Myself!--No In-Person NMO in August

Mmmmmm….Myself! 

Love to watch? Love to be watched? Myself! is the party for you!  

The party is named Myself! to emphasize the personal nature of this party. What gets you excited? Stripping, lap dancing, gang bangs, bukkake, dirty talk, just watching, chatting with people, group sex, hitachi, watching porn? Come do it at Myself!

Myself! is a wonderful sex-friendly masturbation party that’s about consent, perverted ideas and watching. Opening Circle at 6:30 is required for everyone who has not attended a circle this year.

Myself! usually welcomes new members with a New Member Orientation (NMO) before each party. However, in August we will NOT be having an in-person NMO right before the party due to the timing of other events in the Gallery Erato space that day.

Not yet a member, but want to attend Myself! in August? You can attend New Member Orientation before another event earlier in the month (before Fresh Meet on 8/5 or Power Play Mixed-Tape on 8/13), or you can attend our online NMO from the comfort of home on 8/11!

Hope to see you there!

Consent Corner 2.17

by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake 

Hello again, dear readers!  It’s the dog days of summer, and if you feel the urge to howl at the moon or any celestial object at all, please go right ahead.  

Speaking of consent, the number of COVID cases is ramping up along with social interactions, and how about those masks?  When should I wear it?  What if I’m wearing a mask and I join a group in conversation who are all unmasked?  Or, vice versa, I’m unmasked and the group is not - what then?  

Neither of us is a medical authority.  We do, however, suggest that you be mindful when such situations arise.  Get the best information you can, consider what is best for you and the situation, and then trust your gut.  

Your personal autonomy always gives you the right to decide what’s best for you.  You may need to ask for a change in the situation, or you may need to leave.  Being mindful can help you figure out what’s best then and there.  

You have the opportunity to practice a superpower that mystifies a lot of people: how to be the one to start a difficult conversation.  One way to start a challenging conversation is by pointing out what’s going on.  You could say “I’m not masked and all of you are.”  

What next? Practice another superpower–kindness. You could ask for what you want or ask others what they want. You can leave if it seems wise. Gathering more information about how you can uphold the autonomy of others you want to engage with doesn’t have to be complex. Finding out what they are comfortable with by asking questions like, “I don’t have a mask on me, would you be more comfortable with me standing 6ft away or should we connect another time?”   

The kindness really comes into play when you accept whatever answer you are given with grace and a good attitude. It’s okay to be disappointed or feel your feelings, but upholding the autonomy of others, and creating a situation where everyone feels safe to state their needs (including “no”) without retaliation or negative reactions is important to healthy consent agreements.  

These suggestions are simple, but many people find that they are not easy at first; with practice they will come naturally.  In the beginning, you may need to muster all the courage you can to handle challenging situations with the kind of grace you will remember fondly, but it’s worth it!  Try practicing with people in your life that you know and trust. We’re pretty sure that you have the courage you need already inside you just waiting for the chance to help you out.  

Homework:  Start some conversations about masks and let us know how it went at:  info@thecspc.org

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel 

It's Time to FROLIC!

The CSPC’s Frolic camping events are right around the corner! This year we’re having two weekends, each with food provided (including taco bar)! Our first event kicks off at 10 am tomorrow morning (7/22), but it’s not too late to join the fun–while our VIP rooms are taken, we still have a few tickets for July’s hot hot camping event available! 

And for the next level in glamping, be sure to put in a bid for our indoor VIP rooms for the August weekend. The two highest bidders will win a room for the whole weekend, with access to an indoor bathroom and shower, for themselves and a plus one!

In keeping with this year’s theme, From Fantasy to Fulfillment, in July we’ve got our famous lube slip-n-slide, a Talent Show, and the Dating Game. In August we’re thrilled to present our Kinky Carnival and Kinky Olympic Games! Plus all the education and skills share talent you can imagine–from sexy communication skills and dessert topping to fireplay, needles, impact play and more! See our full event schedule here and buy your tickets at the links below before they’re gone:

2022 Frolic Weekend 1 (July 22-24)--Know Yourself: Needs, Wants, Cravings

2022 Frolic Weekend 2 (August 3-5)--Know the Game: Mind, Body, Energy

This is a members and their guests only CSPC event. You can renew your membership through our Member Portal. Love to join us this weekend, but not yet a member? We’ve got you covered! We’ll be offering on site orientation for folx who would like to attend this event but who are not yet CSPC members. Just email frolic@theCSPC.org to purchase tickets and schedule new member orientation for this weekend’s event.

Hope to see you there! The only hotness we are missing is YOU!  

Wicked Wordplay--Turning Up the Heat!

by Eirikah Delaunay

Wicked Wordplay is coming up on Wednesday, July 27, from 6-8pm! This online event creates space for erotic co-writing and reading within a supportive container of creative, sexy humans. Every month, we stoke the flames of hotness, we laugh, we swoon, we applaud wildly in delight. 

Co-hosts Chel and Eirikah offer a new prompt each month to guide the co-writing time in our first 30 minutes together, then attendees share their writing aloud with the group if they wish. This event is NOT a writing workshop; it’s more like an erotica reading with a quiet half hour of writing together in our own separate spaces up front (which is awesome for those of us who struggle to squeeze fun writing time into our daily lives).

Everything about our time together is open to personal choice. Not inspired by this month’s prompt? Write about whatever is juicy for you! Not feeling like reading this month? Sit back and enjoy listening! Not a writer at all, but love erotica? Come hang out with us and soak up all the yumminess in community! 

What do our prompts look like? Here are some examples from the past few months:

• Play Space: Imagine your ideal sensual/sexual environment. Is it a BDSM dungeon, wild outdoors, cozy bedroom, or some other special place? Write a detailed description.

• Sensational Sexytimes: Imagine a scenario you find arousing and describe the scene/action as experienced through all your senses.

• Random Word Generator: Go to RandomWordGenerator.com to get a word. Extrapolate a scene using the random word as inspiration.

• Show us your Pride! Write something that celebrates your unique sexual and sensual desires and identity.

And of course, there’s the one writer who brings us a Chuck Tingle parody for our giggly delight every month…. ;)

Want another taste of yum? Join the Wicked Wordplay group on Fetlife! Be sure to check out our stickies for group guidelines, erotica recommendations, and a spot to share your own sexy writing prompt ideas.

All are welcome–this event is free for CSPC members and only $5 for non-members. After you register for the event here, you’ll receive an email with the Zoom link to join us. 

Didn’t receive the link? Other questions? Email us at wickedwordplay@thecspc.org! 

Community Matters: Volunteering FTW!

by Eirikah Delaunay

Whether you’ve been a CSPC member for 20 years or 20 minutes, volunteering is the very best way to get the most out of the sex positive community. As a volunteer, you can get to know other members of the community while creating the sex positive events and connections you want most! 

Here’s what some volunteers had to say about their experience:

“(I’ve learned) the name for the thrill I get in helping. (As a volunteer) I can stave off social anxiety, (and) I can spread accurate knowledge in a non-judgmental and free manner.” –Bridge, volunteer of six months

“I’ve met with more of the great people who make the CSPC what it is: a unique and wonderfully supportive community of honest, open people. Learning, teaching, exploring together and supporting each other.” –Explorer_271, volunteer of nine months

“Volunteering is like getting to hang out with my friends. (It makes me feel) like I'm making a safe, sexy place for others to gather at, which is so nice.” –Aileen, volunteer of five years

“You will get more in knowledge, community connection, and self exploration than the effort you put into volunteering.” –Explorer_271, volunteer of nine months

“It's your community; you'll get out of it in proportion to what you put into it.” –Temptr, volunteer of 19 years

You can be part of a volunteer team that makes the hotness happen, whether you’re working at a party or helping out with all the behind-the-scenes work of the CSPC organization. Begin the process by completing the online volunteer orientation and volunteer application form here! We are created and run by members, for members, and we need YOU!

Hump History Year Five: The Fifth to Mention

by Teeebone

In 2012, the Hump was entering its fifth year of operation. The party had become a routine weekly event that new members often attended as their first CSPC party, creating a great first impression of the sex-positive community in general.

But along with the ever-lengthening track record, there was the week-to-week task of keeping the party fully staffed. Most of the original crew had left for personal or professional reasons by this time because “life happens,” and we were challenged to keep the party volunteer positions filled. Thanks to our volunteer training program, our successive waves of volunteers who stepped in to take over these open slots were just as effective as the original crew. With the official curtailment of impact play at the Hump enacted during the previous summer, changes in staff, and a desire to pursue other projects within the CSPC, one of the founders of the Hump decided to head out to become a host of another party and put together a new quarterly party as well. They announced their departure in early July, and after that I found myself handling even more responsibilities than before. Learning how to manage, delegate, and communicate effectively became crucial.

In August, a number of new innovations were introduced to the Volunteer Corps, including an EC Report Template that made for better and more detailed EC Reports. I put together a schedule template that helped make organizing the weekly Hump volunteer roster much easier. The volunteer training program continued to expand to help with the ongoing demand for staff for other parties and events, because at this point there was something happening almost every day at the CSPC. By the end of the year, I was handling the volunteer roster scheduling of the Hump Team as well as being the EC, Host, Champion, and sometimes the DJ.

In December there were two unique, one-of-a-kind scenes that took place at the Hump, a week apart from each other. One involved a suspension that was done very gracefully–with the female rope bottom covered in gold glitter. Many people gathered around to watch it happen. Clean up, however, took about two hours! The other scene was a "Harem Experience" which involved some advanced planning and a few extras thrown in for good measure:one guy, four gals (or was it six?) and appropriate music to convey the atmosphere... This was one of the most involved scenes I had ever helped put together, and I still love helping folx bring their fantasies to life. Though these scenes were a lot of work to help plan and support, both of them were great reminders for me of just how much fun it was to be running the Hump.

Until next time… :^)

**Want to be part of a volunteer team that makes the hotness happen? Or help out with all the behind-the-scenes work of the CSPC organization? Begin the process by completing the online volunteer orientation and volunteer application form here! We are created and run by members, for members, and we need YOU!

Sneak Peek at What's Next: Bloom Community!

Want a sneak peek of what's coming up in Seattle's sex positive scene?

To help our beautiful sex positive community to connect with each other throughout the Seattle area, we’re collaborating with Bloom Community.

Bloom is a sex positive social, dating, and community app with a strong consent culture that helps people meet around events. This means you can:

• See a full docket of Seattle sex positive events

• Scope who’s going to the same events you’re going to

• Make new friends & more

• Enjoy life amidst community, like it was meant to be!

We will be sharing this connection tool with local Seattle sex positive community organizers, but we'd love to see your events too! Create an event here and make sure to specify that it's part of "Seattle Community Events" under "Add event to." You can also follow the CSPC on Bloom by following these steps: 

1. Download Bloom Community with referral code the-center-for-sex-positive-culture

2. Sign up for any of our upcoming events

3. the people on the list who you want to chat with. When the is mutual, you'll be notified and can chat via the app

4. Check back to see who joins after you!

We’ll be adding more CSPC events to this platform soon! Check out the bounty our local Seattle sex positive community is offering at https://www.joinbloom.community/seattle-events. We can’t wait to meet you!

The Return of Kinky Camping -- Come Frolic With Us!

Update - check out our presenter bios and class descriptions!

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Update - check out our presenter bios and class descriptions! 🔥

We’re all abuzz and atwitter with excitement for the upcoming Frolic camping events! This year we’re having two weekends, each with food provided! You deserve a kinky, fun, relaxing summer vacation with friends. Come play with us in the clean outdoor air and sleep under the stars.

And for the next level in glamping, be sure to put in a bid for our indoor VIP rooms (separate auctions exist for the July and the August weekends). The two highest bidders for each weekend will win a room for the whole weekend, with access to an indoor bathroom and shower, for themselves and a plus one!

To give you a taste of the entertainment and educational offerings in store, here’s a tentative list of what will be going on during these events. Be sure to reserve your ticket so you don’t miss out on the fun!

2022 Frolic Week 1 (July 22-24)

Theme: Know Yourself: Needs, Wants, Cravings

Friday

10 am Property open

3 pm Education/skillshare

Needles 101 - Hawk

Sexy Communication - Eirikah 

6 pm Dinner

7:30 pm Opening Circle

8:30 pm Campfire (Cigar & Cigar Play)

8:30 pm Surprise Class! Intro to Fire Play - Temptr

11 pm Quiet Hours

Saturday

8 am Quiet Hours end - Yoga/ Meditation

10 am Education/skillshares

Finding pleasure and intimacy in an uncomfortable body - Jadzia

Boundaries - Eirikah

11 am Brunch

1 pm Education/skillshares

Playing with Disabilities- Turtle

Rope Share - Hawk

4 pm Group Activities - outdoor games, Lube slip-n-slide

6 pm Dinner

7 pm Talent Show and the Dating Game 

8 pm Campfire

11 pm Quiet Hours

Sunday

8 am Quiet Hours end - Yoga/ Meditation

10 am Education/skillshares

Dessert Top - Teeebone

Preparing to Scene for the bottom/sub- Turtle

11 am Brunch

2 pm Closing Circle

4 pm Clean Up

2022 Frolic Week 2 (August 3-5)

Theme: Know the Game: Mind, Body, Energy

Friday

10 am Property open

3 pm Education/skillshares      

Skin and all the ways you can play with it - Turtle

The 3-Minute Game - Skitty

6 pm Dinner

7:30 pm Opening Circle

8:30 pm Campfire (Cigar & Cigar Play)

11 pm Quiet Hours

Saturday

8 am Quiet Hours end - Yoga/ Meditation

10 am Education/skillshares     

Needles that Hurt - Hawk       

Fuck Gender - Mac

11 am Brunch

1 pm Education/skillshares

D/s Power Dynamics 101 - Kelly

Sensual Chi Energy - Mac

4 pm Group Activity - Kinky Carnival! Featuring:

Mac McGregor ~ Positive Masculinity Circle

Eirikah Delaunay ~ Romance Tarot

Skitty ~ Speed Consentacles

TK Kasnick ~ Tarot Readings

Kelly MacCallister ~ Spin the Bottle Truth or Dare

Temptr ~ Electrical Tingle Tastings

Outdoor Games

And more to come…

6 pm Dinner

7 pm Surprise Entertainment!

8 pm Campfire

11 pm Quiet Hours

Sunday

8 am Quiet Hours end - Yoga/ Meditation

10 am Education/skillshares

Stomping - Hawk

Impact Topping - Jadzia

11 am Brunch

2 pm Closing Circle

4 pm Clean Up

Fly Your Freak Flag at PPMT!

Let Your Freak Flag Fly!

Your incredible Power Play Mixed-Tape Crew brings you…

Saturday, July 9th

A Night of Guilty Pleasures 

with the Cheesiest Hits We Can Find!

Bring: your FLAG & we will put it up with zip ties! 

Tell Us: what your cheesiest guilty pleasure songs are on Discord!

Win a Prize: if you hear the song of the hour & get to the DJ station first!

Email special scene requests and song thoughts to ppmt@thecspc.org

At PPMT, we want to take special care of your scene space, give you room for your toys, and set you up to take your scene to a higher level. If you have any questions or concerns, please speak immediately with staff so we may work to create the best possible experience for everyone!

Power Play Mixed-Tape Rocks Sensuality and BDSM under the same roof!

Power Play Mixed-Tape makes having a fantastic fucking time easy. Dress to impress and surround yourself with sensual sex and bass-pounding BDSM. Best yet - The music will be HOT - throbbing Top 40 7-9:30 with DJ Ren1 and sizzling Rock mash-ups by The Bone Man 9:30-12 a.m.! Plan to shake it like you gotta make it!

Come Beat, Flirt, Needle, Bleed, Cut, Hang, Tie, Eat, Lick, Grab, Bite, Kiss, Fuck, Cum and maybe much more with someone new, someone old, something cool, something bold! Spin on the dance floor or be suspended from one of our hard points. Make someone sizzle on the rack or bend them over a spanking bench. Any play sanctioned by the CSPC is allowed at PPMT so review CSPC's Essential House Rules. Expect sex anywhere and everywhere except the bathroom and Aftercare room! If it's going to be bloody, bring your own plastic/tarp and linens. No solo masturbation unless scene participants and Event Coordinators give permission, please.

Want to come? It’s not too late to join the party! Purchase your tickets online here! 

Not yet a member? Purchase a new member ticket that includes orientation, your first month of membership, plus entry to the hottest party around!

Tickets are only available through online purchase; we do not sell tickets at the door. Registration for this party is limited to a maximum of 120 tickets.