The Final Frolic Yurt!

Dome Yurt with Electricity

The Frolic 2023!

Aug 15–20

https://thecspc.org/frolic

VIP ROOMS

Last Yurt!

We had four YURTS to auction and we’ve come to our last one! Imagine spending this Frolic warm and cozy at night with your plus-one inside a beautifully decorated Mongolian yurt with a queen-size bed. 

Bidding begins at $200, but we fully expect this to go higher! These rooms normally rent for $150/night online and you get it for six days and five nights! Please keep in mind that your ticket to The Frolic is NOT included and must be purchased separately. Bidding is for the add-on VIP room only.

Auction Dates

Now is the time to buy your Frolic tickets during our Pride Month Special, and get your bid on for the final VIP Yurt!

Meet Larry - Frolic Director!

The Frolic Director, Larry Grella

(as interviewed by Turtle)

Q: When did you join the community?

A: 2002 locally. Online maybe 30 years ago.

Q: What drew you to it (BDSM)?

A: I think I was born a pervert!

Q: How did you find the Wet Spot? [previous name of the CSPC]

A: I was doing online dating and someone told me about it.

Q: How have things changed over the years?

A: The Center was always inclusive, but after we were forced to leave Interbay, we worked really hard to become even more actively inclusive.

Q: But how does it feel different?

A: The thing I feel most is because of the current structure (renting space), we don't have the same sense of a community center that we used to have so I'm looking forward to a new building and getting that feeling back. We do what we can under the situation we have. [Note: the CSPC used to provide meeting space for numerous other community organizations.]

Q: Kinky camping the way we do seems to have a long history as a distinctly WA activity.

A: Maybe a year after I joined, I heard about two events: In The Woods and Paradise Unbound (CSPC.) I went to both and immediately started volunteering for both.

Q: Were they different from today's kinky camps?

A: Not a lot different from what we are doing now. Workshops and getting to know each other…except now there's probably more group activities…though we used to do things like lube wrestling. 

Q: Any favorite memories?

A: I met a woman who became a lifelong friend. Made a lot of other friends. It's a great place to meet people from different areas. You have to bring your own creativity! <grin> I remember the time I stapled my girl to the stage. Fire play and eventually fire flogging. Group meals and the camaraderie. So many classes.

Q: Favorite acts from the Friday night Talent Shows?

A: Someone picked up traffic cones with her pussy! (We are still friends.) Fire performances! Ponies pulling carts! The hook pull and hook suspensions.

Q: Why did you decide to lead The Frolic 2023?

A: I wanted to help create a memorable event and wanted to expand it.

Q: Anything special you are looking forward to this year?

A: I'm looking forward to seeing a lot of happy people! I'm excited to see the creativity of the participants and what they come up with!

Q: You usually teach Fire. This year you are teaching canes. Why?

A: Because we had other options for fire presenters. I wanted our members to see other perspectives and how they ply their trade.

Q: How long have you been doing canes?

A: I've been doing them so long that I don't remember when I started exactly. 

Q: Canes for Pleasure and Pain. Which do you prefer giving? Pleasure? Or pain?

A: It's really hard to separate the two. I really like sending somebody into subspace!

Temptr@gmail.com 

So Many Great Presenters at The Frolic!

Sam

Sam is a fat, queer, mostly femme-of-center, mostly bottom who is enthusiastic about pleasure. Since joining the CSPC, she has learned a LOT about what it means to be present, embodied, and take up space. As a teacher and former therapist, she seeks to hold space where people can explore the intersections of desire, fear, and curiosity in a safe, affirming, and nonjudgmental way. As a founder and cohost of the Finding YOUR Way discussion group and a co-host of Fresh Meet, she is committed to helping people explore their sexualities and kinks and learning from both the positive and negative experiences along the way. She recognizes that everyone's bodies, desires, quirks, and definitions of success are different and seeks to support folks in moving toward whatever success looks like for them. Most of all, she is a big goof and tries to remember that at the heart of all of this is play—our biggest risk is taking ourselves too seriously and forgetting to have fun.

  • Fri 8/18 3 p.m. Body Art for Affirmation

  • Sun 8/20 10 a.m. Navigating Kink with a History of Trauma 

Elissa

I have been in the scene for many years; it will be about eight years as of the time of The Frolic. I've played as a top or domme occasionally for most of that time, but only started focusing on it for the past four years or so. This topic is something that I talk about almost every month at the S/switch discussion group. Almost every time someone asks how to get started as a top, so I've dealt with it pretty much on a monthly basis for several years. I also work in education in my day job and I know how to communicate complicated ideas to a wide variety of people.

  • Thurs 8/17 10 a.m. Taking Matters Into Your Own Hands (Our hands are versatile tools!)

TK aka Turtle

TK Kasnick began presenting at the early age of 12 through their local 4-H program. Their education in college workshops, conferences, and classes in event planning/implementation, organizing, and communication have created a lifelong passion for helping people to communicate and interact more completely with each other. TK has experienced significant health issues all of their life but doesn't allow them to define them. They believe in living proactively. They began attending workshops and doing research to better understand the challenges inherent to a life-altering illness through a team approach to health care, meditation, and a life lived in balance and moderation. On another note, they are also a heyoka (type of empath), an Indigo Scout, and a Wiccan Metaphysicalist. This has led to deep study in energy play and tantric body work. These deepen the intimacy and energetic connective tissue between humans during scenes, feeding aspects of self you may not have realized are desperately hungry for care. TK Kasnick now leads a full and satisfying life.

  • Wed 8/16 1 p.m. Digital Orgasm (Using fingers to achieve vaginal pleasure)

  • Fri 8/18 1 p.m. Tantalizing Energy Play

Double Dose of The Frolic: Personal Reflection

By Bill

In summer of ‘22, the CSPC had two Frolics. I went to both.

I’ve said before, I’d love to see the CSPC educate the entire world and bring everyone around to this consent-based, inclusive, and sex-positive worldview. At The Frolic, I experienced a microcosm of that as a reality.

For several days, I wake up and it isn’t a dream or memory of last night’s amazing event that I keep quiet about to most of the people I know. The amazing is still happening, and 100% of these wonderful people are on a similar journey. Experientially, it feels like the whole world because everyone I see for days shares this general worldview that supports inclusive, safe, sex-positive exploration. It felt so liberating to stay in this community and headspace, to keep making friends, bonding, exploring, learning about myself and others.

I’m pretty new to so much here. A few years ago my wife and I read The Ethical Slut and slowly opened into CNM (consensual non-monogamy). I’d never explored kink, except in my secret porn stash and my mind—never with a real person. But my biggest issue was being shy and barely able to talk about sex with anyone. Even with my partner of 15 years, I’d been guessing what she wanted and didn’t want, instead of asking and talking.

The CSPC has been a great discovery. Such wonderful and aware people!

The food at The Frolic was delicious. The classes were great. The discussion about communication I had with Eirikah and her discussion cards probably helped me the most. The negotiations with myself and the conversations I had at The Frolic were so great for me. I played “Never Have I Ever” around the bonfire and talked with everyone late into the night about experiences and where we’re each at on our journeys. We played strip Uno in the afternoon. I learned so much and practiced being bolder. More layers of shame evaporated in the sun, just slid away, baptized by the lube slip ‘n’ slide. When it was time for monitor duty, I realized I’d been nude so long that I’d lost my shorts. I finally found them, and then it felt like a great honor to help make it safe for a friend to experience an emotionally cleansing scene in space held by trusted community.

There’s something that happens to me when I’m with others and we’re all facing down our fears and exceeding society’s limits to find out who we each truly are. It builds a feeling of deep connection. Maybe because we’re all supporting each other’s honest and deeper connection to ourselves, but it’s more than that. I’m not a good enough writer to express all that happened inside of me. Personal, and simultaneously community. Self-actualization is a name for it, I guess, and at The Frolic, that is extended over time and amplified by nature.

Great medicine. It was amazing. I made many friends, used up all my summer spoons, then came home and treated my family even better than before.

I will remember…

Note: As a member of the CSPC community who is careful about privacy, I have explicit permission from everyone mentioned in this piece to use their names and any potentially identifiable scene details.

Getting Ready to Frolic: Stewardship Day

Heyla Awesome CSPC Members!

Date: Sun 6/11 10 a.m.

Payment: free meal to you + joking and smiles

Stewardship is how our community gives back to the venues who open their doors to us by donating our love and labor for the upkeep of the property. Our own Frolic Stewardship opportunity in Buckley at Grove Getaways will be Sunday, June 11, and they will feed us! I just need to tell them how many to expect so they have enough food to feed us all.

I know, I know! So many events, so little time! I'll be hosting at PPMT the night before, going home to Snohomish, and there in Buckley after a 1.5 hour drive the next morning. But it is well worth it! The owners knocked a chunk of change off the rental fee if we'd do stewardship days, so please come out with some CSPC pride and get a sneak peek at the gorgeous property where Frolic will happen August 15-20!

Please contact us ASAP if you'd like to join the CSPC work party, and I'll send the info email by Friday, June 9.

It's outdoor work: cleaning, landscaping, building-type work to each person's capacity. Bring gloves, sunscreen, a water bottle, and wear "get dirty" clothes. We’re starting around 9:30-10 a.m. It's totally okay to leave when you need to. Feel free to bring your own tools–make sure they have your name on them!

These are amazing people and you are sure to have a good time. You will leave tired in body but re-energized in spirit!

Sign up today! Just reply to frolic@thecspc.org! Or DM Turtle on Discord at ObliqueBanter.

Next Stewardship date is July 22.

Thank you!

~Turtle & The Frolic Team

Frolic Presenters: But Wait, There's More!

The Frolic is much more than campfires and dungeons! Our top-notch presenters will help you choose your adventure as you learn more about the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual elements of kink. Here are bios for three more of our Frolic educators:

Jaq

A nerd who has been playing tabletop role playing games since Advanced Dungeons & Dragons and who's served as Dungeon Master for multiple campaigns in the past half-decade, I'm excited to bring the basics of roleplaying games and tabletop systems to The Frolic!

  • 8/16 10 a.m. So You Want to Be a Wizard - Intro to D & D

  • 8/17 1 p.m. Neuroception and You

Rockinflogger

Because I am a TOP, I have scened with many new play partners with many different body types and extremes. I have learned, through all those experiences, what to look for during a scene with a new partner. If you are or have been in a committed relationship, this may not be on your mind with new partners. With my years of experience I feel that I can work with any sub to get the best out of their subspace. I have many implements that I am able to transition with, to make the subs experience a roller coaster ride. I work with trying to make sure the sub and their subspace is ever changing & ever guessing.

  • 8/17 1 p.m. Impact Play 101

  • 8/19 10 a.m. Impact 201 Rise and Fall of Subspace

Larry Grella - Your Camp Director

Larry Grella, aka Temptr is a longtime member of the kink community in the Northwest. Larry has been a member of the Center for Sex Positive Culture (formerly The Wet Spot) for 20 years, a member of their Board of Directors for 17 years and is a founding board member of the Pan~Eros Foundation . He also serves as the Construction Manager for the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. In addition, he is the Event Coordinator for the play parties Monday Madness, Myself!, and Power Play Mixed Tape at the Center. Larry has given workshops for MVK as well as other venues. In addition he organized the fire performance for Rascals New Years Party several years ago. As a member of the North American Fire Artists Association he is well versed in various forms of fire play.

  • 8/17 1 p.m. Canes for Pleasure and Pain




Frolic in Comfort (and Style)!

The Frolic 2023!

Aug 15-20

https://thecspc.org/frolic

VIP ROOMS

We have 4 YURTS to auction! Imagine spending this Frolic warm and cozy inside at night with your plus-one in a beautifully decorated Mongolian yurts with a queen size bed. Treat yourself!

Bidding begins at $200, but we fully expect these auctions to go higher! These rooms normally rent for $150/night online and you get it for 6 days and 5 nights! Please keep in mind that your ticket(s) to The Frolic is not included and must be purchased separately. Bidding is for the add-on VIP room only.

Auction Dates

Yurt 1 (Heart Yurt) - $525

Yurt 2 (Soul Yurt) - $530

Yurt 3 - Auction starts May 24. Ends June 14.

Yurt 4 - Auction starts June 15. Ends July 7.

Sponsor the Frolic!

Do you have a business you'd like to promote in our community? 

Would you like to help people attend camp who might otherwise find it out of reach?

Check out our Sponsorship Program! 

We have approachable donation levels that each offer opportunities to grow our community, your business as a charitable organization, and your personal reputation as a generous human.

We'd love to hear from you!

Frolic@thecspc.org

Parties from the Past: CSPC FemDom History

By Teeebone

Earlier this year, the Femme Dominion party champions announced that the March event would be the last time this party was put on by the CSPC at Gallery Erato. The fans of this party were unhappy about this, and so the task has begun of putting together another team and a rebranding of a FemDom (Femme Dominant) event for the Center. This may take some time, but if the past is any indication, rest assured the CSPC will come up with a new FemDom-themed party in the future.

From my research into the past, there has always been some kind of event for this particular audience, though information from the early days (1999–2002) tends to be sparse. The first confirmed mention comes from a monthly schedule in July 2002, though it is a single-gender social/discussion group followed by a party: The Women-Only Salon and the Women-Only Play Party. I know, pretty generic sounding and not FemDom oriented, but I would guess that some FemDom activity could have taken place? The event itself was likely part of the first generation of parties that were formed within the first year of the Center’s inception.

It's likely that there were a few gatherings off-site during the early half of the Center’s existence. But as for a truly regularly scheduled CSPC FemDom event, the first one was a monthly event that came to be known as The Women’s Sovereign Tea. It was a monthly high-protocol event held on the second Sunday of the month from 1–5pm. Starting in September 2008, this was a party that was very service oriented, involved much pampering, and of course, tea. Oh, and then there were the menus, which featured different items each month! Here’s what was served in July of 2014:

Opening Beverage: Cucumber Lime Spritzer (Cucumber juice, lime juice, and seltzer water)

1st Course:

Potato Leek Soup with Crumbled Bacon and Parsley Garnish (GF, DF) (Vegan option available) (Potatoes, leeks, salt, and pepper)

Herb Salad with Apple Tarragon Vinaigrette (Vegan, GF, DF) (Apple Tarragon Vinaigrette: apple sauce, apple cider vinegar, tarragon, grape seed oil)

2nd Course:

Cucumber and Summer Sausage Sandwiches with Sun-dried Tomato Aioli (DF) (GF, Vegan options available) (Aioli: mayonnaise, sun-dried tomatoes, garlic, fresh rosemary, lemon zest, salt, ground pepper) (Vegan option will not have mayonnaise and will substitute portobello mushrooms for the summer sausage.)

Fruit Medley (Vegan, GF, DF)

3rd Course:

Strawberries with Mascarpone and Agave Nectar (GF, Vegan) (DF option available) (Strawberries topped with a blend of marscapone cheese and agave nectar.) (DF option will be strawberries drizzled with agave nectar.)

Pretty nice, huh? It’s no surprise this party was sold out every month! The team kept the quality high and classy, and the event continued even after August 2016, the last time it could be held at the old site of the Center. In September, The Women’s Sovereign Tea carried on (at a private location) while the CSPC looked for a new home. But after October that year, the party went on hiatus, although there were a number of other “Teas” being held elsewhere.

On July 8, 2018, the event returned, reformed and with a new name: The Femme Sovereign Tea, held in the Gallery Erato, though it would be on an irregular schedule until January 2020. After that, the COVID pandemic canceled all parties and events for the duration.

The other FemDom event from the old days was a BDSM-focused play party called Women on Top. Starting in 2011, this quarterly party was scheduled on the fourth Fridays of April, July, October, and January and its target audience faithfully attended it with a flourish. This event had a successful run up until the Center closed in September 2016. There was a long break after that; a few years passed in which other FemDom events happened elsewhere, the ensuing pandemic happening to complicate matters and then . . . Finally, a new team of champions arrived to give us. . .

Femme Dominion! A new FemDom play party for the CSPC. Scheduled bi-monthly (as in once every two months), this latest incarnation started with a trial edition in December 2021 and then got scheduled for odd-numbered months in 2022. Once again, the fans of this kind of party kept the enthusiasm up and the attendance high. Sadly though, earlier this year in March, the team announced that this would be the last Femme Dominion event. Does this mean the party is over? Nope.

Rumors abound that some fans have been talking and plans are being made. A team will eventually come together—champions and some volunteers will create the core group of people needed to make the party happen all over again. New name. New look. Some new players. Some old players. And of course, the call for volunteers to work the party, folks who are into the FemDom scene.

Perhaps you would like to join in? Find out how at https://thecspc.org/volunteering!