Discord Update: Age-Restricted Servers & iOS

By Flowers

Hi everyone! We here at the CSPC love to see an active community flourishing and interacting. This is why we are so thankful for our wonderful community on Discord. But as our Discord community continues to grow, we have hit a small pothole. According to the rules on Discord: 

“For people age 18 and older, age-restricted servers can only be joined on desktop or Android devices. Those with iOS devices are required to ‘opt-in on desktop’ in order to view age-restricted servers from their iOS device.” 

So, if you are in the Discord on iOS (any Apple products) and want to be able to access the group, follow these easy steps:

You have to go on the desktop Discord site and go to User Settings > Privacy & Safety and toggle on the “Allow access to age-restricted servers on iOS” to enable it. Then you should be all set!

For all of you who aren’t part of the CSPC’s vibrant members-only Discord community yet, you can join at this link. Your active member number will be verified before full access is granted. 

Can’t wait to see you there!

May I?: Sense and Sensuality

Do you want to explore allowing others into your personal space? Are you interested in sharing energy with another person? Have you ever wanted to experience emotional or physical intimacy without the pressure of romance or sex? Are you demisexual and a bond is needed before sexual activity is even possible? Do you enjoy the softer side of kink? Then this is the event that you’ve been looking for!

Sense & Sensuality provides a relaxed, social & non-escalatory environment for people to make connections that could grow into something more with prompts to help members initiate connections and gentle play. 

For the first half of the event, the full venue is “Lights On” for platonic intimacy with no nudity. During this time, on the main level we'll host an interactive prompt and on the lower level you are encouraged to engage in any platonic play.

May Intimacy Prompt: Non-Escalatory Cuddles!

Platonic touch-based intimacy is an underserved need for many folx and the CSPC wants to facilitate a sexually non-escalatory environment for our community. We’ll have a short Cuddle workshop following the SaS Confab that will feature 3 cuddle positions from the book “The Cuddle Sutra” by Rob Grader. Then the rest of the evening is opened for your cuddling pleasure! Cuddle one-on-one or with a cuddle puddle!

Please note that the noise volume of music and conversation is expected to be low during our cuddle focused events so as to create a calm and meditative environment.

For the second half of the event at 9:00 p.m., the main level is open to any platonic play while the lower level of the venue transitions into “Lights Off” for sensual and sexual intimacy. This is the only part of the event that permits light-impact play.

Let’s get cuddle-wonderful!Tickets are available here. Not yet a member of the CSPC? New member tickets are available here! New member tickets include new member orientation during the hour immediately preceding the party (6:00-7:00 p.m.), your first month’s membership fee, and entry to the party.

Myself! Turns Sweet 16

On May 21, Myself! is turning 16! Cum help us celebrate getting off together like the horny 16-year-old party we are! We’d love to see old friends and new. Cupcakes too! Any sort of dress up clothes and accessories are encouraged. Will you play dress up with us?

• Open mic for Myself! stories and dreams!

• Party games!

• Spanking gauntlet!

• Sign our journal!

YOU are what makes Myself! what it is!  The regular event will continue downstairs during the festivities--birthday stuff will happen 7:00-8:00 p.m. upstairs. Circle at 6:30 p.m. is required for folx new to the Myself! Party.

A word from Myself!’s hosts:

Celia: 

I’m always thrilled to see folks that have been coming since the days of the bed with silks in the Raw Space and folks who seemed way too young back then. I love Myself! because I am dedicated to and inspired by the notion that we can create a space where many people fulfill their separate fantasies together. I love seeing the wide eyes when someone has never seen sex in person before. Seeing sex, in all of its forms, helps us realize that we are all human, that bodies are funny, and that we have more things in common than our differences. I hope you will come and help us celebrate. 

Mark:

It’s hard to believe that our unique gathering is celebrating 16 years of bringing people together.  Just as if it were a person, Myself! has matured and grown from how it began. We have learned more about being responsible to ourselves and the people around us. We have worked to be more open and accepting of others who may not be like us, but who have every right to exist and express themselves in a myriad of ways. Across all of these years, all of these people have come together to share a space that celebrates them getting off either with others or solo. That solo play is what has really made this party stand out from all others, not just at the CSPC but in the region.

Join us for the celebration! Tickets are available here. Not yet a member of the CSPC? New member tickets are available here! New member tickets include new member orientation during the hour immediately preceding the party (5:30-6:30 p.m.), your first month’s membership fee, and entry to the party.

Community Matters: Show Your PRIDE!

For Pride in 2017, EQUINOX collaborated with The LGBT Community Center, NYC’s home and hub for the LGBTQA community, to create a short film celebrating the entire LGBTQA Alphabet – twenty-six ways to share who you are and how you love. Because all voices deserve to be heard. 

Watch this powerful five-minute film on YouTube:

The LGBTQAlphabet | Powered By Pride | EQUINOX

Join the CSPC in representing our community at Seattle’s Pride events June 24-25! We are hosting a table at the Capitol Hill Pride event on Saturday, June 24, and we’re hosting a table at Seattle Center and marching in the Seattle Pride Parade on Sunday, June 25. This is our time to show up as our authentic selves and celebrate who we are, how we love, and what we stand for. 

More details on exact timing and meeting location will be available in early June. Email pride@thecspc.org to RSVP to march with your CSPC community in the parade or volunteer to help staff the CSPC tables. Help us show our Pride!

Frolic Planning is Heating Up!

The Frolic 2023

August 15–20, 2023

For more information, visit The Frolic website 

or find us on Fetlife at:

https://fetlife.com/events/1283654

https://fetlife.com/groups/224072

All humans 18+ are welcome. You do not have to be a CSPC Member to attend.

Tickets must be purchased online, there are no door sales. Please note: ticket sales for the Frolic are final; they are not refundable or transferable to other events.

This year’s theme is Forge Your Fate - Choose Your Adventures! 

The Frolic is located on a 40-acre private property in Buckley, WA. The gates open Tuesday, August 15 at 10 a.m. and close Sunday, August 20 at 4 p.m.

Your ticket includes entertainment, amazing education classes (including a featured presenter), skill shares, activities, a flea market/swap meet for campers, a place to camp, play equipment, access to fire pits, a community hot tub, meals, and more! The fee covers food, utilities, property and equipment upkeep, porta potty rentals, and all the minutiae involved in planning an event like this, as well as ongoing expenses to keep the CSPC open and kinky for all our members. Your ticket does not include: a shelter*, guaranteed play partners, or parking. (*A large meeting tent will have some non-private dorm space for those without tents. Email frolic@thecspc.org to let us know you need a space.)

Masking is optional and distancing is up to individuals, but we invite you to discuss safety protocols and comfort before approaching someone closely.

The address, rules, and other information to participate will be emailed to you shortly after you register. Please check your email’s spam and/or promotions folders if you don’t see it in your inbox. If you haven't received it within an hour of registering, contact us at registration@theCSPC.org.

TICKETS

Tickets are on sale NOW!

The next tier goes on sale immediately after the previous one sells out. Able to purchase the more expensive tier and help support your CSPC community? You can select the higher priced tiers anytime!

$250 per person Early Bird tickets for the first 30 people

$275 per person Second Tier tickets for the next 30 people

$300 per person Third Tier tickets until we are sold out

*There is limited free ticketing for volunteers working the entire event. You must obtain a registration code from your Lead. 

Need assistance to attend? Volunteer! Email frolicvolunteers@thecspc.org

ADDITIONAL FEES

$50 additional for an RV (hookups are not available)

$50 additional for a tent trailer (includes a parking pass for the vehicle towing the trailer)

$25 Parking Pass — Parking is limited and must be prepurchased. Your parking pass will be available at registration when you check in. 

$10 for a round-trip ride from the Sumner Sounder Station

ENTERTAINMENT AND EDUCATION

Two presenter bios will appear in every newsletter! See all the classes when you buy your ticket!

COMMUNITY SERVICE

We are a community. We ask that everyone participate in one volunteer shift of about 2–3 hours during camp. When you register, you will be asked to prioritize the type of service you would prefer. 

VIP ROOMS

We have four yurts to auction! Imagine spending this Frolic warm and cozy inside at night with your plus-one in a beautifully decorated Mongolian yurt with a queen-size bed. Please keep in mind that your ticket to The Frolic is not included and must be purchased separately. Bidding is for the add-on VIP room only, and is only accessible after buying your Frolic ticket.

Auction Dates :

Yurt 1 (Heart Yurt) - Sold for $525!

Yurt 2 - Auction starts May 2 and ends May 23 (see images below!)

Yurt 3 - Auction starts May 24 and ends June 14

Yurt 4 - Auction starts June 15 and ends July 7

Contacts

General: Frolic@thecspc.org 

Education: froliceducation@thecspc.org 

Entertainment: frolicentertainment@thecspc.org

Security: frolicsecurity@thecspc.org 

Volunteers: frolicvolunteers@thecspc.org 

Meals: frolicmeals@thecspc.org 

Guess My... Parking Pass

Win a FREE Parking Pass for The Frolic!

Rules: Be the first person to find and correctly list all the song titles and their artists in our Frolic Poem! Must send them in an email to frolic@thecspc.org to qualify. Include whether you've bought a ticket or are planning to. We will announce the winner (with their permission) in the following newsletter. 

*Must be going to The Frolic 2023. Non-transferable. 

Frolic Friendship Poem

If you go chasing rabbits and

you know you are going to fall

Lean on me, when you aren’t strong

Do you need anybody? I need somebody to love.

Come with me into the trees

We’ll lay on the grass and let the hours pass

You want a revelation, some kind of resolution

You want a revelation

When the lights go out, and you throw yourself about

In the darkness where you learn to see

When the lights go out, don’t you ever doubt

The light that we can really be

A true true friend helps a friend in need

Go forth and have no fear

Come close and lend an ear

I can’t help myself, no no, caught up in the middle of it

We can be who we are

You taught me something, yeah, freedom is ours

Let it be unity, let it be community

For refugees like you and me

Sing with me, sing for the year

Sing or the laughter, sing for the tears

Sing with me, if it’s just for today

Because The Frolic is still three months away!

My First Frolic

By Tristan

The first few months of my exploration into kink and sex-positive communities were transformative. I grew as I found new experiences and built new relationships and began to build confidence in who I was and recognize my value. But this whirlwind of growth gave me just a taste of what I experienced at Frolic in 2022.

The immersive experience that kinky camping provided me felt like nothing I had ever been through before but was completely comfortable at the same time.

I was able to freely be myself and express that freedom every waking moment until I decided to sleep each night. Being around others going through the same immersion just built on the energy of the moment. We were all “at camp,” and that mindset was spirited and connecting.

There were so many experiences of nudity, sex, kink, learning, voyeurism, exhibitionism, joy, camaraderie, and community across my time at Kinky Acres but I will highlight my firsts:

• My first needle tasting

• My first strip UNO game

• My first skinny dipping in the inflatable pool

• My first classes about kink

• My first time having sex in a tent

Underlying these experiences were relationships. I was able to forge meaningful connections with like-minded people. This was so important to me feeling comfortable being at Frolic and the root of that comes from this simple fact:

Spending time living with my people is the most natural expression of my identity I can experience.

I'm so excited for Frolic this year and I can't wait to experience that feeling again.

Editor's Note:

Tristan will be leading the Finding Your Way Discussion Group on Wednesday Aug 16 at 1 p.m. during The Frolic 2023.

First Frolic Presenters Are Here!

Introducing our first two presenters for The Frolic 2023!

DJ presenting: A Masochist's Guide to Healing Marks

DJ (she/they) is a white, queer, femme, genderfluid, polyamorous, and disabled survivor who lives in Seattle. As a service-oriented bottom, they identify as a little, masochist, experimentalist, and edge player who has been playing with pain, fear, and power for 13 years. From impact, to rope, to rough body play, to all things sharp and pointy, they like to connect with play partners who are both tender and sadistic while exploring the limits of their pain tolerance. With a broad risk profile and a willingness to try most things at least three times (for science!), they often approach play in a fun, curious, and connective way. Outside of the community, they have five years of experience designing, facilitating, and teaching workshops and classes. 

Evelyn Evey presenting: 1) Kinky Psych 101, 2) Hard to Swallow? - Willing Suspension of Disbelief, 3) Rape Play From the Bottom’s Perspective, 4) Avoiding Accidental Consent Injury, 5) Play Harder and Longer!

Evelyn Evey (she/they) is a happily kinky, switchy, sadomasochistic, polyamorous, queer, gender nonconforming experience junkie who lives in Seattle, Washington where she is actively involved with the Center for Sex Positive Culture (formerly served on the Board) and the local BDSM community. She was vice president of the board of directors for the Pan Eros Foundation (formerly known as the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture) and has had various roles with the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. A voracious learner, she has studied Ayurveda, psychology, and acting, all of which have provided her insight and tools for helping others on their own journeys toward finding balance and having fun with their kink.

Broaden Your Mind - 5.4.23

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

May 5

Kinky Queer Comedy ($22.66 | in person)

From the deranged mind of Seattle's Kinky Comedy Queen [Bobby Higley] comes a Kinky Queer Comedy show!!

https://dice.fm/event/d8epq-safeword-glutton-for-punishment-5th-may-kremwerk-seattle-tickets

May 6

Sex-Positive World: DeSTIgmatize STIs (free–$25 | online)

Slaying The Demon of Fear! Join Dr Evalene Molina Dacker to hear the Fool’s journey through the land of sex negative education towards knowledge, liberation and empowerment.

https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/destigmatize-stis

May 12

Kremwerk: GOCK @ ME ($11.33 | in person)

GOCK @ ME is a dance party by and for trans women and those that adore them. This is a space for everybody to celebrate the divine and the feminine safely in a space not dictated by patriarchy.

https://www.kremwerk.com/upcoming/2023/5/12/gock-at-me

May 12–14

MILF: A Burlesque Tribute ($20–$175 | in person | multiple locations)

We love to celebrate and honor the mom's in our life, and what better way than to celebrate our favorite burlesque moms!

https://www.strangertickets.com/events/136024808/milf-a-burlesque-tribute

https://www.strangertickets.com/events/136021894/milf-a-burlesque-tribute-in-the-flamingo-roomm

https://www.strangertickets.com/events/136023553/beer-for-breakfast-a-milf-brunch

May 18

Consent Academy: Foundations of Consent (free–$25 | online)

Most of us have learned that "no means no" and "yes means yes," but consent goes way beyond that. Join us for a conversation about the foundations of consent, so you can start to practice consent more in your daily life.

https://www.strangertickets.com/events/132427504/consent-basics

May 20

Sex-Positive World - LGBTQIA+ Identities 101 (free–$25 | online)

Learn how to be a better ally to friends, partners and family members who hold a variety of different identities.

https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/lgbtqia-identities-101

May 21

Sex-Positive World - Awesome Boundaries Around the World (free–$25 | online)

People with the most Awesome Boundaries have the truest friends, the best sex and the least amount of toxic conflict in their lives.

https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/awesome-boundaries-around-the-world-6

May 22

Trans+ Ropes Meetup and Skillshare (free–$20 | in person)

Rope practice and discussion group for (and by) trans and umbrella folks including non-binary, genderqueer, two-spirit and any other gender divergent identity as well as queer folks who have lived experience with the trans communities.

https://www.pan-eros.org/event/trans-t4t-ropes-meet-up-and-skill-share/?instance_id=5462

June 17

Solstice Parade and Naked Bike Ride (free | start prepping!)

Come be dazzled as community-based, people-powered ensembles parade down the streets of Fremont with giant puppets, stilt walkers, floats, dancers, cyclists, and musicians in this kaleidoscope of joyous human expression. 

https://fremontartscouncil.org/parade

http://www.solsticecyclist.org/