At the Center for Sex Positive Culture, we do not allow the use of intoxicants of any kind, and we do not allow intoxicated people to enter or play at our events. These policies are followed strictly, and if we have reason to believe that you are intoxicated, you may be denied entry to or required to leave an event. Depending on the situation, you might also lose your membership entirely. The general rule of thumb we use is, if you cannot not safely operate a motor vehicle, you cannot enter our events.
But why?
There are a number of good reasons for this policy. First, being impaired reduces your capacity to consent to the kind of delicious fun that happens at our events. We don’t want somebody sobering up to discover they had a lot of fun that they would normally *not* have chosen to engage in. This is the stuff that consent incidents are made of.
Second, being impaired reduces your ability to gauge and monitor the consent of other people you meet and potentially play with. To put this more bluntly, having your beer goggles (or blunt goggles) on can make you come across as pushy to a person you’re interested in playing with, while you may be under the illusion that the conversation is going just fine. Being intoxicated has a tendency to create drama (another thing that we ask people to keep out of our spaces).
Third, the kind of activities many of us engage in at the CSPC can already create a potent mix of chemicals that are often described as intoxicating, if not transcendent. You can feel like you’re flying, but you should do so safely. It is unwise to mix these stimuli with other intoxicants, especially if you’re new to BDSM play and kink.
Fourth, some of the activities we do here require your coordination to be at its best. You are far more likely to accidentally strike or cut someone when you are impaired, and that will create a bad evening for both parties.
Fifth, intoxicants interfere with your ability to self-assess things like pain, numbness, tingling, etc. For many kinds of play, being able to keep tabs on your condition and report it to the person you’re playing with is critical. You want good memories from your evening of fun, not an unintended scar or nerve damage.
Finally, we lack the volunteer staff to assist you if you accidentally take too much of something, or the mix of substances and play turns out to be too much in combination. At best we would have to ask you to leave an event, and your fun is over for the evening. At worst, we might need to shut down the event so that an ambulance can come to get you, and everybody’s fun is over for the evening.
These are just some of the reasons that we adhere to this policy. What you do in your own time and in other spaces is most certainly your business, but we do ask you to keep all intoxicants out of our spaces and not attend if you find yourself intoxicated. You can always email us if you’ve accidentally taken too much of something, and we’ll happily move your ticket to another event at which you can come and take part while sober.
Stay safe and stay sexy,
The CSPC Board