Frolic in Style: Reminders

The Prism Yurt is currently at $780. The auction ends July 30 at noon. Remember, this does NOT include camp registration.

https://www.32auctions.com/organizations/109513/auctions/146796/auction_items/4676362

Tickets are getting picked up quickly! Get your tickets for The Frolic today! 

https://thecspc.org/frolic 

Want to pick your camp spot early and eat yummy gyros?  Arrive between 8 a.m. and 12 p.m. on Monday, August 14 for setup. We'll have gyros for dinner. Strike on Sunday includes dinner. You are welcome to stay over but you don't have to. The best part… The Queen of setup and strike is in charge! (And it's not me, says Turtle.)
Email Turtle to sign up for setup/strike! Frolic@thecspc.org

Frolic Presenter Bios: The Awesome Continues!

Sequentialized (Seq)

The Frolic’s featured presenter, Sequentialized or Seq (Pronounced "seek") uses they/she pronouns, with a preference for "they.” Seq identifies as an open-minded, neuroqueer, pansexual, polyamorous, nurturing top/dominant and edgeplayer living with chronic illness. 

Seq first encountered the kink community in the late '90s after devouring the book Different Loving by Gloria Brame. Over the years, Seq has assisted both large and small events in a variety of roles. In their earlier years, Seq walked in and coordinated kink fashion shows, sometimes performing on stage as well. While living in NYC and Long Island, NY, Seq had private play spaces and studios, and hosted private events, allowing peers to make use of an extensive collection of props and equipment. 

These days, Seq works with multiple nonprofit organizations to support strong consent culture both within and outside of our communities. Seq is a serial volunteer of sorts and you may encounter them hosting munches, developing/teaching consent curricula, moderating or offering community support at conferences, and advocating for the rights of alt-sex communities. 

Seq’s interests include reading, travel, photography, adventuring, video mixing, performance art, and lending an ear or hand to those in need.

8/16  10 am  Explicit Prior Permission: NCSF

8/18  10 am  Immersive Open Guided Relaxation Experience

8/19  10 am  Hypnotic Makeovers: Kinesthetic & Vocal Trance for All Gender Identities

Eirikah Delaunay

Eirikah Delaunay (she/her) is a writer, Witch, and sexual rebel who identifies as a polyamorous, pansexual, cisgender woman, Dominant-leaning Switch, and sadomasochist. Both/and is her magic word, and she likes to play nearly all the games with nearly all the people. The founder of Desire Alchemy (https://DesireAlchemy.com), Eirikah is a certified somatic sex+relationship coach and initiated priestess who offers individual and partnered coaching for people curious and excited about using effective communication, magic, sexuality, kink, and/or power exchange relationships as vehicles for personal growth and bliss. 

Eirikah has 30+ years of lifestyle BDSM practice and more than a decade of connection, education, and service in the Seattle sex-positive community, where she currently serves on the Board of the Center for Sex-Positive Culture. Eirikah also co-hosts the CSPC’s monthly online erotic co-writing and reading event, Wicked Wordplay. Her erotic writing (poetry and stories) has been published in five of the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival Literary Anthologies. 

8/15  3 pm    Everyday Power Exchange

8/16  10 am  Building Better Boundaries: Beyond Yes and No

8/16  1 pm    Making the Switch: Finding Your Flow

8/19  1 pm    Exploring Pervertables: Show and Tell!

Community Matters: Volunteering Makes the Hotness Happen!

Volunteer Appreciation!

It's no secret that the CSPC’s volunteers are the life of the party. Literally. Without your support the CSPC wouldn't be here. You create all our fun parties, keep our events safe and even take out the trash and clean the floors. Without you, none of this kinky fun would be possible!

As a “Thank you!” for all your hard work, the Board is putting together a day of fun in the sun on Sunday, July 23 from 12 to 6 p.m. Current CSPC volunteers with active Volgistics accounts (as well as up to two guests) are invited to this free, outdoor play party. (As this is outdoors, masks are optional. See our Volunteering web page for the simple steps to become a volunteer–it’s not too late to join us!)

Come on out for socializing, home cooked food, a swag raffle, lots of play time, and a pile of thank you's.

Our outdoor venue is located in Snohomish; address will be provided via email after registration. Register here today! Please consider carpooling as parking will be limited. Carpooling can be arranged on Discord or through the Volunteer Google Group. Please note any dietary restrictions during registration.

Thank you so much for all you do for the CSPC family! We'll see you on the 23rd for a big ol' Smack on the Back!

Advanced Volunteer Training

Ready to up your volunteering game? Join us online July 24 for advanced volunteer training! From 7-8 p.m. there will be Registration training for anyone interested in facilitating our front-of-house operations. If you have experience in customer service and like the idea of greeting our partygoers while smoothing their way to kinky enjoyment, this could be a great opportunity. 

From 8-9 p.m. we'll have a Monitor training classroom. Monitors are a key component of our mission. If you're passionate about consent culture, responsible kink, and just plain helping your fellow community members, please consider becoming one of our Monitors by taking this first step.

To sign up, simply follow these steps:

  • Log into Volgistics (if you haven't already created an account, use the new volunteer steps here to get started)

  • Select the “My Schedule” tab/menu item, then navigate to July 24

  • Use the “Schedule me” buttons to sign up for each class you plan to attend

A shortened link to the Zoom meeting is included in the shift information. Signing up in Volgistics for the classes will help us update accounts more quickly after each class as well as letting the team know you plan on attending (in case of any technical difficulties or similar, we can send a note to let you know what's going on).

If you have opted in for 'Schedule Reminder' communications, you will also receive the link via email 2 days before the training.

A couple of notes on training:

  • Monitor class attendees will have completed the first step on the path for monitoring. You'll work with monitorlead@thecspc.org to schedule shadow shifts for training with a monitor at events before you will be able to sign up for monitoring on your own.

  • Registration class attendees should be ready for shifts right away (please allow up to 1 week for Volgistics to be updated after class)

If you have any questions please send emails to eventsdirector@thecspc.org

Hope to see you there!

Frolic Stewardship Day: Date Change!

Stewardship Day 2 - Important Date Change!

Awesome CSPC Members!

Register for The Frolic stewardship day on the CSPC’s event page.

Date: Saturday, August 5 

Time: 10 a.m. – 3 p.m.

Payment: free meal for you + jokes, smiles, and camaraderie

Our own Frolic Stewardship opportunity in Buckley at Grove Getaways will be Saturday, Aug 5 and they will feed us! I just need to tell them how many to expect so they have enough food to feed everyone. 

I know, I know! So many events, so little time! It is well worth it! And they knocked quite a chunk of change off the rental fee if we'd do stewardship days, so please come out with some CSPC pride!

Please register on the stewardship day event page to receive all the necessary information!

This is outdoor work: cleaning, landscaping, building etc., to each person's capacity. Bring gloves, a water bottle, and wear "get dirty" clothes (not that kind, the other kind). The event starts around 9:30–10 a.m. Stay as long as you are able. Feel free to bring your own tools, but make sure they have your name on them.

These are amazing people and you are sure to have a good time. You will leave tired in body but reenergized in spirit!

Sign up today! 

Thank you!

Larry & The Frolic Team

Parties from the Past: Paradise Part 1

By Teeebone

The Frolic is coming in August! But did you know that The Frolic is based on an event from the past? It was called "Wet Spot in Paradise: The Gathering of the Tribes," though subsequently the name would be shortened to just "Paradise." It was first held on Labor Day weekend (August 30 to September 2, 2002) at the Longhouse. Four days and three nights of sex-positive camping fun! It was an ambitious project with an equally ambitious goal. Here are the details that were posted on the event website:

"The event will serve as the Wet Spot's Capital Campaign Fund Kickoff. The Wet Spot will be raising funds over the next several years to apply toward purchasing a building of our own. Our plans are to acquire a facility approximately three times the size of our current building so we can offer simultaneous functions and an expanded selection of events for our members and constituent communities. All proceeds above expenses from this event will go directly to the Wet Spot Capital Campaign Fund. More information about The Capital Campaign and future fundraisers will be coming your way over the next few months."

With an admission price of $100 per person for the full four day weekend and one-day passes (11 a.m. to 11 p.m.) for $50 (Saturday and Sunday) and $25 (Friday and Monday) respectively, it was a pretty good deal. By the way, did I mention there were also meals included? Once again, from the website:

"To begin the celebration with a sense of community and sharing, Friday Dinner will be a potluck. Please bring your favorite dish and share it with us. We'll furnish water, coffee, juice, tea, dessert, and plenty of marshmallows for roasting over the gathering fires that evening. Saturday morning you'll awake to a continental breakfast and Saturday evening we'll be hosting a classic cookout at the facility's new outdoor cook shack. Sunday morning, continental breakfast will again be served, then Sunday evening we'll treat everyone to a delicious country BBQ dinner and desserts. Monday brunch will be our final common meal. A hospitality area will be maintained with snacks and beverages throughout the duration of the gathering. Communal cooking areas and common grills will also be available for those who want to prepare food at times other than common mealtimes."

The venue itself was 90 acres of beautiful and secluded land well suited for camping. The grounds were clothing optional and included an indoor heated pool, indoor and outdoor hot tubs, inside and outside areas for play and sex, and grassy lawns for sunbathing or lounging. The property was wooded and had many trails to hike and several lakes. In addition to the open campground and reserved group areas, there were men-only and women-only spaces for both camping and playing. There were also dedicated spaces for BDSM play, sex play, a Venus/Aphrodite Temple, an outdoor stage for live music, and many other unique forms of entertainment.

On the topic of entertainment, it was a bit of a free-for-all back then. I'm not sure there were even classes or workshops on the schedule, maybe there were a few. I seem to remember some live music performances…. By the following year though, things would get more organized, and a planned schedule that included classes, workshops, concerts, and speakers would steadily improve the quality of future iterations of Paradise.

As you can see, this event had humble beginnings that would gradually expand over time, from a long weekend to a full week. Considering that Paradise was a consistently excellent annual event that ran for 13 years, that's impressive. And today we have The Frolic, which is clearly taking a similar path of gathering kinksters to go camping, have fun, and live their best lives.

Be a part of history in the making and join us at The Frolic August 15-20!

Consent Corner 23.10

By Emma Atkinson 

Hello darlings! Who's in favor of continuing to celebrate Pride through July? Okay, let's do it!

Today might be a good day to consider and express your gratitude. Actually, you could probably say that on any given day. To whom have you given your consent, and for what? 

Melody Beattie notes that gratitude "can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend." For me, when I can change my thought of "I have to do this" into "I get to do this," that's when the gates of paradise swing open. 

I'm grateful to you, reading this column and giving me the opportunity to explore the beauty of consent. There are many people behind the scenes who work tirelessly to make the newsletter happen. Please thank them when you get the chance.

Homework: It's July, who wants homework? Other than me, probably no one, so please enjoy the gifts of the season. Share your enjoyment with us at: info@thecspc.org.

"Be excellent to each other." —Bill and Ted

"Be sexcellent to each other." —Emma

Flowers' Garden: Managing Drop

By Flowers

Engaging in BDSM dynamics can be an incredible experience for those involved. However, it's important to acknowledge that after such intense scenes, both Dominants/Tops and submissives/bottoms may experience a temporary emotional and physical downturn known as "drop." Understanding drop and having good strategies to manage it is important for maintaining the well-being and mental health of all participants. In this article, we will explore ways to navigate and manage drop through aftercare and self-care practices.

Understanding Drop

Drop refers to the emotional and physical effects that people may experience after heavy BDSM scenes. It can manifest as feelings of vulnerability or sadness, mood swings, fatigue, or even a sense of disconnection from reality. It is essential to recognize that sub (or Top) drop is a normal response to the intense experience and the release of endorphins during BDSM play.

Communication and Negotiation

Effective communication is key to managing drop. Before engaging in any BDSM scene, both the dom and sub should openly discuss aftercare expectations and preferences. Discuss the type of physical and emotional support that both people may require post-scene. This conversation should also include establishing safe words or signals to ensure that everyone can communicate their needs during the scene.

Aftercare

Aftercare refers to the care and attention shared after a scene to promote emotional and physical well-being. Aftercare can involve various activities tailored to the individual's needs and preferences. Some common aftercare practices include:

  • Physical Comfort: Provide the submissive with warmth and physical comfort through cuddling, gentle touch, or a warm blanket.

  • Verbal Reassurance: Offer words of affirmation, reassurance, and praise to help the Dominant and/or submissive feel loved, valued, and secure.

  • Hydration and Nourishment: Encourage the bottom to drink water and provide nourishing snacks or a meal to replenish energy levels.

  • Emotional Support: Engage in open and nonjudgmental conversations to discuss the scene and any emotions or concerns that arose, and provide a safe space for both partners to express themselves.

Self-Care for Drop Management

Kinksters should also practice self-care to manage drop effectively. Here are some self-care strategies to consider:

  • Rest and Recovery: Allow yourself time to rest, sleep, and recover after intense scenes. Listen to your body's signals and prioritize adequate rest.

  • Engage in Soothing Activities: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and self-soothing. This could include taking a warm bath, practicing mindfulness or meditation, reading a book, or listening to calming music.

  • Journaling: Reflect on your emotions and thoughts by journaling. This can help you process your experiences and gain insights into your emotional well-being.

  • Reach Out for Support: If needed, reach out to your scene partner, friends, or a support network within the BDSM community. Discussing your experiences with understanding individuals can be incredibly helpful.

Managing drop is an essential aspect of responsible BDSM play. By prioritizing open communication, negotiating aftercare expectations, and practicing self-care, both Tops and bottoms can navigate the post-scene emotional and physical effects more effectively. Remember, everyone's experience of drop is unique, so it is crucial to listen to your own needs and engage in strategies that work best for you.

Extra Frolic Sparkle--Surprise Yurt!

SURPRISE!

The forest fairies have been hard at work down in Buckley. Another beautiful yurt has sprung from the ground! It's called the Prism Yurt!

Nothing else is going to be built, so this really is the last chance you have to stay in an 18-foot yurt with a queen-size bed! 

Place your bids in the surprise auction of this 5th yurt today! 

Make sure to buy your Frolic ticket as well! The auction does NOT include tickets to camp.

Frolic Presenter Bios: The Awesome Continues!

Hawk35 aka Nick

Nick is your average kinky person who has been around for longer than he likes to admit. His journey into kink started on the east coast in bars and basements doing what is now considered "western" bondage and flogger play. Over time, his interests expanded to include more shibari-influenced styles of bondage, blood play, needle play, CNC play, electro, and a wider range of impact. As he grew into his kink, he sought out educators who were skilled and credentialed (when possible) to learn from. He considers sharing the knowledge he's gathered a key part of giving back to his community. He has been a Board member and Board President of the CSPC, and is an educator, but always a student.  

8/16  1 pm  Needles 101 – Intro to Needle Play

8/18  1 pm  Class Needles 201 – Needles that Hurt

8/19  10 am  Stomping & Kicking – Painful Fun with Feet 

Skitty

Skitty (she/her) is a cis woman, pansexual, polyamorous, kinky submissive, living in Woodinville, Washington. A lifelong educator, Skitty began teaching special education in her country of origin, Canada, before moving to the United States. Several years ago, Skitty had the privilege to transition to full-time volunteering, mostly within the sex-positive community. Throughout her life, Skitty has utilized the power of education to increase understanding and compassion and to empower individuals and communities. She is passionate about negotiation and consent. She began talking about sex back in 1994 in her volunteer role as a safer sex and transmission reduction educator for the Kingston AIDS Project and continues to do so as the current Board President for the Center for Sex Positive Culture. 

8/15  3 pm  Sensual Scene Negotiation

8/18  3 pm  3-Minute Game (Skitty & Al)

Seq! aka getsequentialized is our Featured Presenter! Check out the July 20 newsletter for all their deets!