Sexy (Social) Science 2

by Emma Atkinson

Hello wonderful readers!  Isn’t the cooler weather a welcome shift?  

Science can be fun, especially if it’s both sexy and social. Your latest mission, should you choose to accept it, is to try being just a bit more social than usual.  

Some lovely person recently commented on how it can be difficult to meet people at CSPC parties. Many party goers attend with a date, the music can be a bit loud at times, and not everyone there has a goal of meeting someone new.

So, the next time you go to an awesome CSPC event, try to catch a few people’s eyes and smile at them. While being careful not to interrupt a scene or aftercare time, try giving a truthful compliment or two and see how that goes. It shouldn’t be all that hard - look around at a party and you’ll see amazing people wearing amazing clothes and using amazing toys. And sometimes the most ordinary-looking person in the room has amazing stories to share!

Think about what that person might want then and there. Don’t we all want to be seen and acknowledged? Don’t we want to be welcomed and feel like we’re a part of the community? Of course we do! 

Your mission is to focus on helping people at the event feel welcome. Try it, and notice if you feel more welcome yourself. Start slowly- there’s no need to push yourself too much, especially at first. Successful science experiments are habit-forming, and you may find it easier over time to get to know more people while you’re creating the kind of community you want to be in.

Please share your experiences at:  info@thecspc.org.

“She blinded me with science” - Thomas Dolby

“They blinded me with sexy (social) science” - Emma Atkinson

Hump History Year Seven: Before the Eighth

by Teeebone

As the Hump began its 7th year in 2014, the ongoing challenge of staff maintenance continued to slowly escalate, particularly in the EC (Event Coordinator) department. The EC position is basically a manager type of position, and typically was combined with being a Champion or Host of any given party or event. By this time, a significant number of older ECs had left for one reason or another, and finding replacements for them was proving difficult.

Event Coordinators run the party, delegate responsibilities among the crew, arrange the volunteer schedule with the volunteer coordinator, handle publicity, and help come up with new ideas and themes if they are also Champions and/or Hosts. It’s a lot to take on, and by 2014 I found myself both opening and closing the Hump at least once and sometimes twice a month.

While we’re on the topic of volunteers, I’d like to give a shout-out to all of those who worked as cashiers during the Interbay days of the CSPC. It was a difficult job involving not just the typical cash handling and credit card transactions of a retail cashier, but also potential drama at the doorstep issues when it came to resolving conflicts over membership and/or admission to the party. When this happened, the EC had to get involved and make a decision on how to resolve the conflict. Typically, an EC could expect to be hanging around the cashier’s desk for at least a quarter of their shift.

As for the Hump itself, the party had become quite rope bondage-friendly over the years and usually had two suspensions a night. The back sex room filled up by 9pm, and the cuddle/romp pile was a center of activity while the solo space was occupied with an exhibitionist scene of some sort. In the previous summer, we began using a video projector to show porn on a big screen that divided the cuddle/romp pile from the solo space. The placement of said screen was optimal and allowed folx to watch porn from almost anywhere in the Main Space. It was literally the best backdrop ever!

Another thing of note was the wave of “kink-curious” members entering the community in the wake of the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, and I found myself having to remind new members about the rules and etiquette that our membership follows, especially in relation to cellphones. Cellphones had been in use for years at this point, and the habit of checking the phone was a common activity. Handling this problem required some gentle reminders of the rules and making sure that they were followed.

The Hump rolled on with a birthday sundae scene in the Messy Room in mid-June. This involved laying down tarps to cover a massage table and the floor, with the subject lying on the table while ice cream, toppings, and pressurized whipped cream in a can were placed on them and then licked and/or eaten off the subject. VERY MESSY! Who knew that cold could be so hot?

While the Hump Crew took Xmas Eve off, New Year’s Eve came on a Wednesday the following week that year so we had a NYE Edition Hump and Whump! The event included a fancy dinner for 30 premium attendees and all of the spaces (the Main Space, Annex, and RAW Dungeon) open for play! 2015 was just around the corner!

Until next time... :^)


Want to be part of a dedicated party crew who helps make sexy dreams come true? Join the volunteer corps today!

Back 2 Skool with PPMT!

It’s Back to School time at PPMT! Join us at Gallery Erato on FRIDAY, September 9, from 8 p.m. to midnight! Dress to impress in your best school uniform or teacher suit! Bring those rulers to break on errant behinds! 

We also will be welcoming Maggie the Magnificent to our Champion Team. Make sure to come say hi to our brand new Team Member! (If you’d like to be a permanent member of the PPMT Team, email us at ppmt@thecspc.org.) 

Power Play Mixed-Tape makes having a fantastic fucking time easy. Dress to impress and surround yourself with sensual sex and bass-pounding BDSM. Best yet - The music will be HOT - Throbbing Beats from 8-10 pm with DJ ObliqueBanter and sizzling sexiness by DJ Boneman  from 10 pm-Midnight! Surge and Doof with us! (The basement will ride a noticeably lower decibel level for your pleasure! Earplugs are available at the Registration desk.)

Pickup Play- Are you available to play? Grab a name tag located on a table just past the Registration desk, add your name and Top/bottom designation, and/or write a sticky note detailing your fantasy, then place it on the Pickup Play Board. Don’t miss out. Just ask, negotiate, and give clear consent!

Come Beat, Flirt, Needle, Bleed, Cut, Hang, Tie, Eat, Lick, Grab, Bite, Kiss, Fuck, Cum and maybe much more with someone new, someone old, something cool, something bold! Spin on the dance floor or be suspended from one of our hard points. Make someone sizzle on the rack or bend them over a spanking bench. Any play sanctioned by the CSPC is allowed at PPMT, so review CSPC's Essential House Rules. Expect sex anywhere and everywhere except the bathroom and Aftercare Room! If it's going to be bloody, bring your own plastic/tarp and linens. No solo masturbation unless scene participants and Event Coordinators give permission, please.

Got something devious or seductive in mind? Email ahead to secure a fantasy needing special devising or to seek EC approval for riskier play: ppmt@thecspc.org

Registration for this party is limited to a maximum of 120 tickets. Buy yours today!

Not yet a member but want to be a part of all the sexy PPMT fun? Join us for New Member Orientation right before the party! New Member tickets include orientation, your first month’s membership fee, and the party ticket.

Community Matters

by Eirikah Delaunay

One of the things that makes the Center for Sex Positive Culture so special is our focus on the nature of our organization as a COMMUNITY. Everything we do at the CSPC is created by and for our members. All our parties were developed by members; all the volunteers who staff those parties are members; all the leadership behind the scenes are volunteer members; and as a 501(c)7 nonprofit organization, nearly all of the funding that supports our services come from members.

What does this mean for you? It means ALL your contributions to our community MATTER!

We need your great ideas, your time and energy, your leadership, your donations. Whatever you can offer our community–your personal special sauce–your contribution will make a difference in our ability to create spaces for folx to explore and express their authentic sexual and sensual selves in a diverse, supportive community.

One way to get more connected with the community and find support as you navigate your personal journey is to attend the brand new finding YOUR way online discussion group! This group is dedicated to helping support folx as they pursue their own personal sex positive adventures with the CSPC, and the first meeting is this Monday, September 5.

We also have an exciting fundraising opportunity coming up fast! This Thanksgiving the CSPC is sponsoring a Super Skillz & Stuff auction. All our members have unique skills and talents or maybe some hidden treasures that are ready to be enjoyed by someone new. Maybe you’re a gifted cook who donates a dinner party for four, or maybe you want to offer a piece of your art, a custom-crafted playlist for a particular occasion, or that one pair of boots you never wear. What do YOU have to share with your community? The auction will take place in time to purchase one-of-kind holiday gifts from your CSPC community. Stay tuned for more details and the donation form coming soon!

And of course, it’s always the right time to volunteer! Watch the online volunteer orientation video and submit your volunteer application today! Party volunteers get free entry, behind the scenes volunteers get to be part of the action from the comfort of home, and ALL our volunteers get the opportunity to become part of a fun, dedicated team.

Questions? Ideas? Reach out to info@thecspc.org

Thank YOU for all the ways that you make this community the safe, sexy, and welcoming space it is.

A Journey to Sex Positive Self and Community

by Ricky B.

Hi! I'm Ricky, a new member and volunteer for the CSPC.

The CSPC provides a safe place for our community to explore their sexual orientation and identity, without judgement or fear. That's why I'm proud to serve our organization by monitoring and assisting with events.

My membership to the CSPC began only a short time ago; however, my path to the sex positive and LGBTQ community has been lifelong. Having lived a vanilla life out of fear of judgment and persecution, I now unapologetically advocate in my community and workplace for the right of self-expression and LGBTQ pride. 

It has not been a journey without obstacles: I've been censored, targeted, and shunned by those who aren't accepting of me; I've lost friends and made adversaries; I've lost relationships and job opportunities; I've been misunderstood; and at times, I've lost myself. However, through support, guidance, and reflection, I've been found. This is why I advocate; this is why I volunteer; and this is why I proudly support the CSPC and the LGBTQ community.

No matter what color of the rainbow you represent, no matter your race, ethnicity, or gender identity, you're welcome at CSPC. Consider volunteering. You can make a difference in your community.

Be proud of who you are, live your best life, and give back as a volunteer!

Ricky (he, him, Hers)

Looking for support on your journey of sex positive self expression? Check out the new finding YOUR way online discussion group! The first meeting is Monday, 9/5–free to members!

Volunteering is a great way to build greater connection while giving back to our community. Complete the online orientation and submit your volunteer application today! Keep an eye out for our next Registration and Monitor training!

Sexy (Social) Science!

by Emma Atkinson

Hello lovely readers! I hope you’re feeling the puppy love in these dog days of summer.

Today I have a modest proposal for you: try out what it feels like to talk more with your loved ones. Consent is all about conversations. Great conversations are often honest and heartfelt.  How can we increase the odds of having those kinds of conversations?  I’m glad you asked!

Try this experiment (for science!) and see what happens - talk just a little more than usual when you’re in intimate situations. You can keep it simple: “that feels so good” or “I love it when you do that” or “does that feel good?” Even an “ooo yum” will suffice. 

Remember that with new partners all of your consent agreements will be made before the interactions occur. It’s easy for all involved to get caught up in the moment and agree to things that are later regretted. But you might want to try that super hot thing you’re thinking about next time, and trying something new with a trusted and supportive person can be quite extraordinary. Get that conversation started!

Homework:  try talking a little bit more than usual with loved ones. Let yourself be a little more vocally expressive and see what happens.  Then let me know what you learned from the experiment at info@thecspc.org.  

“She blinded me with science” - Thomas Dolby

“She blinded me with sexy (social) science” - Emma Atkinson

Notes from the Board: COVID Protocol Changes, Other Infectious Disease Policies

As we navigate the ever-changing landscape of COVID and other infectious diseases, we continue to be grateful for all the ways that our CSPC community has stepped up to help take care of each other’s safety.

In response to the changes in the COVID pandemic and public health recommendations, the Board is shifting some of these policies. We decided at our August board meeting to discontinue checks at registration for vaccination cards, effective October 1. Also at this time, we will be increasing the masking requirements at CSPC events to KN95/N95 or equivalent masks. These changes will allow our events to be more inclusive of community members who cannot be vaccinated, while also becoming safer than before from airborne transmission.

Although the vaccine requirement has been a popular safety measure, it has from its outset discriminated against people with certain allergic and immune conditions who were advised by their doctors not to be vaccinated. We all accepted this loss on the argument that requiring vaccination was limiting community spread of COVID-19, therefore making our events safer for all at the cost of excluding some.

The advent of Omicron variants, which now account for more than 99.9% of the COVID cases in our area, rapidly changed all of that. Omicron’s ability to evade immunity allowed it to spread readily through both vaccinated and unvaccinated populations, creating an explosion in cases back in January.

In short, the process of checking vaccine cards has, due to mutation of the virus, become much less effective at slowing and preventing COVID spread at our events. At the same time, requiring vaccine cards has continued to completely exclude a small number of our members from participation at in-person events. Our policy change is to recognize this fact, and to allow access to those who cannot be vaccinated. The overwhelming majority of all attendees will still be vaccinated (as they always have been), and continuing to check vaccine cards would not change this fact.

To be clear, the CSPC Board still strongly recommends that everybody who is able should be vaccinated and boosted, as doing so greatly reduces your personal risk of being hospitalized or dying if you do become infected.

The change in masking policy (KN95/N95 or equivalent required beginning October 1) is meant to recognize the advice widely given by public health officials around the beginning of the Omicron outbreaks. Cloth and surgical masks are simply not as effective at preventing spread, and we can do better at protecting one another. KN95 or N95 masks will be made available at registration to those who don’t have their own KN95 or N95 mask.

We do allow people to remove masks when eating or drinking, and during scenes according to their need to use their mouth. We require that people mask up prior to leaving the scene space. The hope is to limit risks as much as we can, while still allowing a variety of play to take place.

There is also a lot that individual members can do to improve safety. We encourage people to self-screen (take COVID tests, stay home if they have a fever or other symptoms, etc.), and we will gladly move tickets out to future events when somebody tests positive or can't attend for health reasons. We hope that this will help us all do the right things and keep one another safe.

We’ve also received some questions recently around measures used to prevent the spread of other infectious diseases like monkeypox and various STIs. We use hospital-grade cleaner on play equipment, and make this available for attendees to use before and after their scenes. We also require that people put down a towel or sheet between naked skin and furniture, and we have all linens professionally cleaned between events.

It's also worth mentioning that safer sex practices can go a long way toward prevention of disease spread. We make barriers and lube available free of charge and encourage their use. We also encourage all members to exchange full information regarding risk factors during negotiation, so that everybody can consent to activities with the information they need to assess their comfort with the attendant risks.

With care, we can all help keep our community safer so that we can continue to meet together for sexy good times.

Stay safe, stay sexy,

--The CSPC Board

Join us at finding YOUR way!

You’ve been to orientation, maybe a couple of parties, but now what? Or maybe you’ve been a member for years and want an opportunity to get more connected with the community–especially after so much time in COVID lockdown! 

Come feel welcome in the (virtual) open arms of our friendly hosts Tristan and Sam for an online discussion about finding your way in the CSPC and sex positive community the first Monday after Fresh Meet from 7 to 9 p.m. Like all our discussion groups, participation is free for members! Register here to join us for the very first meeting on September 5 (Labor Day). The Zoom link will be emailed to you upon registration.

Moving deeper into the sex positive community can be exciting, overwhelming, or even scary - but you don’t have to do it alone! finding YOUR way is a safe place to discuss and process our experiences at CSPC parties and other events, as well as to connect with others who are actively on a similar journey of sexual and sensual exploration. The goal of this group is to honor the uniqueness of each individual’s path and to provide support and encouragement as you are finding YOUR way into the community.

Each session will begin with a review of our group agreements and the CSPC Online Group rules, followed by the hosts or a guest speaker sharing an experience with the group that surprised them or provided a learning moment. Then we will open the floor for discussion and sharing of attendees' experiences from parties where they learned something new about the community or themselves.

After a short break, we will open the floor for questions about sex positivity in general, about specific interests and kinks, about opportunities for greater engagement with the community, and about the process of developing relationships inside the community. Guided by the hosts, the group will discuss our diverse experiences and perspectives and share related resources. In the case of questions that require additional information or research, the hosts of this peer-led group will update the group later in the week with answers and additional resources.

Participants are encouraged to submit questions ahead of time via the finding YOUR way Discord channel, or by emailing findingyourway@thecspc.org.

Discussion of sexual experiences is encouraged, so please be prepared to hear content of explicit nature being discussed. An opportunity to discuss aftercare following the discussion group will also be provided.

About your hosts:

Sam (she/her) is a queer white/indigenous cis woman who joined the CSPC and the sex positive community this year. She has formed many of her connections at the CSPC through her work as a volunteer and recognizes that each person’s journey is unique. Because of this, she is deeply motivated to provide space for people to find connections that feel authentic in the community.

Tristan (he/him) is a queer cis man and an active volunteer who joined the community this year as well. He's passionate about making members feel welcome and helping them find the experiences they want as part of the sex positive community.

Join us September 5 at finding YOUR way!

Community Matters: Building an Inclusive Community

by Eirikah Delaunay

One of the core values of the CSPC is inclusive community building. Our identity as a sex positive community center is one of our defining qualities. The CSPC is created by members, for members. This means that all the work of organizing and staffing parties, communications and website management, fundraising and email answering is done by members who volunteer to share their time, energy, and skills to support the community. We are also fortunate to be supported by members who may not have the capacity to volunteer their time, but who contribute financially above and beyond their membership fees and party ticket purchases.

We strive to be a welcoming and inclusive space for the diverse individuals who seek out sex positive community. What can you do as a member (or volunteer) to help create the culture of belonging we all want to experience?

First, when you attend events, make an effort to talk with folx you don’t already know, especially folx who seem like they might be there alone. It takes a lot of courage to break into a new social group, and you can be the person who makes that newcomer feel welcome and connected. 

But what do you say to a total stranger at a sex party? Especially if you don’t want to come off as creepy? That’s not as tough as it sounds. Consider starting with a compliment. Telling someone you like their hair or shoes or outfit (not a body part) is a great ice breaker. You might also begin with a question that can get a conversation rolling, like “How long have you been a member?” or “How did you find the CSPC?” Be sure you share your name and pronouns, and ask them for theirs.

Those tactics also work if you’re a newer member and you’re trying to meet people. You might also ask members who have been around a little longer what their favorite party is and why, or what’s the most memorable scene they ever saw at an event. (Remember, no names unless it was your own scene! Confidentiality still applies.)

Our new online discussion group, finding YOUR way, is another great way to connect with people in the community as a newer member–or as a more established member who has been away for a while (think building change and COVID lockdown…).

And if you’re not yet a volunteer, there’s no time like the present! As our membership continues to grow, we want to be able to offer more and more parties tailored to what turns our members on, and that means we need YOU! Every party starts as the fantasy of a Champion, and every party requires a full staff of set up and strike, registration, D.J.s, monitors, and event coordinators to make attendees’ dreams come true. We’re also always looking for more people to help out with the behind-the-scenes work as well, including Board roles. Get started with your online volunteer orientation and application today! Our next online registration and monitor training session is Monday, August 22, from 7-9pm. Join us!

The CSPC community is as strong as we make it, and our differences make us stronger. Thanks so much for all the ways that you take care of each other and our community, and for all the ways you bring connection and hotness into each others’ lives.