Consent Corner 24.06

By Emma Atkinson 

Hello super sexy readers! March is certainly being a typical March this year, isn’t it, with its lamb-like warm days and its lion-like blustery ones. 

Shhh! There’s some secret news about this year’s Frolic event: there will be a Consent Canopy for you to explore this year. 

What’s a Consent Canopy? You’ll have to attend The Frolic to find out for yourself. It’s just one more reason to go to the most awesome event of the summer and join the other kinky campers frolicking at the beautiful venue. 

Tickets are going on sale soon, and they increase in price as time goes on. Smart folx (like you!) are well advised to act promptly and snag that ticket early on.

Homework: How can you make attendance at The Frolic happen for you this year? Are you going to join the cool kids on the volunteer team? Do you have vacation time? Share your creative thoughts at: info@thecspc.org. 

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 24.05

By Emma Atkinson

Hello lovely ones! The Corner is on Spring Break—please carry on enjoying life as you were. 

Got a great consent tale to share? Yes, you do! Please share it at: info@thecspc.org. 

Itching to read about a consent-related topic? You know you are! Please send it along to: info@thecspc.org. 

Is 2024 all you dreamed it would be? Let your tale tickle our fancy at: info@thecspc.org. 

See you next time! 

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 24.04

BY Emma Atkinson 

Hello, super hot and sassy readers! It’s February and you know what that means? Please let me know if you do, because I don’t. 

The 2023 edition of Bumbershoot featured posters with the word “Consent” in large, easy-to-read letters. The word was turned into an acrostic (great word!), meaning that each letter of the word began a short phrase relating to the topic. Plus, having the word “Consent” easily visible everywhere you looked helped keep the concept front and center in attendees’ minds. Pretty great, no? Please look through recent Consent Corners to see all the delicious details. 

We’re so fortunate to live in a time when the concept of consent is being given its proper place of prominence. We have the right to give or withhold our consent as we see fit. “No” is a complete sentence and you can find support for maintaining your boundaries when you need it. 

There was a time when party hosts would encourage guests to have one more alcohol-based drink “for the road.” Yeesh! Today, we’re more aware of the risks of drinking and driving, and no self-respecting host would say anything of the sort. 

As with drinking and driving, there’s far more awareness today about the risks involved and the importance of consent and personal autonomy. Yay, right? 

Homework: Have you had a memorable experience with saying no? We’d love to hear about it at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 24.03

By Emma Atkinson 

Hello, lovely and sunny readers! I hope 2024 is rocking your world. 

We’ve been considering the Bumbershoot consent model and here we are at the final letter and final concept. That means that the letter “T” is up. It reminds you: Take care of yourself and others, and we’re better together. 

What a wonderful reminder to all of us that we need to look out for one another, in all ways and at all times. And, what a privilege we have to continue to create and shape the welcoming community at the CSPC that we want. 

It’s always a good time to remember your self-care. And, it can be helpful to have a variety of options, since different situations might need different solutions. Think of it as a tool kit that’s available to help you take the best possible care of yourself. 

Homework: What’s your favorite self-care practice? What are your top three practices? What didn’t work quite so well? We’d love to hear about it at: info@thecspc.org. You’ll be glad you did.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 24.02

BY Emma Atkinson 

Hello lovely ones, and warm wishes for the happiest and most wondrous 2024! Hopefully, you’re off to a good start on it.

We’re considering the Bumbershoot consent model: C.O.N.S.E.N.T. The second “N” says: Need support? Venue staff are here to help. 

Wherever you are, please remember to look around for help when you need it. And, please remember how you recognize when you need help. For me, there’s a tightness in my chest when I’m feeling uncomfortable. We’re all unique wonders, so you know best how discomfort says hello to you. 

Volunteers are there to help you have the best possible experience. They want everyone at an event to have the best possible experience, too. They want to help — let them do it! 

Volunteering is an opportunity to give back to an organization for what has been freely and lovingly given to you. Please step up at the CSPC and join the amazing volunteer team. 

Homework: How do you know when you’re uncomfortable? We’d love to hear a story about it at: info@thecspc.org. 

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 24.01

By Emma Atkinson 

Hello lovely readers! Let’s plan to make 2024 the best year ever. I’m game if you are!

Returning to our consideration of the Bumbershoot C.O.N.S.E.N.T. model, we’re up to the letter “E” which suggests that you Express Yourself and Your Boundaries, and thus Have a Great Time.

The model promotes the idea that we should remember the connection between consent conversations and fun times. It’s a connection we’ve stressed often in this column. If you’re having a consent conversation, fun times are likely to be close at hand. Yay! 

Homework: got a great 2024 resolution or affirmation? Please share them with us at: info@thecspc.org. 

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 23.17

Emma Atkinson

Hello my lovelies, and warm holiday greetings to you and yours! Here’s hoping we all have the happiest and most consent-filled holiday season ever.

We’ve been considering the Bumbershoot model of C.O.N.S.E.N.T, conveniently using each letter of the word. Today’s letter is S. See something weird? Speak up. Reach out to venue staff for support.

At an event, you’ll probably encounter people, situations, and activities that are new for you. Yay you! You’ll probably have some questions, and event volunteers are glad to answer them. They’re there to help — that’s their job! Remember that they’re on duty and looking out for everyone’s well-being, including yours, so please be respectful of their time.

Weirdness often abounds when the community gathers, and one person’s label of “weird” is someone else’s lived experience. We try not to “yuck” someone else’s “yum” as much as possible.

We all need to look out for each other, though, so please speak up to someone official if you’re feeling uncomfortable. Let them put your mind at ease, knowing that event volunteers will take your concerns seriously. We all thank you for helping us make the community as safe and nurturing as possible.

Homework: Enjoy the holiday season, and get out there and practice your consent skills! Share your successes with us at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 23.16

bY Emma Atkinson

Hello, my lovelies! Warm wishes for a wonderfully consent-filled holiday season.

Awesome future volunteer opportunity alert: The CSPC is creating a new volunteer position for parties: the Consent Advocate. The Consent Academy offered an amazing course on Zoom over two weekends last month and taught us a lot about what a Consent Advocate does and doesn’t do to create a safer and supportive environment. Too cool!

Keep an eye out in 2024 for information on this position from our HR Director and consider becoming a Consent Advocate volunteer and support the loving community that we all want to be a part of. And, when you see a Consent Advocate at a party, please say hello and thank them for all they do for us!

Homework: It’s the holiday season, so please be as kind as possible to yourself and others. Remember to let your light shine. And, every day is a good day to express your gratitude — just saying.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Consent Corner 23.15

Emma Atkinson

Hello, lovely readers!

We’ve been considering the Bumbershoot Consent model, using each letter of the word C.O.N.S.E.N.T. We’re up to “N”: No means no. Don’t make them say it twice.

“No” is a complete sentence, though, “No, thank you” is more polite. It’s probably best to begin a negative response first with something like, “Thanks so much for asking me…” Then you can decline the invitation with something like, “I can’t do that.” No explanation is necessary — keep it simple. Then, consider suggesting an alternative, as in: “How about if we talk over a cup of coffee in the next few weeks?” Of course, your suggestions would be what you’re willing to consent to. It might not hurt to come up with a few phrases you can use when needed.

For many of us, it can be quite challenging to say or to hear the word “no.” Practice may make it easier — give it a try and see how it goes for you!

Homework: Practice saying and hearing a “No” and share your thoughts at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma