A Journey to Sex Positive Self and Community

by Ricky B.

Hi! I'm Ricky, a new member and volunteer for the CSPC.

The CSPC provides a safe place for our community to explore their sexual orientation and identity, without judgement or fear. That's why I'm proud to serve our organization by monitoring and assisting with events.

My membership to the CSPC began only a short time ago; however, my path to the sex positive and LGBTQ community has been lifelong. Having lived a vanilla life out of fear of judgment and persecution, I now unapologetically advocate in my community and workplace for the right of self-expression and LGBTQ pride. 

It has not been a journey without obstacles: I've been censored, targeted, and shunned by those who aren't accepting of me; I've lost friends and made adversaries; I've lost relationships and job opportunities; I've been misunderstood; and at times, I've lost myself. However, through support, guidance, and reflection, I've been found. This is why I advocate; this is why I volunteer; and this is why I proudly support the CSPC and the LGBTQ community.

No matter what color of the rainbow you represent, no matter your race, ethnicity, or gender identity, you're welcome at CSPC. Consider volunteering. You can make a difference in your community.

Be proud of who you are, live your best life, and give back as a volunteer!

Ricky (he, him, Hers)

Looking for support on your journey of sex positive self expression? Check out the new finding YOUR way online discussion group! The first meeting is Monday, 9/5–free to members!

Volunteering is a great way to build greater connection while giving back to our community. Complete the online orientation and submit your volunteer application today! Keep an eye out for our next Registration and Monitor training!

Sexy (Social) Science!

by Emma Atkinson

Hello lovely readers! I hope you’re feeling the puppy love in these dog days of summer.

Today I have a modest proposal for you: try out what it feels like to talk more with your loved ones. Consent is all about conversations. Great conversations are often honest and heartfelt.  How can we increase the odds of having those kinds of conversations?  I’m glad you asked!

Try this experiment (for science!) and see what happens - talk just a little more than usual when you’re in intimate situations. You can keep it simple: “that feels so good” or “I love it when you do that” or “does that feel good?” Even an “ooo yum” will suffice. 

Remember that with new partners all of your consent agreements will be made before the interactions occur. It’s easy for all involved to get caught up in the moment and agree to things that are later regretted. But you might want to try that super hot thing you’re thinking about next time, and trying something new with a trusted and supportive person can be quite extraordinary. Get that conversation started!

Homework:  try talking a little bit more than usual with loved ones. Let yourself be a little more vocally expressive and see what happens.  Then let me know what you learned from the experiment at info@thecspc.org.  

“She blinded me with science” - Thomas Dolby

“She blinded me with sexy (social) science” - Emma Atkinson

Notes from the Board: COVID Protocol Changes, Other Infectious Disease Policies

As we navigate the ever-changing landscape of COVID and other infectious diseases, we continue to be grateful for all the ways that our CSPC community has stepped up to help take care of each other’s safety.

In response to the changes in the COVID pandemic and public health recommendations, the Board is shifting some of these policies. We decided at our August board meeting to discontinue checks at registration for vaccination cards, effective October 1. Also at this time, we will be increasing the masking requirements at CSPC events to KN95/N95 or equivalent masks. These changes will allow our events to be more inclusive of community members who cannot be vaccinated, while also becoming safer than before from airborne transmission.

Although the vaccine requirement has been a popular safety measure, it has from its outset discriminated against people with certain allergic and immune conditions who were advised by their doctors not to be vaccinated. We all accepted this loss on the argument that requiring vaccination was limiting community spread of COVID-19, therefore making our events safer for all at the cost of excluding some.

The advent of Omicron variants, which now account for more than 99.9% of the COVID cases in our area, rapidly changed all of that. Omicron’s ability to evade immunity allowed it to spread readily through both vaccinated and unvaccinated populations, creating an explosion in cases back in January.

In short, the process of checking vaccine cards has, due to mutation of the virus, become much less effective at slowing and preventing COVID spread at our events. At the same time, requiring vaccine cards has continued to completely exclude a small number of our members from participation at in-person events. Our policy change is to recognize this fact, and to allow access to those who cannot be vaccinated. The overwhelming majority of all attendees will still be vaccinated (as they always have been), and continuing to check vaccine cards would not change this fact.

To be clear, the CSPC Board still strongly recommends that everybody who is able should be vaccinated and boosted, as doing so greatly reduces your personal risk of being hospitalized or dying if you do become infected.

The change in masking policy (KN95/N95 or equivalent required beginning October 1) is meant to recognize the advice widely given by public health officials around the beginning of the Omicron outbreaks. Cloth and surgical masks are simply not as effective at preventing spread, and we can do better at protecting one another. KN95 or N95 masks will be made available at registration to those who don’t have their own KN95 or N95 mask.

We do allow people to remove masks when eating or drinking, and during scenes according to their need to use their mouth. We require that people mask up prior to leaving the scene space. The hope is to limit risks as much as we can, while still allowing a variety of play to take place.

There is also a lot that individual members can do to improve safety. We encourage people to self-screen (take COVID tests, stay home if they have a fever or other symptoms, etc.), and we will gladly move tickets out to future events when somebody tests positive or can't attend for health reasons. We hope that this will help us all do the right things and keep one another safe.

We’ve also received some questions recently around measures used to prevent the spread of other infectious diseases like monkeypox and various STIs. We use hospital-grade cleaner on play equipment, and make this available for attendees to use before and after their scenes. We also require that people put down a towel or sheet between naked skin and furniture, and we have all linens professionally cleaned between events.

It's also worth mentioning that safer sex practices can go a long way toward prevention of disease spread. We make barriers and lube available free of charge and encourage their use. We also encourage all members to exchange full information regarding risk factors during negotiation, so that everybody can consent to activities with the information they need to assess their comfort with the attendant risks.

With care, we can all help keep our community safer so that we can continue to meet together for sexy good times.

Stay safe, stay sexy,

--The CSPC Board

Join us at finding YOUR way!

You’ve been to orientation, maybe a couple of parties, but now what? Or maybe you’ve been a member for years and want an opportunity to get more connected with the community–especially after so much time in COVID lockdown! 

Come feel welcome in the (virtual) open arms of our friendly hosts Tristan and Sam for an online discussion about finding your way in the CSPC and sex positive community the first Monday after Fresh Meet from 7 to 9 p.m. Like all our discussion groups, participation is free for members! Register here to join us for the very first meeting on September 5 (Labor Day). The Zoom link will be emailed to you upon registration.

Moving deeper into the sex positive community can be exciting, overwhelming, or even scary - but you don’t have to do it alone! finding YOUR way is a safe place to discuss and process our experiences at CSPC parties and other events, as well as to connect with others who are actively on a similar journey of sexual and sensual exploration. The goal of this group is to honor the uniqueness of each individual’s path and to provide support and encouragement as you are finding YOUR way into the community.

Each session will begin with a review of our group agreements and the CSPC Online Group rules, followed by the hosts or a guest speaker sharing an experience with the group that surprised them or provided a learning moment. Then we will open the floor for discussion and sharing of attendees' experiences from parties where they learned something new about the community or themselves.

After a short break, we will open the floor for questions about sex positivity in general, about specific interests and kinks, about opportunities for greater engagement with the community, and about the process of developing relationships inside the community. Guided by the hosts, the group will discuss our diverse experiences and perspectives and share related resources. In the case of questions that require additional information or research, the hosts of this peer-led group will update the group later in the week with answers and additional resources.

Participants are encouraged to submit questions ahead of time via the finding YOUR way Discord channel, or by emailing findingyourway@thecspc.org.

Discussion of sexual experiences is encouraged, so please be prepared to hear content of explicit nature being discussed. An opportunity to discuss aftercare following the discussion group will also be provided.

About your hosts:

Sam (she/her) is a queer white/indigenous cis woman who joined the CSPC and the sex positive community this year. She has formed many of her connections at the CSPC through her work as a volunteer and recognizes that each person’s journey is unique. Because of this, she is deeply motivated to provide space for people to find connections that feel authentic in the community.

Tristan (he/him) is a queer cis man and an active volunteer who joined the community this year as well. He's passionate about making members feel welcome and helping them find the experiences they want as part of the sex positive community.

Join us September 5 at finding YOUR way!

Community Matters: Building an Inclusive Community

by Eirikah Delaunay

One of the core values of the CSPC is inclusive community building. Our identity as a sex positive community center is one of our defining qualities. The CSPC is created by members, for members. This means that all the work of organizing and staffing parties, communications and website management, fundraising and email answering is done by members who volunteer to share their time, energy, and skills to support the community. We are also fortunate to be supported by members who may not have the capacity to volunteer their time, but who contribute financially above and beyond their membership fees and party ticket purchases.

We strive to be a welcoming and inclusive space for the diverse individuals who seek out sex positive community. What can you do as a member (or volunteer) to help create the culture of belonging we all want to experience?

First, when you attend events, make an effort to talk with folx you don’t already know, especially folx who seem like they might be there alone. It takes a lot of courage to break into a new social group, and you can be the person who makes that newcomer feel welcome and connected. 

But what do you say to a total stranger at a sex party? Especially if you don’t want to come off as creepy? That’s not as tough as it sounds. Consider starting with a compliment. Telling someone you like their hair or shoes or outfit (not a body part) is a great ice breaker. You might also begin with a question that can get a conversation rolling, like “How long have you been a member?” or “How did you find the CSPC?” Be sure you share your name and pronouns, and ask them for theirs.

Those tactics also work if you’re a newer member and you’re trying to meet people. You might also ask members who have been around a little longer what their favorite party is and why, or what’s the most memorable scene they ever saw at an event. (Remember, no names unless it was your own scene! Confidentiality still applies.)

Our new online discussion group, finding YOUR way, is another great way to connect with people in the community as a newer member–or as a more established member who has been away for a while (think building change and COVID lockdown…).

And if you’re not yet a volunteer, there’s no time like the present! As our membership continues to grow, we want to be able to offer more and more parties tailored to what turns our members on, and that means we need YOU! Every party starts as the fantasy of a Champion, and every party requires a full staff of set up and strike, registration, D.J.s, monitors, and event coordinators to make attendees’ dreams come true. We’re also always looking for more people to help out with the behind-the-scenes work as well, including Board roles. Get started with your online volunteer orientation and application today! Our next online registration and monitor training session is Monday, August 22, from 7-9pm. Join us!

The CSPC community is as strong as we make it, and our differences make us stronger. Thanks so much for all the ways that you take care of each other and our community, and for all the ways you bring connection and hotness into each others’ lives.

Hump History Year Six: Rolling That Hard Six

by Teeebone

In 2013, the Hump marked its sixth year at the Center. It is also important to note that the Annex (and later the RAW Dungeon) had been in use by the CSPC for about the same length of time. This extra space allowed the Center to hold two events per night almost every day, and as the membership grew, so did the demand for volunteers to staff the parties, old and new alike. Even an event as basic as a weekday sex-focused party needs capable staff to run safely and smoothly.

During this year, there were a few challenges that had to be dealt with involving prompting staff to stay on focus with their duties rather than behave like they were an attendee at the party. Most of them owned up to it when the issue was brought up, and a “teachable” moment was experienced by all. Staying in the game and learning from your mistakes is the key when it comes to being a good volunteer at the CSPC.

In May, the Hump launched a “Porn Drive” to put together a porn DVD library for the party. Up till then, we would need to go to the CSPC Library and check out some DVDs to play in the Solo Space. Putting together our own event library helped save time on setup. All told, we received 38 porn DVDs from our generous members!

In June, we celebrated the CSPC’s Fourteenth birthday with a Hump and a Whump! Some of the highlights:  A suspension / naked cake platter scene, a birthday spanking (or was it two or three?) and a high level of attendance (80+ members on a Wednesday night!) that promptly adjourned to the RAW Dungeon or back room after 8pm. Truly an epic event.

Tragedy struck in September however, when it was discovered during setup that our beloved mascot Humphrey was shattered in his storage tote. All seemed lost, but then somebody from the Hump crew took our broken friend home, and with a whole lot of love and glue, they managed to restore Humphrey back to his humpy camel self.

In December, the year ended with the annual Xmas Potluck combined with the Hump. For this night only, admission was a suggested donation of $10. So... an attendee could either: Donate $10, bring a food item, donate $10 AND bring a food item or just bring themselves. Amazingly, the donations were as generous as the spread for the potluck: A complete roasted turkey, mashed potatoes and gravy, southern-style cornbread, noodle kugel, macaroni and cheese, carrots, green beans, rice krispie treats, pumpkin pie, AND apple pie. YUM, YUM! Holidays are the best when spent in community with friends and chosen family.

Until next time... :^)

As the CSPC community continues to grow and we return to hosting more and more events, we need YOU to help make the magic happen by sharing your time, energy, and skills as a volunteer! Our next training for Registration and Monitors is 7-9pm on Monday, August 22

Not yet a volunteer? Complete your online volunteer orientation and application here! 

Questions? Reach out to us at info@theCSPC.org.

Still Time to Frolic!

Hey hey, sexy humans! There are still a few tickets left for this weekend’s Frolic–grab yours before it’s too late! We’re super excited for a second weekend of ah-mazing education, exciting activities, fantastic food, community and camping under the stars! Check out the line up of fun at the Frolic here.

The weather is going to be glorious for the kinky carnival and lube olympics, and we are delighted to present classes with Mac McGregor (MacDaddy), Hawk, Kelly McAllister, Turtle, and Skitty. We’ll be saying Fuck Gender, learning about Obi-Jutsu, upskilling with Needles that Hurt, exploring Power Dynamics, experimenting with Skin (and all the ways to play with it!), and playing the 3-minute Game! Read about our awesome educators (and get the deets on the lube olympics) here.

The July Frolic was a blast! Here is what a few attendees had to say about their experience:

“I highly recommend the CSPC Frolic. Guaranteed memory maker. I laughed, cried, moaned, & feel like I’ve come away from this weekend as a better person.“

"My favorite part of The Frolic was growing closer with old friends and making new ones around the campfire as the embers died down."

“It was wonderful & gratifying to see so many having so much fun.”

"I loved how intimate the camp was... in that people really took the time to share stories, get to know each other, belly laugh at great jokes... I hadn't felt a deep part of a group like this for years and it really fed my soul."

“My clothes are sticking to me with sweat, my skin is sunburned, I ache in all the good places, my mind has absorbed, and my heart is happy. Thankful for the healing and welcoming energy of my community.”

“I went to the Frolic for kinky play, and although I certainly enjoyed that, I came away with so much more! The workshops were enlightening and I made so many new friends. The sense of community throughout the weekend was incredible. I feel connected and invigorated and can’t wait to do it all again in August.”

Want to join us this weekend but not yet a member? We’re offering on-site New Member Orientation for this in-person community event. Just email frolic@thecspc.org to schedule your NMO and get assistance buying your ticket.

Hope to see you around the campfire! 

Teaching Dessert Topping at the Frolic

by Teeebone

Last month, I had the honor of teaching at the Frolic. It was an hour-long workshop entitled Sweet, Seductive, and Serviceable: Dessert Topping for Everybody! The course description was as follows:

“Have you ever heard of a Dessert Top? BDSM has been perceived as rough, brutal, and painful, thanks to our dear friends in the media. So let’s step away from that and approach this subject from a different angle, focusing on fun and sensual domination! In this workshop, we will explore the sensual side of BDSM and find out more about what being a Sweet Service Top is all about!”

And like it said on the can, so to speak, this class covered a part of BDSM that has long been overlooked or maybe not even considered. When the Frolic team contacted me about doing a class at the event, I readily accepted, though I must admit I was nervous at first... I had not ever taught a class before.

So I got started putting together a syllabus with prompts and notes on my experience in the subject matter and getting oriented to the audience my class was likely to attract:

1. First, I anticipated that the attendees would likely be beginners.

2. As such, these new folx were not likely to have a big toy library, so I brought some of my own toys for show and tell.

3. I did research online and found a very useful scene fill-out form to hand out.

4. I also did research on some reading material to recommend to the attendees.

I crafted the syllabus, added scripted elements, made preparations and rehearsed my delivery until the night before the event. I was still pretty excited, so it was difficult to sleep. On early Sunday morning, I drove to Kinky Acres to teach my class. Just like a wizard, I did not arrive late or early, but precisely when I meant to…. Actually, about fifteen minutes before the class was to start. So off to the teaching tent I went.

And what an awesome experience! While the audience was small, it made for an up-close and personal presentation that was focused on a different take on BDSM, one that was fun, sensual and intimate. In execution, I found that I had 45 minutes of syllabus/script and 15 minutes of questions and discussion for an hour long class, which seemed to be the right mix. After class, we had a yummy Sunday Brunch, hung around some more and then did the Closing Ceremony to conclude the event.

Overall, I had a wonderful experience at the Frolic as a presenter. I am grateful that the Frolic Team invited me to teach the class. It was the first class I have ever taught– but it won’t be the last! Thank you and you are welcome!

It’s not too late to join the Frolic this weekend, August 5-7, for more great classes and activities! A few tickets are still available here. Not yet a member, but want to join us at the Frolic? Email us at frolic@thecspc.org to schedule an on-site new member orientation and purchase your ticket.

Community Matters: Volunteer Training in August

The CSPC is celebrating the hundreds of new members we’ve welcomed in 2022! Our community is growing and that brings fresh ideas, new parties and discussion groups, and more need for volunteers to help us create spaces where folx can bring their sexy dreams to life. 

We are pleased to be hosting another round of volunteer training for Registration and Monitor roles via Zoom on Monday, August 22. Registration training will take place from 7:0-8:00pm and Monitor training will be from 8:00-9:00pm. You are welcome to attend either one–or both!

Not yet a volunteer? No problem! Just go to the volunteering page on our website and follow the instructions to complete the online volunteer orientation and submit your volunteer application. Super simple!

Remember–the CSPC is fully run by members, for members. Your energy and enthusiasm as a volunteer matter!