Join Us at LaQueer!

LaQueer welcomes the CSPC’s queer community for safer kinky and sexy fun. In honor of the spooky season, this month we invite you to come in costume. Show us your boo-tiful selves! 

We welcome all kinds of play and sex that are allowed under the CSPC’s rules, and welcome people all across the various spectra of queer identity. We will have rope suspension points, kink equipment like spanking benches and racks, and space for everything from cuddles to needles.

In addition, we will be providing materials to help you flag your level of willingness to interact with others. This is to help everyone feel safer in large group social events, and to increase accessibility for members of our community who struggle with socialization.

This is the queer party you’ve been waiting for, back and better than ever. Let’s get weird!

WHEN: Saturday, October 29, 8 p.m. to midnight

WHERE: The Gallery Erato, located in Pioneer Square at 309 1st Ave S.

COST: $25 ($35 for New Member tickets that include orientation + the party)

WHO: This event is for queer folx and their friends! “Queer" here is used as an umbrella term for anyone who identifies as not-heterosexual or not-cisgender, including but not limited to people who identify as: gay, lesbian, bisexual, genderqueer, agender, bigender, transgender, third gender, trans, genderfluid, gaymo, bicurious, asexual, homosexual, homofabulous, homoflexible, heteroflexible, intersex, questioning, pansexual, MTF, FTM, butch, femme, fag, dyke.

If you identify with one of these groups, then this party is for you!

If you aren't queer and are not attending with a queer person, we invite you to join us at a different event.  We know our parties are less frequent than usual, but we ask that you respect our intention to create a queer space with this event.

Want to come? Get your tickets online here! Not yet a member? Purchase a New Member ticket here! New Member tickets include mandatory New Member Orientation, your first month’s membership fee, and entry to the party immediately following orientation.

Virtual Orphan Thanksgiving

Welcome to the return of our annual Orphan Thanksgiving party, Thursday, November 24 from 5-7 p.m.! It’s free, though we welcome your donations. Anyone 18+ can attend, members or not - we just want everyone to have the choice of fun company on the holiday in this age of Covid. Whip out that computer or phone, register online, then Zoom in to enjoy amazing conversation and titillating laughter, meet new friends, and greet faces you’ve missed. One thing we can guarantee - you always roll a Yahtzee playing with the animal crackers in this box! See you there!

If you feel like you need help, visit https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988.  If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Email Turtle or Teeebone at specialevents@thecspc.org with questions about our Virtual Orphan Thanksgiving.

Have more questions? Check out our FAQ! We are a 100% volunteer-run organization, so it helps us immensely if you check the FAQ before emailing us. Thank you!

2022 NYE: La Rêverie!

It's the end of 2022, and do we ever deserve to let loose before 2023 kicks in! 

Let’s celebrate with a Midwinter Night's Dream. La Rêverie, if you will. We know you've been holding off on that fantasy sex scene…that memorable BDSM deep dive with a special someone. What could be a more perfect setting than New Year’s Eve??

Saturday, December 31, 2022? Sounds like an auspicious date for some sexy savoir-faire! Tickets are only $35 each! 

Dream a little dream for New Year's Eve!

Dress to impress as we co-create the final sex & BDSM party of 2022! 

Your entry includes:

1. Dance floor & music by our hypnotic DJs

2. BDSM & sex play areas on both floors

3. Scheduled scene(s) on the stage (email tk@thecspc.org to get involved!)

4. Sexy dancers on mini-stages (email tk@thecspc.org or DM ObliqueBanter)

5. Fun snacks

6. Soda and juice 

7. A midnight virgin toast

8. Commemorative photo

9. Tarot Readings by ObliqueBanter

10. Each attendee receives a raffle ticket for the ‘End of the Year Raffle Drawing’ for a beautiful basket to be drawn right before midnight! (Must be present to win!)

Discover an evening of dreamy hedonism brought to life as we ring in 2023 together!

VOLUNTEER! We need you to make this happen! If you’d like to volunteer for the party (and get in free,) contact TK or Teeebone at specialevents@thecspc.org or DM us on Discord.

Donate Now to the Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser!

by Eirikah Delaunay

My favorite thing about the CSPC is the community (and that’s saying a lot, because WOW there’s a lot to love about the CSPC). This fall we’ve created a way to get to know each other better while contributing to the community we all love–the Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser!

You are invited to donate your skills or your stuff for our online auction that will run for two weeks of bidding beginning the day after Thanksgiving, just in time for holiday gift buying. This is a fantastic opportunity to share your talents or your goodies with our community! Are you a business owner? Donate the service or product you sell and advertise your business to our community in the item description!

We’re already seeing exciting items rolling in! Would you like a thoroughly negotiated flogging or a class in fire play? Or perhaps a perfectly smoked brisket to be the star of your holiday buffet? A tarot reading to look ahead at what 2023 has in store for you? Maybe a sybian would tickle your fancy–it’s okay to buy yourself a gift, too! 

We’ll begin posting items on the auction site soon so folx can start their window shopping early. What delights do you have to share with our community? Whether they are sexy, beautiful, or just plain useful, we want to celebrate the treasures you have to offer.

All purchases will help the CSPC achieve its mission to create spaces to celebrate, develop, and explore sexuality and sensuality among a diverse and supportive community. And that is simply Fucking Fabulous!

The link to the donation form will be added to the CSPC website soon. (Donations of services that involve two-way nudity/sex acts will not be accepted, in alignment with CSPC policy.)

Hump History Year Eight: Eight's Not Enough

by Teeebone

The eighth ‘season’ of the Hump started out with a bang as we ushered in 2015. The New Year’s Eve party was always a big event, so we held “An Intimate Affair: A Sexy Dinner before the NYE Festivities.” This was a high protocol dinner before the party began, with such menu items as Sweet Kale Gourmet Salad, Mini Beef Wellington with Bacon, Cranberry Green Beans, Garlic Smashed Potatoes, and New York Cheesecake with Raspberry Sauce, just to name a few! Dinner was served in the Annex from 6 to 9pm, with the space being converted into a dessert bar and play space afterward.

At 7pm, the Hump (in the Main Space) opened for the two-hour social and then at 9pm, it was ‘Party On!’ with the doors opening for the Whump (in the RAW Dungeon) and access granted to the Annex. At midnight there was a toast featuring sparkling apple cider to ring in the new year. All of this required extra staff to make happen, and the volunteer corps stepped up to carry the celebration off beautifully. The NYE party always takes a lot of work, but I have noticed that the membership genuinely appreciates the event and the effort that we put into it.

By the second half of January, I realized that my work schedule had gotten so full that I made the decision to step away from running OMG SX! (formerly the Luv Shack), the monthly sex-focused party I had put together four years earlier. I handed the keys over to my successor, and they made some changes and ran the party until the CSPC shut down in September of 2016.

On February 14th, Fifty Shades of Grey was released as a movie. And then suddenly, everyone in America wanted a good old-fashioned, over-the-knee, open-handed spanking! The kink-curious quotient shot skywards. This unprecedented growth in our community was exciting, but it also required a lot of tender loving care and gentle reminders to new members about etiquette and how to play within our community.

From spring into summer, there were some arguments between staff members over cell phone use and what constituted proper enforcement of the rules which required an extended period of negotiation to settle the disputes. I did my best to not let the conflicts sap my strength and instead focused my energy on running the Hump.

In July there was more discussion about the CSPC’s policy on suspensions. The Hump was always a suspension-friendly event, usually having 1-2 suspensions each night. The catalyst for reviving this ongoing debate was an incident involving a member who misrepresented themselves and attempted to do a suspension with unapproved gear. The scene was stopped and the member protested this, but we held firm. We have rules about suspensions and they need to be followed. So, from summer into fall clarifications were made, rules updated, and changes duly noted.

Our volunteers are always working to make our parties sexy, fun, and as safe as possible. Another staff duty from back in the day: Checking the parking lot and offering to escort attendees to their vehicles when leaving. Usually at 25-30 minute intervals, I would grab a flashlight and check the parking lot for weirdness. Only on rare occasions would something be weird. Escorting attendees to their vehicles (and sometimes to the nearby bus stop) helped add a layer of safety that attendees greatly appreciated. Did I mention that the “Buddy System” works? When you come to the Center, bring a buddy!

The year ended with a well deserved “Whew!” as the Hump watched the holiday season pass by without having to worry about the upcoming NYE party. I even managed to have that night off!

Until next time... :^)

Want to be part of making sexy dreams a reality in our community? Become a volunteer, either party-facing or behind the scenes! Complete the online orientation and volunteer application today!

Café is OPEN: Safe(r) Kink

by Camille Café

I’m sure it’s partly due to Covid, but I’m much more cautious now than when I started going to the Center. I was hot to trot then, being fresh out of a marriage. Not having dated as a younger woman, I threw myself into playing at the CSPC with ferocious abandon. I was naïve and had no idea what to expect. Rather than the goal of wanting to learn how to become better at being discriminating, I just wanted to get laid. I got what I got what I wanted, but I learned in ways that were often painful and sometimes overwhelming. I think what I’m advocating here might be called pain mitigation or safe(r) kink.

I know lots of folks are aware of this, but just a refresher - there are several types of safety. I want to focus on physical, psychological, and emotional safety. Physical safety is the obvious one. Many kink activities are risky - impact play, sharps play, and even getting tied up has its dangers. It’s important to mitigate these risks as much as possible. That’s why it’s important to do your homework. Read and learn as much as you can about the activities you’re drawn to. Go to classes. Talk to people and get recommendations for responsible Tops. Check out their credentials. If you’re a newbie, or even if you have some experience, you want to be playing with experienced partners who know the potential risks. Do they know what to do in an adverse situation?

At this point it’s important to talk about communication. It’s essential to negotiate effectively and have a foundation of good clear communication. Negotiate fully what you do and don’t like – what you will and won’t accept. What are your absolute limits? Establish them beforehand, not when you’re engaged in your scene. The brain chemistry of kinky activity is powerful. It can impact your emotions and decision-making ability. Even if something was an absolute “no” beforehand, it might seem okay in the midst of a scene. Flying on yummy brain chemicals is not the time to change your mind. Stick to your initial plan. If you find you want to try something else, save it for the next time you play.

The best thing about playing at the Center is that there are trained monitors on site who know enough about how scenes should look that they are likely to see irregularities. I met a guy at a non-Center event who I gave consent to tie me up. After my hands were tied, he aggressively ran his hands up and down my body. I hadn’t given him consent for that. I was so shocked that I froze and couldn’t say anything. I was perfectly sober. A friend was sitting close by, but she was intoxicated and didn’t notice my distress.

Another great thing about playing at the Center is that intoxicants aren’t allowed. I know many people feel like drugs enhance the experience but getting to know someone isn’t the time to be intoxicated. You want your wits about you. One time I got intoxicated with a stranger in his home. I had another non-consensual, very unpleasant experience. See the pattern here? Play it as safely as you can – especially at first. You want others around you. Make sure those who are around you are sober. Being safe depends on you and your partner. And sometimes, despite ticking off all of the safety checks, violations do occur. How might you develop a plan to handle a violation? It’s difficult to navigate.

I think the best approach to psychological and emotional safety is to be realistic about kink. It’s easy to get caught up in the fantasy - it’s heady stuff. The brain chemistry of it is mind altering. It can set you up to make decisions you regret later. Don’t get lost and forget about the very real dangers of kink. Sometimes the intentions of those you’re playing with aren’t yours. Keep your expectations real. Talk at length about your limits and expectations. Theirs, too. This is the time to be totally honest. I think having kink experiences and looking for love relationships are better as separate pursuits, at least until you get to really know people and have some experience under your belt. Others see it differently. That’s why it’s important to talk to as many people as you can about their experiences.

Should your interactions include sex? You don’t have to be sexual. You can be sexual if you want. Think about it. Read about it. Talk about it. I confused sex and love and was often hurt when partners didn’t react like I wanted them to. I didn’t keep my expectations real. Even though I was told to take it slow and cautiously, I barreled in and was impulsive in my behavior. If I had to do it all again, I would have thought more carefully about how much sex I wanted to have with people I had very little connection with. If you want to be sexual with partners with “no strings attached,” keep your expectations real about that, too. Get to know your own limits, communicate them to the people you play with, and revisit them regularly. Limits often change over time. It’s very common. As you explore and grow, you might find yourself in a completely different place with different limits and different desires.

With self-knowledge, consent, boundaries, and communication in place, you will be all set to have safe(r) sexual and kink experiences at the CSPC. But never fear—there’s more to the story of my entry into kink world. Stay tuned for the next installment of Café is OPEN!

Close Encounters at PPMT!

The Power Play Mixed-Tape Theme of the Month: Aliens and Alternate Realities

Are you secretly an alien? Come show your tail, inner borg, or just let your wires hang out! For that matter, internet rule #34 applies! Bring your favorite alternate reality to life! Wait until you hear the music! October 8th Just for You!

Power Play Mixed-Tape Rocks Sensuality and BDSM under the same roof!

Power Play Mixed-Tape makes having a fantastic fucking time easy. Dress to impress and surround yourself with sensual sex and bass-pounding BDSM. Best yet - The music will be HOT - Throbbing Beats from 8 to 10 pm with DJ ObliqueBanter and sizzling sexiness by DJ Boneman from 10 pm to midnight! Surge and Doof with us! (The basement will ride a noticeably lower decibel level for your pleasure! Earplugs are available at the Registration desk.)

Pickup Play- Are you available to play? Grab a name tag located on a table just past the Registration desk, add your name and Top/bottom designation, and/or write a sticky note detailing your fantasy, then place it on the Pickup Play Board. Don’t miss out. Just ask, negotiate and give clear consent!

Come Beat, Flirt, Needle, Bleed, Cut, Hang, Tie, Eat, Lick, Grab, Bite, Kiss, Fuck, Cum and maybe much more with someone new, someone old, something cool, something bold! Spin on the dance floor or be suspended from one of our hard points. Make someone sizzle on the rack or bend them over a spanking bench. Any play sanctioned by the CSPC is allowed at PPMT so review CSPC's Essential House Rules. Expect sex anywhere and everywhere except the bathroom and Aftercare room! If it's going to be bloody, bring your own plastic/tarp and linens. No solo masturbation unless scene participants and Event Coordinators give permission, please.

PPMT ran from 2012 up until the closure of Interbay in 9/2016. PPMT was selected as 2012 Party of the Year as well as March 2014 Party of the Month. Join our Fetlife group to plan a scene or just fantasize! Got something devious or seductive in mind? Email ahead to secure a fantasy needing special devising or to seek EC approval for riskier play.

Want to come? Purchase your tickets online! Not yet a member? Purchase your New Member ticket here (includes New Member Orientation, your first month’s membership fee, and entry to the party immediately following orientation).

A Good Smack on the Back

by Emma Atkinson 

“I came to the CSPC for the flogging, but I stayed for the people” - A

Fifty or so lovely folks found their way to Kinky Acres on Saturday, October 1, for the CSPC volunteer appreciation party “A Smack on the Back.” The quotes are from actual participants who were there. The weather was beautiful, the location was idyllic, and the clothing was minimal. The stage was set for a super party! 

“I started the summer searching for myself and a community.  Thanks to the CSPC, at the end of the summer I ended up with a family, transformed.” - T

Play spaces were created on the spacious lawn. We were treated to the culinary creations of Cass and Dan, who also cooked for us at both Frolic events. There was a lot of spirited conversation going on around the tables as we savored the yummy dinner they provided.  

“The CSPC is one of the pivotal organizations that creates the Seattle culture” - E

After dinner, raffle winners took possession of great swag including floggers, CSPC bags and tee shirts, and sensation toys. The official CSPC treasure chest was there, too, and volunteers chose the treasure (scented and handmade soaps, hair accessories, and various lotions and potions) that they wanted to take home and enjoy.  

“I’m continually surprised by the depth of healing and inner growth that people are experiencing at CSPC events.” - B

As the sun began to set, more clothing was put on. These fall evenings can get a bit nippy in the Pacific Northwest!  We were treated to some fire play - it’s quite beautiful, especially in the dark.   It’s probably not an exaggeration to say that a good time was had by all.

“We all volunteer for different reasons.  But to come together, all at the same time, none of us working, to socialize and play - what a day!” -T

Thanks to everyone who made the volunteer appreciation event happen. And thanks to the dedicated volunteers who make everything happen at the CSPC!

It takes all of us contributing to build and sustain the thriving sex positive community we want to be a part of. Not yet a volunteer? Join us here! Whether at parties or behind the scenes, there’s a volunteer role just right for everyone. Email us at HR@thecspc.org to find the spot that’s right for you. Limited time and energy? Donate here! 

Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser!

by Emma Atkinson

Would you like to help the CSPC, find amazing holiday gifts for loved ones, and have fun - all at the same time?  It might sound too good to be true, but read on!

The Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser will auction off all sorts of cool items this fall, just in time for the holiday season. Here’s how you can be a helper in this grand endeavor:

Donate a Service!

Do you have a skill to donate? How about:

• an hour of computer consultation - your knowledge can help with those frustrating little things that drive most of us users crazy

• provide a truck for a short time - put in the limits that you’re comfortable with 

• a meal that you could cook and provide - maybe you make a mean lasagne or curry that you can drop off, or maybe you will be the star chef for a dinner party

• ask a Domme (or top or furry or master or …) consulting - 30 minutes to talk one on one with a Domme (or whatever) and get some questions answered - you can be a mentor to someone who’s new to the community 

• a flogging, done with considerable consent negotiations 

• a custom-written story or poem

Donate Stuff!

Do you have an item to donate?  Maybe:

• a rainbow-colored beaded curtain for your living space - customized as needed

• any new or gently used toys or furniture taking up space around your dungeon 

• a work of art (or jewelry or knitting or whatever makes your heart sing) that you made

• a work of art that someone else made and you’re ready to part with it

• those sexy boots you never wear

• books that outgrew your bookshelf

• plants that outgrew your windowsill

Are you a business owner? Donate the service or product you sell and advertise your business to our community in the item description!

The link to the donation form will be added to the CSPC website soon. (Donations of services that involve two-way nudity/sex acts will not be accepted, in alignment with CSPC policy.)

Purchase!

The CSPC will post the donated items on an online auction site for your holiday shopping pleasure! Bidding will open right after Thanksgiving and run for about a week as a silent auction, similar to the Paddlepalooza event earlier this year.

You might know someone who’s hard to find presents for. You can give them an experience or unique treasure that will rock their world!  And you’ll probably find at least one item that you can’t live without and decide to buy it for yourself.  

The best part: it’s for a good cause. Your purchase will help the CSPC achieve its mission to create spaces to celebrate, develop, and explore sexuality and sensuality among a diverse and supportive community. Fucking Fabulous!