforce those rules.

• Providing a safe haven for any needed aftercare and clean up.

And that's it. It's been the formula for success ever since. I often got an email or PM from somebody asking about organizing something special at the Hump, and I just couldn’t help but feel good all over about that.

There were concerns about the Hump becoming a "Sausage Fest" (as in way more men than women in attendance), a problem when running events like this, especially when everybody paid the same price for admission. We tried out a number of things including themes and workshops that focused on women and reduced admission pricing for women and couples. In the end however, we found that the best way to make the party appealing to women was to make the space a safe place for women to play.

By November, plans were made for a "Taster Party Hump" to be held on a 5th Wednesday of the year. A Taster event is like a sampler box of chocolates, only instead of chocolates, you get a sample of BDSM play, like a brief flogging or caning scene (to name a few). This party would become "Sweet Taste-ations," our twice a year BDSM Taster event, which would become a reality in 2009 and introduce “The Whump at the Hump” as a monthly sibling party later.

In December we had our biggest attendance yet: 71 people. The party rocked, and we were all up to the task. We ended the year with an Xmas Eve Potluck. Then we hibernated till January–although I did do a DJ set on New Year's Eve, LOL! After our first year anniversary, I sent this to the staff:

"It's been two days after the party and it's finally sinking in that a whole year has gone by. I sit tapping keys and feeling humble on a Friday trying to take it all in. In the space of a year we managed to create a weekly party at the club with some spare props and parts and a little imagination and energy to create... THE HUMP- a sex-focused dance party on a WEDNESDAY! And we succeeded in attracting and building an audience that attends regularly. None of this would have been possible without you, our volunteers. This is a shout out to all those who helped out with THE HUMP, from the past to the present. On behalf of myself, the other Hump ECs, our Director, the Site Coordinator and our Volunteer Coordinator, THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR HELP!"--My email to the Hump Crew, 01-30-2009

Until next time! :^)

Frolic is Coming!

Start saving your pennies, Frolic is coming!  If you love kink, camping, and community, we’ve got a treat for you!  Frolic is a wonderful three-day kinky camping event in Snohomish. Details are still being worked out, but we hope to celebrate together three weekends this year rather than one!  All play allowed at The CSPC will be allowed at Frolic, and we’ll have ample equipment to play upon. There will be entertainment, activities, and a thriving community of camping kinksters!  

Here are some of the things that were said after the event wrapped up last year:

  “Great venue - The grounds were fabulous. The outdoor hot water shower was much appreciated.”

 “Relaxing and exciting at the same time. I felt like I was at a kinky retreat. I was able to unplug from my regular routine and reconnect with myself and my partner outside of our daily lives.”

 “Safe. I felt free to be myself and wasn’t worried about creepers, non-vaxxers and other human hazards.”

 “It was wonderful to feel freedom to do things outdoors, in a safe environment, that I wanted to do for years. Thank you for your help and support with that. It seemed like you wanted to find a way to make that happen for us - I really appreciated that.”

 “We will definitely try to come back in the future. Thanks for a wonderful event!”

 “The extended duration and privacy of the event contributed so much. Saturday was the first time in my adult life when I woke up and went to bed without a single moment during the day when I needed to mask the nature of my preferences and my relationship.”

 “The depth of knowledge and care in craft and safety: sitting around the fire pit, after some discussion of fireplay, I asked a question for resources about branding. I learned so much more than I even would have hoped for from the discussion. Not only that what we’ve had in mind could really be done responsibly only by an experienced professional - but the ins and outs, whys and wherefores of that fact. All discussed with care and absent of judgment.”

 “Seeing the community itself: sui generis. In the circle at the closing ceremony, I was touched by the memories shared of the woman [Allena Gabosch] who died. While I never myself met her (this was basically my first CSPC event), I could feel the community in that moment – not just in the memories that were shared, but more so by the looks of recognition from others around the circle who were listening to those shared memories.”

 “One of my favorite moments was getting in a group of people and playing a variation of truth or dare. I was surprised at the amount of cartwheels I was dared to do, and happy I got my hair pulled.”

 “There was a sense of community that I’ve been missing. I saw sharing of ideas, feelings and warmth.”

 “It’s been a couple years since I’ve had space and time to dance with my whips. Getting out onto the field, with the music playing ambiently, and dancing was a highlight of my Frolic. Such an amazing thing to just be able to move and play and crack among people who appreciated it, in a place with a space.”

  “Being among so many people of like mind, the conversations were incredible. I met folx from all over and got to talk about our interests and deep connections. There’s someone I hope is going to message me and explore! Being there with people I knew had had vaccine cards checked, out of the city, with folx I knew I didn’t have to filter myself around the way I do with vanillas felt so safe and validating, especially after a year and a half of isolation.”

“It was a pretty chill weekend. It was good to be isolated from the outside world. Everyone was welcoming and accepting.”

 “Making love on a mattress, in the shade of the trees with the breeze on bare skin, was such a treat.”

 “The kinky card game was a great way to get to know people: who’s silly, who’s serious, who’s  playful, and who’s mischievous.”

  “I got to meet my long distance girlfriend for the very first time. I won my first high quality paddle. On top of that, I got to spend a weekend with some of my favorite people in the entire world, meet some new favorite people and have an absolute blast!”

 “The play was wonderful. I got to do a couple scenes and the high is still with me.”

 “With the freedom to play at will over a full weekend surrounded by gorgeous scenery, it’s no wonder I have too many favorite moments to pick just one. Hard work and forethought showed in every detail. I’ve been waiting a long time for this kind of getaway.”

 “My favorite moment was after the day's energies brought many of us together around the flame. Each coming from our own burnt embers of kinky energy to share in an enrichment. Being shown manipulations of fire and some participation in the same. The wisdom of an elder retelling stories to pass on his own passions. Coming together in one place, to share in community in the dark, comforted by lighting it up around the campfire.”

 “I can sum up my favorite moment in two words: outdoor orgasm.”

Stay tuned for more details on this year’s Frolic events!