Ask a (Sex-Positive!) REALTORⓇ

by Rebecca Bingham

Hello friends! I'm Becca, (MissBeccaBee on fet), and I'm your local polyam, fat, chronically ill, neurodiverse, trans competent, queer, femme, kinky real estate agent. Yes, those are a lot of intersections, which means I grok a lot of people and situations.

I'm currently based in Snohomish county, but I'm regularly all over the I5 corridor from Camano Island to Vancouver, WA. I've been in the Seattle kink community for 20 years, and part of the Seattle leather community for over a decade. I prioritize discretion, integrity, and dignity in my business, and I'm looking forward to serving the kink and polyam communities for your specific housing needs!

Our homes are central to our well being. Many of us work, learn, love, and play in these spaces that are so much more than simply shelter from the elements–they reflect us and support us in all the varied aspects of our lives. I work with kink-aware lenders, lawyers, and other professionals to help you navigate your own homeownership journey.

Here I'll be sharing tips, advice, and cute stories from my life as a kinky Realtor (and retired phone sex operator). I would love this to be a write-in advice column! Please message me on Fetlife, or on FB, and of course, I won't mention your name.

Let’s start with a couple of quick tips for kinky homeownership and investment!

How to make a bedroom/playroom quieter:

One of the easiest ways to soundproof a room is with soft furnishings. That's why bedrooms, living rooms, and stairs are so often carpeted. Everything you can think of that creates a shape can dampen or accentuate sounds. One of the cheapest ways is by adding lined drapes or even blankets over your windows. Having multiple layers of fabric between you and the window prevents shapes from being backlit and breaks up sound waves. You can also get acoustic tiles designed to muffle, but if you aren't worried about what it looks like and are on a budget, buy some egg crate-type foam mattresses. They do a fairly good job when put vertically on an outside wall, and you can put something decorative over it to hide it. Putting down an area rug or a few throw rugs on hardwoods in bedrooms/playrooms is also helpful. Pro tip: If you are building a new home, you can ask for thicker insulation to be put in. It will keep your house at a more even temperature year-round and help soundproof the rooms, both to the outside and from each other. The installer won't even blink at the request.

Did you know? 

You can buy a multi-family house of up to four units, and if you live in one of them for at least three years as your primary residence, you can still use a regular FHA loan. How perfect for a polycule or private short-term dungeon rentals (depending on the rules/laws in the area–which we can look into)!

So hello and welcome! Please send me your questions to answer, and if you or someone you know is looking to buy or sell a house, please connect with me via my website or on social media. I'm delighted to do the leg work for referrals outside of the state to make sure of a best fit for complicated housing needs or share resources for all your nesting or moving needs.