By Emma Atkinson
Hello again, you sexy thing! Can you believe it’s already April? Isn’t it the month that comes in like a lemur and goes out like an aphid? March has its animals (lion and lamb) and other months ought to have some too. Right?
Enough of the foreplay, let’s talk about consent! We’re exploring the Planned Parenthood model for good consent: FRIES. We’re up to the letter E, and you know what that means. You’re right, it stands for Enthusiastic! In good consent situations, all participants are super excited about what’s about to go down. Oops, I meant to say “super excited!!” Once you get started using exclamation points, it’s hard to stop! Or, maybe it’s just me!
Any hint of hesitation among participants during consent conversations ought to be considered a good time to get more information. Plus, don’t you love it when you can put aside worries for a while and focus on the present moment? Worries might include: Did I lock the car door? What are my kids doing? Fill in your own worry here.
Interactions in which everyone’s excited to be there and knows that good times are ahead are super hot. Who doesn’t want to be part of that? You can make it happen by recalling that letter E when you’re in the middle of consent conversations. Oops, I mean “you can make it happen!!!” It couldn’t hurt to remember the other four letters in the FRIES model, too. Just saying. Enthusiasm probably = fun times.
Homework: Does Enthusiasm actually = fun times? Check it out and let us know at: info@thecspc.org.
“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted
“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma