Paddlepalooza: Paddles on Parade!

We are proud to parade the pervalicious paddles donated for the impending Paddlepalooza promotion! The priority deadline of January 15 is approaching posthaste, but there’s still time to participate!

Here is our artist entry form. For a $25 donation to the CSPC, you will get a plain pinewood paddle to make pretty or perilous–or both! Present it back to our Paddlepalooza personnel by January 15th, and we will have plenty of time to put its picture (and any artist info/links you provide) in our portfolio. Late submissions will be accepted until January 31st for the auction, but the sooner your paddle is proffered, the more prolonged the period of provocation and passionate pursuit.

Our Paddlepalooza artist prizes are primed to please! The paddles that pull in the most pay at auction will procure for their producers:

1st Prize – a week’s stay in Hawaii*, with a panoramic view of the powerful Pacific!

2nd Prize -- $100 to put in your pocket!

3rd Prize – A free year of CSPC membership!

*No holidays and subject to availability; airfare not included.

Peruse the paddle parade (more pictures pending!), plan your purchase, and join the pack of artists plying their provocative productions. 

Consent Corner 2.6

by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake

Hello sexy readers, and happy 2022!  We’re so glad you’re here with us in the coolest community ever:  Sex-Positive Kids! (™)

C’mon, really?  Of course we’re sex positive.  Who would ever argue that sex should be negative??  Not us, that’s for sure.

How were your holidays?  If it’s true that whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, then we’re officially wonder women at this point.  Moving on…

Did the advice we offered last time help you navigate some of your relationships?  These are definitely trying times and add in the holidays- yeesh.  Remember that each day gives you the opportunity to do something - anything, really - a little better than you did it yesterday.  We like to say that what’s “better” is what enhances your body, mind, and spirit.  Your mileage may vary.  

Some days are more challenging than others - as are some whole months and years.  Here’s a resolution for 2022 that we suggest:  practice more gratitude.  Somehow, gratitude seems to soften us, and life feels a little easier.  

Thank volunteers at CSPC parties - they’re making all that fun you’re having possible.  Thank members of the CSPC online groups you attend - they’re giving you support, encouragement, and useful information to help you on your life’s journey.  Thank the people who are active on the Discord server - Fleur and Connie and their minions are doing great work building a thriving community.  Thank people you meet at munches for helping you meet wonderful people like them at munches.  Thank the Board for helping make stuff happen.  The CSPC is you and it’s us.  Members are doing everything for us - other members.  

It’s a funny thing - gratitude seems to be a win-win-win approach to just about any situation. The recipient feels good, you feel good, and life looks a little bit brighter.  And, do you know what makes life even brighter?  Volunteering.  Be the change you want to see in your world.  And meet great kinky people while you’re doing it!  

A friend of ours wrote a song called “It’s Hard to be Mad When You’re Singing.”  It’s true - you can sing and be mad, but it’s hard to do both at the same time.  We suggest that it’s hard to be mad when you’re grateful.  

Homework:  What if you expressed your gratitude 5% more than usual this month?  What could happen?  Please find out.

Would you like to share a discovery - Earth shattering or otherwise?  We’re at info@thecspc.org.  

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel 

Community Matters

By Kelly McAllister

Why does the CSPC community matter to me, you ask?

Simply put, this community changed my life.

My community affords me the acceptance and space to live more authentically and to accept myself more readily. I strive to live without pretense in every realm of my life and in many ways, this is easy. Both my self concept and esteem are pretty solid and I know that folks see me through the lens of their perception (thanks to don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements).

However, I had a hard time not judging myself for the things I like, and honestly have liked as far back as my adolescence. Finding the community at the CSPC allowed me to see that not only am I not alone in my kinky predilections, but some of the people who like the same things I do are truly amazing human beings. 

I really don't have many vanilla friends now and those who are, aren't judgemental. This shift allowed me to be more authentic, more of the time. I don't have to separate my sexual life from the other aspects of myself, so it simply integrated, rather than feeling like an isolated part of me. While my sex/kink life is certainly a large part of me, it no longer feels so separate - so siloed. I am simply me, which feels beautiful.

Thank you to everyone in this community with whom I've crossed paths, either for a moment or continuously for years.

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Kelly sits on the CSPC’s working Board of Directors and serves as our HR Director. She welcomes conversations with damn near everyone, and is hard at work recruiting members/volunteers and helping those new to kink develop ways to explore their sexuality safely. She can be reached at kelly@thecspc.org.

Join our community today! Register for New Member Orientation or renew your membership on our Membership page.

Already a member, but want stronger connections through more involvement with the CSPC community? Join our team of volunteers! Both party and non-party volunteer roles are open now.  

Black Ties & Alibis - An "Intriguing" New Year’s Eve Gala!

The Mysterious Anonymous–Part Deux

I shivered slightly in the entryway of the Gallery as I waited to check in. Although I was wearing a shimmery, barely-there dress as Anonymous had instructed, I wasn't cold--just excited. The scene before me unfolded with as much mystery and throbbing desire as the weeks of teasing correspondence promised. I craned my neck to scan the room. Where was Anonymous? How would I even recognize them in this room of sexy bodies dressed to kill? 

Anonymous had been dropping clues as we texted, in between messages that made my nipples hard and my panties wet–growing up somewhere they learned to be good at keeping secrets… “camouflage,” they said. And something about quilts. But how would those details help me identify my secret admirer?

I fingered the five “microchips” I was given at check in, wondering how to spend them. A mocktail at the bar? A tarot reading to shed some light on the mysterious Anonymous? (other?)  I strolled through the Gallery, moving sinuously to the music that filled the space. There was a beautiful woman in black leather smiling wickedly down on a man kneeling at her feet over in the corner. Another woman was squirming against the cross as her Mistress brought a riding crop down across her juicy ass in perfect time with the music’s beat.

A bearded man in a tuxedo was sitting for a bootblack. Mmmmm…. Tuxedo and boots! Another sexy human in a trench coat and fedora winked at me before graciously accepting a mocktail from the bartender. Could this be Anonymous? I started moving toward the bar, but as they tangled their fingers in the hair of the person next to them and led them toward the dance floor, I realized I’d been mistaken.

“One microchip to have your cards read,’ the Tarot reader called to me. 

Why not? I thought, and handed her one of my chips. As she shuffled the deck of cards, she asked me to think of my question. 

“Actually, I said, I’m looking for someone in particular. Someone mysterious, who invited me to this party. Can the cards help me find them?”

She winked at me. Again, with the winking. “I think a lot of people are looking for your friend Anonymous. Seems to be a game they like to play. I can offer you a clue, if you’d like, for the price of another microchip. Oh, and your cards say that you will meet someone with a message for you, and that you’ll find what you are looking for, although it may take some time.”

Come help us unravel the secret of Anonymous and partake in the intriguing delights of Black Ties and Alibis on NYE!

Gallery Erato - 309 1st Ave S.

Friday, December 31, 8:30 pm - 12:30 am

CSPC Members and Invited Guests, 18+ with ID

Tickets: $50

Dress to impress as we uncover seductive secrets at the final BDSM party of 2021! Your entry includes:

  • Dance floor & music by our “licensed to thrill” professional DJs

  • Generous BDSM playspace

  • Myselfspace for solo, voyeur, exhibitionist fun

  • Spy game (opt-in) “Codenames” 

  • Tantalizing Interrogation Scene

  • Guess who Anonymous is to win an amazing “Date Night & the Morning After” Basket (one winner)

  • A midnight virgin(!) toast

  • 5 Microchips to be used towards our premium perks!

 Premium Perks:

  • Tarot Reading

  • Bootblacking for your luscious leather

  • Mocktails including Mystery Mimosas, the Shirley Templar, and our own Secret Cider

  • Commemorative photo

  • Extra clues to who Anonymous is

  • Live Auction for fabulous next level tools of the trade and a Paddlepalooza preview!

  • Sybian Rides

  • Additional Microchips may be purchased at the party $20/20 by donation online at the Registration table

Come discover lifestyle decadence as we ring in the New Year together!

Intrigued? Join us! Party tickets must be pre-purchased online!

Consent 2.5

by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake


Hello treasured readers!  We’re so grateful for your continued support and encouragement.  

We talked a lot about building solid foundations on respect, understanding  the pillar of capacity, yours and theirs, and envisioning the way our consent frameworks could look. As you are embarking on interactions and potential gatherings during this season, it’s a great time to examine how and when you get (and give) information. 

With celebrations aplenty, all with varying levels of safety as we are in the midst of a pandemic, getting, or giving, all of the information you need about an event is important to the health and safety of you and those you hold dear. If you are hosting the event, it’s a great idea to have a “Pandemic Plan” and let your guests know in advance, as well as details like: How many people will be attending? Indoors or out, what kind of airflow? Masks? Vaccination/test status? And any other details that might help you keep your loved ones safe.  

We all have varying levels of comfort, when it comes to socially interacting, so first, know yourself. What are you comfortable with? What are your “hard no’s”? Where you have been, and with whom? Was the event or gathering open air, or inside; masked or unmasked? These are great pieces of information to share with potential merry-makers you want to see and interact with. Just like a “safer” sex talk, we can share information in the same way, as well as request it from others. You can help make it an easy conversation by sharing with care, curiosity, and compassion.   

We wish you the warmest, happiest, merriest, cuddliest, jolliest, holiest, and sexiest holiday season possible!  And we wish you a consent-filled 2022!

Homework:  Please do your utmost to enjoy the holiday season to the maximum extent possible.  You can share holiday greetings with us at info@thecspc.org. 

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel 

Community Matters

By Eirikah Delaunay


Huge thanks to our Volunteers of the Month as recognized at the Board Meeting on December 8, 2021. Nicole and Shelley have worked hours upon hours to help prepare and organize the CSPC’s volunteer team that is so essential to our Community. Since our organization is entirely volunteer run and led, this is an enormous undertaking! Nicole and Shelley’s work makes everything else we do at the CSPC possible. Thank you, Nicole and Shelley!

Speaking of volunteers, the more volunteers we have able to serve at events, the more events we can offer. Volunteering is also a fantastic way to get to know other CSPC members and build your personal circle of friends within the larger Community. Join the volunteer team today!

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Now is also an excellent time to purchase a membership renewal. Standard membership dues will be going up to $10/month for monthly membership or $100 per year for annual membership in January 2022, with Reduced ($5/month) and Supporter ($20/month) membership levels available to allow members to easily select the price point that best reflects their ability to support the Community that adds so much to all our lives. Renewing by December 31 lets you lock in our current rates (only $5 per month) for up to a year. Treat yourself this holiday season to the gift of CSPC membership. You can give yourself access to all our Community benefits--our play parties, discussion groups, Discord server, etc.--for a whole year to come!

There will also be a change in our Discussion Groups in the new year. Beginning in February, Discussion Groups will still be free for members, but will cost $5 for non-members. Membership is $10/month, so if you’re going to two Discussion Groups, your membership is essentially paid for!  To become a member, sign up for a New Member Orientation here!

However you contribute to the CSPC Community, thank you! Your generosity of time, money, thought, and energy is what makes our Community what it is. 

Paddlepalooza Prize Proclamation

Pleasantries to our plethora of producers, proponents, and patrons of pretty paddles! Our Paddlepalooza promotion is picking up the pace, and we have at present picked up some paddles that are, to put it plainly, the pussy’s pajamas!

We’ll have a gallery of photos up on the website presently – a parade of paddle pictures for you to peruse. Meanwhile, we are preparing for the Paddlepalooza auction, which is planned for February 1-5, so we can get paddles out to the winning bidders in time for Valentine’s day (the perfect way to proclaim your passion for a paramour is the presentation of a posh paddle).

Is there still time to pick up a paddle and prepare it for Paddlepalooza participation? Positively! Here is our artist entry form. For a $25 donation to the CSPC, you will get a plain pinewood paddle to pretty up til it’s the pink of perfection. Present it back to our Paddlepalooza personnel by January 15th, and we will have plenty of time to put its picture (and any artist info/links you proffer) in our portfolio of pretty paddles. Late submissions will be accepted until January 31st for the auction, but the sooner your paddle is passed back to us, the more protracted the period for people to pine over its pretty picture prior to auction.

Finally, we have our Paddlepalooza prizes to announce! The paddles that pull in the most pay at auction will procure for their producers:

  • 1st Prize – a week’s stay in Hawaii*, with a panoramic view of the powerful Pacific!

  • 2nd Prize -- $100 to put in your pocket!

  • 3rd Prize – A free year of CSPC membership!

    *No holidays and subject to availability; airfare not included.

Do these prizes please or persuade you? Do they prompt you to procure them? Perfect! Now ponder, plan, pick up a paddle, and put together the most pulchritudinous piece you can produce, posthaste!

It's Femme Dominion, Pervs!

By Mistress Katherine and Eirikah Delaunay

Let’s set the stage with a little Femme Dominion mood music….

The first-ever Femme Dominion party is just two weeks away--December 18! Tell me a little bit about the Party Champion team.

Femme Dominion’s intrepid Party Champions are Moneek, flame-haired, vertically-gifted Enchantress, Sonatina, who might actually be Selina Kyle, and myself, Mistress Katherine, an always mischievous, sometimes maternal, Muppet. Each of us are long- standing members of the CSPC with over a decade and a half of community involvement under our leather corsets. Inspired by the social restrictions of the pandemic, we all felt a renewed motivation to make sure that the type of party we most wanted to attend ended up on the CSPC calendar. Hence Femme Dominion was born!

I loved the Ladies' Sovereign Tea and Women On Top, and I'm excited to see Femme Dominion joining the lineup of in-person parties at the CSPC! Tell me about your inspiration for this party. What kind of atmosphere are you and your team creating?

Our event is heavily inspired by the Women on Top party and the Ladies’ Sovereign Tea. Both events were strong favorites for all our Party Champions and Sonatina was part of the WoT team. Back in the Interbay location days the Tea was one of the reasons I started The Chateau. Then as now, our desire was to create more opportunities for Femme identified people to explore power dynamics, with each other as well as appreciative others.

Who will enjoy this party?

If you enjoyed the vibes of those two previous Femme-focused parties you’ll probably enjoy our groove as well. But if you didn’t get the chance to check those events out, the appeal is a Femme-led space. So anyone who appreciates that energy being more represented among other attendees, whether or not Femme is a part of their own identity, will fit right in. But if you are a Top who is partially or entirely Femme-identified, OR someone who loves to bottom for that demographic, well then you’re in for a particular treat.

What kinds of activities will there be?

While the focus is more of a play party than a sex party, both activities are actively encouraged. From conversations I’ve been having with other pent up pervs, I suspect many scenes will be hot, intense, and often on the heavy sensation side. I know I’m looking forward to dusting off my whips and zappy toys. Conversely, lots of folks have been feeling a lack of touch and connection lately, both socially and sexually. As a result I think the event vibe will be pretty sensual and notably flirty.

Will there be flagging? Pickup play? Activities for folks attending single?

One of our not-so-secret agendas is to grow our community by helping folks get to know each other and by getting all the lovely pervs we know hooked up! To that end, we have our opening hour conversation salon and will supply name tags with pronoun stickers for those who want them. For the more adventurous, we’ll have wristband flagging for attendees to signal to other guests their openness to being asked to play as well as their preferred power position.

So much hotness! What excites you the most about creating and attending this party?

I think like a lot of folks right now, we’re all just so freakin’ excited to be able to gather again at all, let alone gather and get our kink on. As a solid voyeur, being in a space with a bunch of beautiful pervs all being their best sexy selves has been sorely missed. Also, I mentioned whips and electric toys right?

What advice would you offer someone who is thinking about attending the inaugural Femme Dominion?

I definitely suggest that people try to make it to the first hour of the event (7-8pm) for our conversation salon if they are new to the CSPC, generally socially anxious, or just out of practice attending play parties…which these days covers a lot of us. It can be a bit more challenging chatting up new people once play begins, so that first hour is meant to give folks a chance to introduce themselves and get comfy in the space.

Event Details?

Our first event is Saturday, December 18th. Doors open for the conversation-only part of our festivities at 7pm. The play start pistol goes off at 8pm, and things wrap up at midnight. There's a new member orientation immediately preceding the event at 6pm for folks who haven't yet completed this necessary step toward CSPC membership.Tickets are $25 and must be purchased online in advance--get them here! In order to reduce Covid risks, only 100 tickets will be sold, vaccination is required, and masks must stay on except for eating, drinking, or using your mouth in a scene. If we are as successful as we're gearing up to be, we'll be back again in February if you can't make it this month.

Any last thoughts to share with our readers?

Whether you knew it before, or whether you’ve come to realize it in the last year and a half, Community matters. Gathering amongst like-minded peeps is about social support as much as it's about hot kinky scenes. So if you’ve been desperately craving both, we’ve got you covered. Come make some new friends, reconnect with familiar faces, and revel in the unapologetic pervert you are--with us!