Let's Get F*cking Fabulous!

The F*cking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser is off to a blazing hot start! Our online auction is filled with items donated by our community members–services and stuff that you just can’t find anywhere else! This is the perfect opportunity to do a little holiday shopping with all the money going to support your own sex-positive community. And don’t forget to treat yourself!

Check out the unique “stuff” like a handcrafted amethyst choker with two pairs of matching earrings, a four foot tall original painting representing the CSPC’s founder, Allena Gabosch (see the “secret links” on the auction site for full-length, unedited images!), two sexy Liberator lounges, a Pride-themed X-Box controller, first-peek CSPC swag, a black leather kilt, or your very own Sybian for a ride you’ll never forget.

Maybe a one-of-a-kind “service” is just the thing for you or your dear ones: coffee with a Femdom, a tarot reading to carry you into the new year, lunch for four (salad, soup, and dessert) cooked from Allena’s favorite recipes, a private fire play class, editorial services to make your communications sparkle, blade sharpening, lunch with the Board President, or a double Dom date night that takes your breath away. (Services do not include genital touch or two-way nudity in compliance with CSPC policies and local law regarding exchanging money (via auction) for sex acts.)

All proceeds go to support the CSPC and our community. This is the most fun you’ll have donating to a nonprofit organization this season! Join us for the bidding extravaganza at the F*cking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser and get a little something special with your year-end giving. Bidding ends at noon on Friday, December 9. We’re just over half way to our fundraising goal–help us reach the magic number of $4,444!

Want to contribute but auctions just aren’t your jam? Donate today! The spirit of the F*cking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser is coming together as a community to share our resources and skills to support the CSPC. Huge thanks to all our volunteers and donors–those who donated items, those who purchase them, and those who donate. Your contributions make our community f*cking fabulous!

Monkeypox Community Vaccination Event!

Monkeypox Community Vaccination Event @ Gallery Erato (in collaboration with The Center for Sex Positive Culture and Pan Eros Foundation)

Date: Monday, 12/19

Clinic hours: 4 pm  - 7 pm

Location: Gallery Erato, 309 1st Ave S, Seattle, WA 98104 (located in Pioneer Square)

Transit: between the University Street and International District Link stations, near the First Hill Street car, and many bus lines

Accessibility: Clinic building is ADA accessible and contains gender neutral restrooms.

Who can get vaccinated? Folks who meet current JYNNEOS eligibility criteria

Vaccination is free; no health insurance or photo ID required.

Register for an appointment HERE; only limited walk-ups available.

• Please note that preregistering for an appointment only guarantees that you will receive a vaccine; it does not guarantee the exact time at which you will receive your vaccine.

Sexy NYE Dreams Come True at La Rêverie

Dreamgirl

What are you doing on New Year's Eve?

I want to live all my sexiest dreams–at La Rêverie!

I want to go to a sold out party surrounded by my friends and other like minded people! I want to dance, sweat sliding down my body as we grind our skin on skin to blazing beats. Hot costumes glimpsed through the darkness of scenes, sex, and socializing. I want my skin to sizzle with the sting and thump of heavily laid impact. I want my partner's legs wrapped around me, pinning me to the floor as I scream in ecstasy.

What do you want? Do you dare to dream?

Ring in the New Year with dreams come true at La Rêverie! Bring a friend or three! Join us for a sexy New Year’s Eve Fête with a photographer to capture your special evening, tarot readings to lay 2023 before you in all its sexy wonder, a non-alcoholic midnight toast, and so much more!

Gallery Erato - 309 1st Ave S.

Saturday, December 31, 8:30 p.m. - 12:30 a.m.

CSPC Members and Invited Guests, 18+ with ID

$35 each

Get your tickets today for the hottest midwinter’s dream in town! Not yet a member? You can still join us for this special event! Buy a $45 New Member ticket to attend orientation right before the party at 7:30 p.m., and start 2023 with your first month’s membership and a party to remember!

Community Matters: Increased Ticket Cap!

We are delighted to announce that the CSPC Board voted at our November meeting to increase the cap on tickets sold for our events at Gallery Erato from 120 to 140 tickets sold beginning January 1, 2023. With this increase, we will be back at full capacity for our venue–and more community members at events means more fun! 

We regularly get emails from folx who missed out on sold out parties, and we’re so grateful that your willingness to take care of each other by wearing N95/KN95 or equivalent masks at events, rapid testing before attending parties, staying home whenever you’re sick, and getting vaccinated when possible has created a space where we feel safe welcoming more of our community into our space.

As of January 1, 2023, the CSPC’s COVID mitigation protocols include:

• Required: wearing N95/KN95 or equivalent masks at indoor events except when actively eating, drinking, or participating in a scene.

• Cap of 140 tickets sold per event.

• Highly encouraged: vaccination and rapid testing before attending events.

• Laundry professionally washed and sanitized.

• Equipment disinfectant on site so members can clean equipment before and after use.

• We are also still offering tickets to a future party for folx who stay home due to illness–thank you for helping keep our community healthy!

We continue to monitor the public health conditions, and we will announce any future changes to our protocols before tickets where those protocols would be in force go on sale. It’s important to us that everyone makes their personal health-related decisions with all the information available. Informed consent matters!

We can’t wait to see (more of) you enjoying the hotness of our community!

Stay safe, stay sexy,

The CSPC Board

Consent Corner 2.20

by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake 

Hello.fabulous readers! And speaking of fabulous, have you had a chance to pore over the offerings in our Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser? It’s your opportunity to support the CSPC and score some amazing items. Here’s the link: https://www.32auctions.com/CSPCffff.

The holiday season is upon us and it seems like a perfect time to consider negotiations. We’ve been hearing from folks who feel pulled in all sorts of directions, usually from well-meaning family members, loved ones, or even multiple partners. Here are a few thoughts on maintaining your well-being through it all.

Consider what you’d like as an ideal outcome and how attending an event or gathering will make you feel in the moment and in the long run. During this time of year, you may have different desires for how you spend your time than your partner(s). It’s a good idea to avoid assumptions, check-in on plans well in advance, and negotiate. We’re big fans of win-win solutions and think that’s the most favorable outcome for everyone. Recognize, however, that compromise will probably be needed since others will be involved, and they’ll have different needs and desires. Get out your fancy compromise hat and put it on as you proceed. Any hat that makes you feel fabulous can serve as a compromise hat in a pinch, and help you remember to negotiate with as much grace and kindness as you can muster.

Think about your needs and be mindful of what you feel are obligations. Most of us have loved ones near and far who want to spend time with us. Our family, whether of origin or creation, often has traditions that have evolved over time - sometimes for the better and sometimes not so much. What would serve you in mind, body, and spirit?  

First, consider opening the conversation about timing. Will your visit happen on the actual day of the holiday or on another day? Will you be spending the whole day or can you make a brief visit for appetizers or dessert? What time will you arrive and when will you leave? Are there circumstances which might prompt a change in this timing? For example, if you find a certain person’s behavior challenging, what will you do if that individual ramps up at the event?  

Second, what will you do at the gathering? Are there some rituals in which you choose not to participate? Are there any triggering events which would lead you to change your plans? Do you need to work out a safeword or phrase with your partner? 

It may be helpful to remember that expectations are resentments waiting to happen. It might be wise to carefully manage your own expectations and help others manage theirs.  

Holidays are wonderful times to reconnect with loved ones. Life offers no guarantees and we can be grateful for the times we spend with each other. Gratitude can make the holidays precious and memorable. See for yourself!  

Homework:  have a fabulous holiday season, and keep your focus on gratitude throughout.  Celebrate the season by sharing a photo of your compromise hat with us at:  info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel 

Hump History: Afterthoughts and Observations

by Teeebone

After the last party at the Center on September 9th, 2016, I took a well deserved break from the heavy activity for about six weeks. Then I started to miss the Hump. Wednesdays just weren’t the same after that. And then of course, I began to miss the other parties I used to work at, too. Power Play Mixed-Tape, OMG-SX!, The Poly Social, sometimes even Monday Madness– Typically I would find myself at the CSPC two or three times a week.

With all this experience, I sat down and thought about what made The Hump so successful:

1. An EC/Champion/Host must learn how to delegate tasks because you can’t make the party happen by yourself. It was tough enough to do strike and clean up by myself, and I don’t recommend it. The CSPC has a lot of information and experience on “how to” put parties and events together and trusting others to do the tasks that you assign them can require an uncomfortable leap of faith if you don’t have experience in delegation.

2. Online ticket sales FTW! Back in the day, cash was handled at the door and we had a registration program for handling admissions. To be honest, about half the time the EC on duty had to hang around the cashier’s desk to resolve issues that regularly came up using the old system. These days, ticket sales are done online in advance and this is a much smoother way to handle admissions. 

3. Many hands make everything more fun. On the topic of ECs, The Hump got to experiment with a three ECs/Night schedule for a while, which helped divide the labor so that all three ECs had the option to work and play at the party. As our volunteer corps continues to grow, I hope we can get back to this best practice. #worklifebalance

4. Consent matters. The growth of consent culture (and classes on consent) has helped our efforts in educating our new members on scene etiquette, boundaries, and consent in a much more immersive and effective way. Explicitly elevating consent as a core value within our community has caused remarkable positive change.

5. Listen to attendees and try new things. In the first couple of years of its existence, The Hump did a lot of experimenting with music themes, different setup options, various snack spreads, monthly special events like “Whump at the Hump” and “Cuddle Huddle,” classes taught by members like Swing Dancing, Tango, and Belly Dancing and even the occasional “Hump Town Hall” during the social where we asked the attendees what they would like to experience at The Hump. While we had to scale things back after the fourth year, we were able to streamline things to help us produce a better Hump for the attendees.

6. The volunteer team is Fam. Build that crew and keep it together. It can be the greatest challenge you may ever experience, but I found it rewarding, especially when watching The Hump grow as an event. Always remember that the CSPC is a community!

I think that covers the most salient points. I seem to remember telling many a new member when they first attended a Hump that they had taken the first step in what would be a very interesting journey… And it most certainly was! :^)

Want to be part of the volunteer team that starts the Next Great Party? Become a volunteer today!

Community Matters: Seven Things I'm Thankful For

by Eirikah Delaunay

It’s almost Thanksgiving here in the States, and I’m reflecting on the things I’m thankful for this week:

1. Wicked Wordplay–This monthly online erotica writing and reading event creates a space of shared delight in the sexiness of the written word. Free for all CSPC members, $5 for non-members. Join us for all the fun on Wednesday, November 23!

2. Community–The community I found at the CSPC has led me to my chosen family. I love the ways that we care for each other and support this all-volunteer sex-positive organization. 

3. Virtual Orphan Thanksgiving–Members of our community are gathering online from 5-7 p.m. on Thursday, November 24 (Thanksgiving Day) to enjoy the laughter and support of being in good company on the holiday. Free for all–bring your own drumstick!

4. Volunteers–The CSPC’s volunteers make all the sexy magic happen! Whether it’s serving at in-person parties, moderating our Discord server, or answering emails and issuing refunds when life happens, every task at the CSPC is done by a volunteer. Not yet a volunteer? Join us today! Many hands make light work.

5. The Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser–I can’t wait to see all the yummy goodness donated by our community members when the auction goes live on Friday, November 25! I’m excited to learn more about our community members through the items and services they donate, and I’m looking forward to helping support the CSPC through doing some of my holiday shopping at the auction. It’s not too late to donate your skills or stuff!

6. Femme Dominion–So much hotness all in one space! This bi-monthly party for Femme Tops and the people who admire them is always a scorcher. Join the conflagration on Saturday, November 26!

7. Community–Yes, this one makes the list twice. Your creativity, caring, and commitment make the CSPC the special organization it is. Haven’t been to an event in a while? Now’s the perfect time to reconnect with all the hotness! Check out the events calendar here and renew your membership here. Not yet a member? Sign up for a New Member Orientation to join in all the fun.

Thank you all for all the ways you contribute to making the CSPC a beacon for consent culture, inclusivity, and sexual freedom. <3

Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser–Last Week to Donate!

We’re getting excited for the launch of the Fucking Fabulous Fall Fundraiser! Our auction site goes live at 9 a.m. on Black Friday (November 25) and we’ll be taking bids until noon on Friday, December 9.

Some of our latest donations include paintings, photography, artisan-crafted jewelry, a leather kilt, and a leather vest. It’s not too late to share your skills or stuff with us–donate today!

What can you add to the auction in support of the CSPC community? Maybe you can provide a service like an hour of technical assistance (yes, MailChimp is my nemesis, okay?) or a gardening consultation. Maybe you can teach a skill like fire play or scene negotiation. Maybe you knit or paint or build amazing customized music playlists. Maybe you have amazing taste and you’re ready to let some gently-used items go. The uniqueness of each item is part of what makes this event so much fun–let us get to know you (and your business, if applicable) while supporting the CSPC!

(Donations of services that involve two-way nudity or sex acts will not be accepted, in alignment with CSPC policy.)

Stay tuned for a special email next week announcing the auction site!

NEW EVENT: Sense & Sensuality

VÉRITÉ - new skin (Official Audio)

Sense & Sensuality is designed for those who are demisexual or who are interested in exploring intimacy. This event provides a relaxed social environment for people to make connections that could grow into something more with prompts to help members initiate intimate connections and gentle play. 

For the first half of the event, the full venue is set for platonic intimacy with no nudity. For the second half of the event, the lower level of the venue turns into space for sensual and sexual intimacy. Each occasion will have a unique theme; our first event on December 11 is focused on cuddling, but future events might include live model drawing, the 3-minute game, sensation play, and other games.

Please arrive on time to attend the mandatory circle time the first time you attend Sense & Sensuality to learn the event-specific rules and agreements as well as progressive negotiation techniques for cuddling scenes and other sensual intimacy. At our inaugural event on December 11, we will be holding two circle times, the first at 7:30 and a second circle at 9:15 to accommodate folx who might not be able to arrive before the opening circle at 7:30.

Get your tickets online here! Not yet a member? Get your New Member tickets here! New Member tickets include New Member Orientation, your first month’s membership fee, and party entry.

Questions? Email the party champions at SaS@thecspc.org.