Hump History Year Six: Rolling That Hard Six

by Teeebone

In 2013, the Hump marked its sixth year at the Center. It is also important to note that the Annex (and later the RAW Dungeon) had been in use by the CSPC for about the same length of time. This extra space allowed the Center to hold two events per night almost every day, and as the membership grew, so did the demand for volunteers to staff the parties, old and new alike. Even an event as basic as a weekday sex-focused party needs capable staff to run safely and smoothly.

During this year, there were a few challenges that had to be dealt with involving prompting staff to stay on focus with their duties rather than behave like they were an attendee at the party. Most of them owned up to it when the issue was brought up, and a “teachable” moment was experienced by all. Staying in the game and learning from your mistakes is the key when it comes to being a good volunteer at the CSPC.

In May, the Hump launched a “Porn Drive” to put together a porn DVD library for the party. Up till then, we would need to go to the CSPC Library and check out some DVDs to play in the Solo Space. Putting together our own event library helped save time on setup. All told, we received 38 porn DVDs from our generous members!

In June, we celebrated the CSPC’s Fourteenth birthday with a Hump and a Whump! Some of the highlights:  A suspension / naked cake platter scene, a birthday spanking (or was it two or three?) and a high level of attendance (80+ members on a Wednesday night!) that promptly adjourned to the RAW Dungeon or back room after 8pm. Truly an epic event.

Tragedy struck in September however, when it was discovered during setup that our beloved mascot Humphrey was shattered in his storage tote. All seemed lost, but then somebody from the Hump crew took our broken friend home, and with a whole lot of love and glue, they managed to restore Humphrey back to his humpy camel self.

In December, the year ended with the annual Xmas Potluck combined with the Hump. For this night only, admission was a suggested donation of $10. So... an attendee could either: Donate $10, bring a food item, donate $10 AND bring a food item or just bring themselves. Amazingly, the donations were as generous as the spread for the potluck: A complete roasted turkey, mashed potatoes and gravy, southern-style cornbread, noodle kugel, macaroni and cheese, carrots, green beans, rice krispie treats, pumpkin pie, AND apple pie. YUM, YUM! Holidays are the best when spent in community with friends and chosen family.

Until next time... :^)

As the CSPC community continues to grow and we return to hosting more and more events, we need YOU to help make the magic happen by sharing your time, energy, and skills as a volunteer! Our next training for Registration and Monitors is 7-9pm on Monday, August 22. 

Not yet a volunteer? Complete your online volunteer orientation and application here! 

Questions? Reach out to us at info@theCSPC.org.

Still Time to Frolic!

Hey hey, sexy humans! There are still a few tickets left for this weekend’s Frolic–grab yours before it’s too late! We’re super excited for a second weekend of ah-mazing education, exciting activities, fantastic food, community and camping under the stars! Check out the line up of fun at the Frolic here.

The weather is going to be glorious for the kinky carnival and lube olympics, and we are delighted to present classes with Mac McGregor (MacDaddy), Hawk, Kelly McAllister, Turtle, and Skitty. We’ll be saying Fuck Gender, learning about Obi-Jutsu, upskilling with Needles that Hurt, exploring Power Dynamics, experimenting with Skin (and all the ways to play with it!), and playing the 3-minute Game! Read about our awesome educators (and get the deets on the lube olympics) here.

The July Frolic was a blast! Here is what a few attendees had to say about their experience:

“I highly recommend the CSPC Frolic. Guaranteed memory maker. I laughed, cried, moaned, & feel like I’ve come away from this weekend as a better person.“

"My favorite part of The Frolic was growing closer with old friends and making new ones around the campfire as the embers died down."

“It was wonderful & gratifying to see so many having so much fun.”

"I loved how intimate the camp was... in that people really took the time to share stories, get to know each other, belly laugh at great jokes... I hadn't felt a deep part of a group like this for years and it really fed my soul."

“My clothes are sticking to me with sweat, my skin is sunburned, I ache in all the good places, my mind has absorbed, and my heart is happy. Thankful for the healing and welcoming energy of my community.”

“I went to the Frolic for kinky play, and although I certainly enjoyed that, I came away with so much more! The workshops were enlightening and I made so many new friends. The sense of community throughout the weekend was incredible. I feel connected and invigorated and can’t wait to do it all again in August.”

Want to join us this weekend but not yet a member? We’re offering on-site New Member Orientation for this in-person community event. Just email frolic@thecspc.org to schedule your NMO and get assistance buying your ticket.

Hope to see you around the campfire! 

Teaching Dessert Topping at the Frolic

by Teeebone

Last month, I had the honor of teaching at the Frolic. It was an hour-long workshop entitled Sweet, Seductive, and Serviceable: Dessert Topping for Everybody! The course description was as follows:

“Have you ever heard of a Dessert Top? BDSM has been perceived as rough, brutal, and painful, thanks to our dear friends in the media. So let’s step away from that and approach this subject from a different angle, focusing on fun and sensual domination! In this workshop, we will explore the sensual side of BDSM and find out more about what being a Sweet Service Top is all about!”

And like it said on the can, so to speak, this class covered a part of BDSM that has long been overlooked or maybe not even considered. When the Frolic team contacted me about doing a class at the event, I readily accepted, though I must admit I was nervous at first... I had not ever taught a class before.

So I got started putting together a syllabus with prompts and notes on my experience in the subject matter and getting oriented to the audience my class was likely to attract:

1. First, I anticipated that the attendees would likely be beginners.

2. As such, these new folx were not likely to have a big toy library, so I brought some of my own toys for show and tell.

3. I did research online and found a very useful scene fill-out form to hand out.

4. I also did research on some reading material to recommend to the attendees.

I crafted the syllabus, added scripted elements, made preparations and rehearsed my delivery until the night before the event. I was still pretty excited, so it was difficult to sleep. On early Sunday morning, I drove to Kinky Acres to teach my class. Just like a wizard, I did not arrive late or early, but precisely when I meant to…. Actually, about fifteen minutes before the class was to start. So off to the teaching tent I went.

And what an awesome experience! While the audience was small, it made for an up-close and personal presentation that was focused on a different take on BDSM, one that was fun, sensual and intimate. In execution, I found that I had 45 minutes of syllabus/script and 15 minutes of questions and discussion for an hour long class, which seemed to be the right mix. After class, we had a yummy Sunday Brunch, hung around some more and then did the Closing Ceremony to conclude the event.

Overall, I had a wonderful experience at the Frolic as a presenter. I am grateful that the Frolic Team invited me to teach the class. It was the first class I have ever taught– but it won’t be the last! Thank you and you are welcome!

It’s not too late to join the Frolic this weekend, August 5-7, for more great classes and activities! A few tickets are still available here. Not yet a member, but want to join us at the Frolic? Email us at frolic@thecspc.org to schedule an on-site new member orientation and purchase your ticket.

Community Matters: Volunteer Training in August

The CSPC is celebrating the hundreds of new members we’ve welcomed in 2022! Our community is growing and that brings fresh ideas, new parties and discussion groups, and more need for volunteers to help us create spaces where folx can bring their sexy dreams to life. 

We are pleased to be hosting another round of volunteer training for Registration and Monitor roles via Zoom on Monday, August 22. Registration training will take place from 7:0-8:00pm and Monitor training will be from 8:00-9:00pm. You are welcome to attend either one–or both!

Not yet a volunteer? No problem! Just go to the volunteering page on our website and follow the instructions to complete the online volunteer orientation and submit your volunteer application. Super simple!

Remember–the CSPC is fully run by members, for members. Your energy and enthusiasm as a volunteer matter!

Myself!--No In-Person NMO in August

Mmmmmm….Myself! 

Love to watch? Love to be watched? Myself! is the party for you!  

The party is named Myself! to emphasize the personal nature of this party. What gets you excited? Stripping, lap dancing, gang bangs, bukkake, dirty talk, just watching, chatting with people, group sex, hitachi, watching porn? Come do it at Myself!

Myself! is a wonderful sex-friendly masturbation party that’s about consent, perverted ideas and watching. Opening Circle at 6:30 is required for everyone who has not attended a circle this year.

Myself! usually welcomes new members with a New Member Orientation (NMO) before each party. However, in August we will NOT be having an in-person NMO right before the party due to the timing of other events in the Gallery Erato space that day.

Not yet a member, but want to attend Myself! in August? You can attend New Member Orientation before another event earlier in the month (before Fresh Meet on 8/5 or Power Play Mixed-Tape on 8/13), or you can attend our online NMO from the comfort of home on 8/11!

Hope to see you there!

Consent Corner 2.17

by Emma Atkinson and Rachel Drake 

Hello again, dear readers!  It’s the dog days of summer, and if you feel the urge to howl at the moon or any celestial object at all, please go right ahead.  

Speaking of consent, the number of COVID cases is ramping up along with social interactions, and how about those masks?  When should I wear it?  What if I’m wearing a mask and I join a group in conversation who are all unmasked?  Or, vice versa, I’m unmasked and the group is not - what then?  

Neither of us is a medical authority.  We do, however, suggest that you be mindful when such situations arise.  Get the best information you can, consider what is best for you and the situation, and then trust your gut.  

Your personal autonomy always gives you the right to decide what’s best for you.  You may need to ask for a change in the situation, or you may need to leave.  Being mindful can help you figure out what’s best then and there.  

You have the opportunity to practice a superpower that mystifies a lot of people: how to be the one to start a difficult conversation.  One way to start a challenging conversation is by pointing out what’s going on.  You could say “I’m not masked and all of you are.”  

What next? Practice another superpower–kindness. You could ask for what you want or ask others what they want. You can leave if it seems wise. Gathering more information about how you can uphold the autonomy of others you want to engage with doesn’t have to be complex. Finding out what they are comfortable with by asking questions like, “I don’t have a mask on me, would you be more comfortable with me standing 6ft away or should we connect another time?”   

The kindness really comes into play when you accept whatever answer you are given with grace and a good attitude. It’s okay to be disappointed or feel your feelings, but upholding the autonomy of others, and creating a situation where everyone feels safe to state their needs (including “no”) without retaliation or negative reactions is important to healthy consent agreements.  

These suggestions are simple, but many people find that they are not easy at first; with practice they will come naturally.  In the beginning, you may need to muster all the courage you can to handle challenging situations with the kind of grace you will remember fondly, but it’s worth it!  Try practicing with people in your life that you know and trust. We’re pretty sure that you have the courage you need already inside you just waiting for the chance to help you out.  

Homework:  Start some conversations about masks and let us know how it went at:  info@thecspc.org

“Be excellent to each other” - Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other” - Emma and Rachel 

It's Time to FROLIC!

The CSPC’s Frolic camping events are right around the corner! This year we’re having two weekends, each with food provided (including taco bar)! Our first event kicks off at 10 am tomorrow morning (7/22), but it’s not too late to join the fun–while our VIP rooms are taken, we still have a few tickets for July’s hot hot camping event available! 

And for the next level in glamping, be sure to put in a bid for our indoor VIP rooms for the August weekend. The two highest bidders will win a room for the whole weekend, with access to an indoor bathroom and shower, for themselves and a plus one!

In keeping with this year’s theme, From Fantasy to Fulfillment, in July we’ve got our famous lube slip-n-slide, a Talent Show, and the Dating Game. In August we’re thrilled to present our Kinky Carnival and Kinky Olympic Games! Plus all the education and skills share talent you can imagine–from sexy communication skills and dessert topping to fireplay, needles, impact play and more! See our full event schedule here and buy your tickets at the links below before they’re gone:

2022 Frolic Weekend 1 (July 22-24)--Know Yourself: Needs, Wants, Cravings

2022 Frolic Weekend 2 (August 3-5)--Know the Game: Mind, Body, Energy

This is a members and their guests only CSPC event. You can renew your membership through our Member Portal. Love to join us this weekend, but not yet a member? We’ve got you covered! We’ll be offering on site orientation for folx who would like to attend this event but who are not yet CSPC members. Just email frolic@theCSPC.org to purchase tickets and schedule new member orientation for this weekend’s event.

Hope to see you there! The only hotness we are missing is YOU!  

Wicked Wordplay--Turning Up the Heat!

by Eirikah Delaunay

Wicked Wordplay is coming up on Wednesday, July 27, from 6-8pm! This online event creates space for erotic co-writing and reading within a supportive container of creative, sexy humans. Every month, we stoke the flames of hotness, we laugh, we swoon, we applaud wildly in delight. 

Co-hosts Chel and Eirikah offer a new prompt each month to guide the co-writing time in our first 30 minutes together, then attendees share their writing aloud with the group if they wish. This event is NOT a writing workshop; it’s more like an erotica reading with a quiet half hour of writing together in our own separate spaces up front (which is awesome for those of us who struggle to squeeze fun writing time into our daily lives).

Everything about our time together is open to personal choice. Not inspired by this month’s prompt? Write about whatever is juicy for you! Not feeling like reading this month? Sit back and enjoy listening! Not a writer at all, but love erotica? Come hang out with us and soak up all the yumminess in community! 

What do our prompts look like? Here are some examples from the past few months:

• Play Space: Imagine your ideal sensual/sexual environment. Is it a BDSM dungeon, wild outdoors, cozy bedroom, or some other special place? Write a detailed description.

• Sensational Sexytimes: Imagine a scenario you find arousing and describe the scene/action as experienced through all your senses.

• Random Word Generator: Go to RandomWordGenerator.com to get a word. Extrapolate a scene using the random word as inspiration.

• Show us your Pride! Write something that celebrates your unique sexual and sensual desires and identity.

And of course, there’s the one writer who brings us a Chuck Tingle parody for our giggly delight every month…. ;)

Want another taste of yum? Join the Wicked Wordplay group on Fetlife! Be sure to check out our stickies for group guidelines, erotica recommendations, and a spot to share your own sexy writing prompt ideas.

All are welcome–this event is free for CSPC members and only $5 for non-members. After you register for the event here, you’ll receive an email with the Zoom link to join us. 

Didn’t receive the link? Other questions? Email us at wickedwordplay@thecspc.org! 

Community Matters: Volunteering FTW!

by Eirikah Delaunay

Whether you’ve been a CSPC member for 20 years or 20 minutes, volunteering is the very best way to get the most out of the sex positive community. As a volunteer, you can get to know other members of the community while creating the sex positive events and connections you want most! 

Here’s what some volunteers had to say about their experience:

“(I’ve learned) the name for the thrill I get in helping. (As a volunteer) I can stave off social anxiety, (and) I can spread accurate knowledge in a non-judgmental and free manner.” –Bridge, volunteer of six months

“I’ve met with more of the great people who make the CSPC what it is: a unique and wonderfully supportive community of honest, open people. Learning, teaching, exploring together and supporting each other.” –Explorer_271, volunteer of nine months

“Volunteering is like getting to hang out with my friends. (It makes me feel) like I'm making a safe, sexy place for others to gather at, which is so nice.” –Aileen, volunteer of five years

“You will get more in knowledge, community connection, and self exploration than the effort you put into volunteering.” –Explorer_271, volunteer of nine months

“It's your community; you'll get out of it in proportion to what you put into it.” –Temptr, volunteer of 19 years

You can be part of a volunteer team that makes the hotness happen, whether you’re working at a party or helping out with all the behind-the-scenes work of the CSPC organization. Begin the process by completing the online volunteer orientation and volunteer application form here! We are created and run by members, for members, and we need YOU!