Message from the President

As I shared at the July Board Meeting, in our 25th Anniversary year the Board has been working hard toward growth and sustainability for the CSPC as an organization. In addition to working toward hiring a full-time Operations Manager to lead much of the administrative work that keeps the Center running smoothly, we have been actively continuing our search for a space to expand our services as a sex-positive community center as originally envisioned and operated for the CSPC’s first 17 years.

The CSPC Board is seeking community input related to the organization's search for a 24/7 space and the need for additional volunteer bandwidth to support our continued activities at Gallery Erato and a new expansion location.

The Building Committee has located a space in the Northup neighborhood in Bellevue that the CSPC can occupy 24/7 to expand our current party structure to include additional parties and many other kinds of community events — potluck munches, game nights, dedicated tasting nights, in-person discussion groups, skill shares, workshops, vendor fairs and more — IN ADDITION TO maintaining our current events at Gallery Erato. 

This space meets many, but not all, of the priority specifications established for a new space:

  • This space is the lowest level of an office building owned by a cooperative dedicated to creating queer spaces who intentionally sought out the CSPC as a potential tenant. There is plentiful free parking surrounding the building and an elevator for ADA access. There are many bathrooms, including one with a shower, and the property owner has agreed to add laundry and kitchen facilities to our specifications so that we can wash our own sheets and host events that involve food service. There is one very large space with hardwood floors previously used as a karate dojo, plus several smaller spaces on the same level. 

  • However, this space is not easily accessible via public transit, and the standard-height ceilings will limit the use of longer whips. We also have no guarantee that the city of Bellevue will approve our specific use at this location; we must sign a conditional lease before the city will consider a business license application (this is true of all potential new locations).

The decision to submit a non-binding Letter of Intent to sign a lease (and then sign a lease) is a big one. It is a big financial commitment, and the Board is still working through the numbers related to how many events and other activities will be required to break even and whether the time required to ramp up to those numbers can be supported by other resources.

It is also a big commitment by the community. Hosting more parties and other activities at a second space will require many more volunteers, including volunteers who are not currently active with our community. We need previous members, current members, and local sex-positive folx who are not yet members to consider whether this is a space they would support by attending events and by volunteering to make those events happen. 

Laundry facilities don’t matter if nobody is adding soap and bleach and pushing that hot water button, and it’s not safe to host events without a full complement of volunteers. Even in our current space, we often have important roles unfilled or filled at the last minute by Board members dedicated to keeping our doors open for members. We are currently considering a new event cancellation policy for events that don’t have essential roles filled at least 48 hours prior to the event time to ensure that we can maintain the CSPC’s standards for safety.

Please respond to the 2024 Community Survey here to share your thoughts about this opportunity, your ability and willingness to contribute as a community volunteer, and on our efforts to expand in general. This survey is widely available, with one response per email address possible to ensure that we avoid duplication (you must sign in with an email address to respond). 

Please complete this survey and share with your local partners and friends. The CSPC is an organization by and for its members, and it is critical that we have the membership’s support in this decision. The link for sharing this survey is: https://forms.gle/68ePF4PwUUVYWQB28

Thank you all for all the ways you contribute to helping our community thrive. Here’s to our next 25 years! <3

The Frolic 2024

T-Minus 19 Days | What You Need to Know

We’re a couple weeks away from a week of engaging activities, explorative classes, and intimate social spaces! Thank you to everyone that came out to the Pre-Frolic 411 last night. 

Here’s a recap of the FAQ:

  • We have 40 tickets left for sale! Click here for The Frolic landing page.

  • We are sold out of In/Out parking privileges. Buying car camping parking to supplement this need is not permitted.

  • Car camping spots are designated for folx who are sleeping inside their car, pop ups on their car, or an extension off of their vehicle. It is not for folx that want to set up a tent next to or near their car. There is limited ground space in these designated spots.

  • Upon arrival: Have the gate code ready! Provided in the digital “Welcome Packet.” You’ll check-in at the centrally located Registration station (obtain parking pass if applicable), and tour the venue to find a campsite (map provided on-site). If you have a vehicle, unload but do not start setting up. Drive to your designated parking area and take the shuttle back to Registration. 

    • If you have not received the secondary registration email that contains the digital “Welcome Packet,” email frolicregistration@thecspc.org. Tip: Look for subject line [ACTION REQUIRED] THANK YOU FOR REGISTERING FOR THE FROLIC 2024

  • Want to unplug? Education and entertainment schedules will be posted around the venue and an announcement board will be centrally located. 

  • Tips for CPAP: It is a first come, first serve limited camping space. You are advised to bring an outdoor extension cord as we are pulling electricity from a nearby building. You are not permitted to use this electricity for any other electronic devices unless they are medically necessary. 

  • Tip for Pickup Play: Compile an “About Me and Interests” that you can print and bring with you to post near the Pickup Play Board. We’re offering a whiteboard for communal usage but your “handwritten post” has the potential to be erased over the course of the week.

  • Active CSPC Members can access the Discord server to start conversations early about camping, classes/activities, carpooling, and pickup play! Have your member number ready for verification. 

  • There is a communal charging station centrally located at the venue located in the building labeled “The Shire.” The map is provided in your camp booklet that is provided at the time of check-in. 

  • Take a peek at the Camp Schedule and Menu before coming to camp. We have a potable water source but we do recommend folx bring their own water if they’re not comfortable drinking water from a hose. The venue is located 15 minutes from several grocery stores and 5 minutes from the closest gas station. 

  • We’re implementing an option for privacy for the outdoor showers this year. There is only one indoor bathroom and that is designated for ADA and VIP only! 

  • And yes, a ground-level pool and patio hot tub are open during certain hours. Clothing optional!

  • Remember to sign up for your required 3-hour Community Service shift! Email froliccommservice@thecspc.org if you need assistance.

As a reminder: every attendee is required to watch The Frolic Orientation and complete the quiz; this includes any plus-ones. If this is not completed before check-in, folx will be required to watch this at Registration before being permitted into the camp. This takes 30 minutes so we highly recommended completing this before August 6!

Mask Up Get Down!

Hello Friends!

My name is Carter and I am one of the hosts for the Mask Up Get Down! It is happening TOMORROW, July 19. Our theme for this party is Summer Fever, and dressing up is encouraged, but not required. If you are someone who enjoys getting to know others, you will be excited to join our Hot and Heavy speed meeting. If you have been one of the folks who has been missing masked parties, I STRONGLY encourage you to come and check us out. If you are someone who has been missing parties in general, and want to play and socialize more, come on out.

All play allowed under house rules is fair game. Some considerations: N95 or KN95 masks are required, but can be secured at the registration desk. We will have quite a bit of additional air filtration; if that is a concern do not fret! Parking/transit is going to be HECTIC (Chappell Roan is in Cap Hill this weekend) so bake in a little bit of extra getting-around time.

And remember to have fun, no matter what you’re doing this weekend, but I hope I see you here!!

Broaden Your Mind

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in every issue. If you have an event suggestion, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

May 30–August 8

Consent Academy: Consent and Leadership Summer Series ($300+ | online)

Consent and Leadership is a unique opportunity for leaders to deepen their understanding of consent, power, trauma, and accountability. It consists of 8 workshops and one optional lab, each exploring the knowledge, skills, and practices anyone who finds themselves in a position of influence or authority needs in order to foster a consensual space.

July 19

Beacon Cinema - Ask Any Buddy ($13 | in person)

ASK ANY BUDDY is a throbbing feature-length fever-dream collage of real desire, cruising, and fucking. The piece uses fragments from 126 theatrical feature films spanning the years 1968-1986 to create a kaleidoscopic day in the life snapshot of urban gay culture in the era — or at least how it looked in the movies.

July 22 (every Monday through August)

Emerald City Trapeze Arts - Beginner Shibari ($25 | in person)

In this foundational session, students will learn fundamental ties and techniques to begin their rope journey. Though fundamental, these techniques can be combined in uncountable ways to produce elaborate shapes and scenarios. Besides learning technical skills, we will focus on rope bondage as a movement and acrobatic art, with emphasis on flow, aesthetics, and partner connection.

July 22

Stoup Capitol Hill - Board Gayme Night (free | in person)

A weekly meetup for the LGBTQIA+ community hosted by Seattle Gaymers. 

July 27

Kremwerk - Midwest Princexx - A Chappell Roan Drag Show ($15 | in person)

Calling all the Pink Pony Girls!Join us at Timbre Room to honor our favorite artists’ favorite artist: Chappell Roan! You can see not THE Chappell but FIVE sort-of Chappells!

July 27

Pan Eros - And All About that Ass: Anal Play 101 ($15 | in person)

Anal play can be a wonderful experience that can deepen your understanding of your own body and what turns you on. Unfortunately, we are fed Puritanical messages that sex involving your butt is dirty, unnatural, and taboo. In this class, Nyx will bust these myths and share tips on how to make anal exploration fulfilling and worthwhile. We will look at toys specifically designed for the task, lubricants, books and more.

August 6

Sex Positive World - The Pleasure Talk ($0–$25 | online)

This class builds upon skills learned using these tools, and offers an updated framework created by and for our Sex Positive community. You can use The Pleasure Talk in your own relationships, at our events, and anywhere you find yourself in intimate connections with others.


Editor’s note for all events*

As a reminder, these are non-CSPC events. We include them as a way to open your mind to possible other experiences, but we have no control over them, their content, or their missions. 

Community Matters: Message from the President

I have a nasty relationship habit of blaming myself when things are rough and just doubling down internally on working harder to fix it myself instead of engaging my partner in developing solutions that will work for both of us. Often, my partners don’t even realize just how much I’m struggling. I realized a few weeks ago that the Board has fallen into this pattern since the beginning of the pandemic, and we need to share with the membership just how challenging our work has become so that we can work together toward solutions.

I am concerned about the ongoing sustainability of the CSPC organization if we aren't able to restructure the way our leadership is managed. Leadership volunteers are exhausted to the point of burnout, and we aren’t seeing broad participation by volunteers who are actively growing their experience and engagement with an intention to eventually step into leadership roles.

I believe that to be sustainable into the future, the CSPC needs to be attracting, training, and retaining more leadership volunteers, especially EC's, and we need to be considering a long term paid operations leadership position. 

The first step for growing our volunteer corps, including those on a pathway to leadership, is to consult a nonprofit attorney about how we can recognize (not "compensate") volunteers without running afoul of tax laws either for our 501(c)(7) nonprofit organization or our volunteers. At the June 2024 Board meeting, the Board approved the expense for an initial legal consultation toward this effort.

During most of our 25-year history, we had a managing director handling the day-to-day operations of the organization, and I believe it is also time to return to that practice. The first step toward hiring a managing director is for the Board to review our financial position carefully and determine a budget that the organization can sustain as a salary, then develop a job description that will take on many of the administrative responsibilities that the Board and other volunteers have been performing for the last four years. We will be working on this in the coming months. 

In addition to providing space for smaller and more community gatherings–potlucks, game nights, discussion groups, skill shares, and others in addition to parties–I believe that expanding into a new space will create opportunities to attract new volunteers from a new (and previous) membership base who will not participate in events at the Gallery for a variety of accessibility reasons, but we must address the issues of leadership burnout and volunteer scarcity, with or without an expansion space. Without more volunteers, we would not be able to safely schedule activities at an additional space

The CSPC is strong, and we have grown even stronger in the nine years since we lost our original home in Interbay. We provide welcoming access to diverse, supportive community that encourages the celebration, development, and exploration of each person’s unique sexuality and sensuality. I believe in this community’s power to create the organization, spaces, and events that we want to be part of, but that requires all of us to do our part.

Enormous thanks to those of you who have been stepping up this year: to all our Frolic volunteers, all our Pride volunteers, our two new Board members, and those who have expressed interest in joining the Board and who are working toward greater leadership responsibilities. Thank you to our (almost) 12 EC’s (including those nearing completion of the extended training process for this critical role) and to the many, many volunteers who make our events possible. Thank you to the volunteers who write our newsletter, update our website, answer emails, meet the laundry person, clean up flood damage, lead new member orientation, tech host our online discussion groups, moderate our Discord server, and so much more. You all are fucking rock stars.

I invite you to share your thoughts with the Board via the Feedback form on the front page of the website. If you see a need where you are willing and able to put your own skills to use, please propose a solution that you can lead. Got a great idea for something new and the bandwidth to help make it happen? Share it with us! The CSPC is an organization with events and other community services created by and for our members. Your creativity and passion are needed, now and always. <3

Frolic Updates!

from Turtle (Co-Director)

I am vibrating with excitement! Getting so close to go time that I’m counting the days to The Frolic 2024! Thirty-three, if you were wondering! 

The final yurt, named Celestial, auction closes on July 15. It is the only yurt that has electricity! Closest to the center of the action too! Current bid as of 7/2/24 is $700. 

We’ve sent more than 20 volunteers down to the Grove for our Stewardship Days. “You exceeded all our expectations!”, shared by one of the owners. The Quest for Paradise is just waiting for you, me, and a friend to make three to bring our camping fantasies to fruition. All the Team Leads are on full-forward motivation to complete planning and organize tasks before camp. You will not believe the meals! Pssst! You don't need to buy Bean-o to share!

BTW, have you asked your friends to attend camp?

Entertainment!

Tuesday 8/6

Opening Circle 7 p.m.

Campfire (instruments welcome)

Wednesday

Whip it into Shape: Create your own dragon’s tongue pocket whip!

Breaking Bad Hiking (as Naked as you want to be)

Improv Games (getting to know each other)

Campfire (instruments welcome)

Thursday

Gamers Get It On 

Positive Masculinity in a Patriarchal World (book reading and signing) Mac McGregor

Taster's Choice - Come and try a new kink!

Campfire 

Friday 

Swap Meet and Flee Market 

Slippery Shenanigans

Arts and Crafts!

The Talent Show

Campfire (Cigar and Cigar Play)

Saturday

Rope Skills Share

Obstacle Course

Saturday Night Parties

Campfire 

Sunday 

Closing Circle 2 p.m.

What's available:

Last newsletter: We published a list of camping supplies you may wish to bring

Newsletters: more updates and Presenter/class Spotlights

PPMT July 13 theme: Test out your kinky camping gear!

Pre-Frolic virtual 411 meeting: July 17, 7-9 p.m. Everyone is welcome!

Make plans and learn more in our Frolic Discord channels on the CSPC server!

Frolic Presenter Spotlights

Presenter spotlights:

Did you know: All the classes offered this year are different from 2023 except for two!

Alex and trinity

Deafen Leaf and Laughing Willow

Evelyn Evey

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Navi

TK Kasnick aka Turtle

Alex and trinity 

Alex and trinity started their total power exchange (TPE) relationship over six years ago, building on their decades in BDSM and power exchange relationships. Alex (he/him) is a neurotypical, poly, creatively sadistic dominant; he’s married to a poly vanilla woman who chuckles supportively on hearing about his kink fun. trinity (she/her) is a neurospicy bi/pan poly masochistic submissive; her quest for novelty and making BDSM tools and toys are endless. After attending so many interesting classes and discussions at the past three Frolics, Alex and trinity are enthused to share and discuss their perspectives on TPE.

Class List: 

  • Everything, Everywhere, All the Time: A Perspective on Total Power Exchange

  • Whip it into Shape: Create your own dragon’s tongue pocket whip!

Deafen Leaf and Laughing Willow

Deafen Leaf (they/she) is an erotic artist, researcher, and writer. They are currently working on video projects, and producing propaganda, as well as finding more and more outsides that can be turned into insides and vice versa. They're also impressively breedable, extremely flexible, needy, and submissive. In their free time, they're accused of being a brat, which they don't understand.

Laughing Willow (she/it) is a part-time puppy, a part-time android girl. She hasn't defragged her drive ever. When she's not battling runtime errors she's a transfem T4T verse switch with practical experience from the top, bottom, and the ill-defined squishy middle. She bites, sometimes for fun.

Class List: 

  • A Leather History

  • Chastity 101

  • Fucking Trans Women

Evelyn Evey

Evelyn Evey (she/they) is a happily kinky, switchy, sadomasochistic, polyamorous, queer, gender nonconforming experience junkie who lives in Seattle, WA where she is actively involved with the Center for Sex Positive Culture and the local BDSM community. She was vice president of the board of directors for the Pan Eros Foundation (formerly known as the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture) and has had various roles with the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival. A voracious learner, she has studied Ayurveda, psychology, and acting, all of which have provided her insight and tools for helping others on their journeys towards finding balance and having fun with their kink.

Class List: 

  • Kinky Psych 101

  • The Smell of Fear

  • Alchemy of Pain

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti 

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti has been a panelist and workshop presenter since 2017, beginning with the very first workshop she ever created, "Transcending Shame." For example, when she began researching the topic of shame, she learned that shame lives in SECRECY. Additionally, Gloria is late-diagnosed autistic, with ADHD, PTSD, depression/anxiety, and TBI. She is also an artists' model and has served as a "muse" for artists in drawing, painting, and sculpture classes and groups since the mid-1990s. Gloria is currently hard at work on her memoir entitled, "A Different Drum: A Black, Autistic, Polyamorous, Mentally Ill, Former Fundamentalist Christian/Cult Member and Breast Cancer Survivor WHO JUST WANTS TO FIT IN." You can find Gloria on Facebook as Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti, and on her website, "Not Gloria Jean" (NotGloriaJean.net). She lives in Seattle, WA.

Class List: 

  • Neurodivergent & Intersectionality discussion group

  • Is it private? Or Is it Secret?

  • How to Model for Art

Navi

Greetings! My name is Navi (He/They). I have been actively engaged in the BDSM/ kink scene for the past five years. I am most often involved in the ageplay, pet play, tickling, and leather communities. I am a member of ONYX NW which is a leather organization for queer men of color. I have taken on many volunteer roles throughout my time in the community including leading tastings, demonstrations, dungeon monitoring, event planning, setup/strike, registration, and more!

Class List:

  • Intro to Age Play

  • Dark Age Play

TK Kasnick aka Turtle

TK Kasnick began presenting at the early age of 9 through their local 4-H program. Their education in college workshops, conferences, and classes in event planning/implementation, organizing, and communication has created a lifelong passion for helping people to communicate and interact more completely with each other. TK has experienced significant health issues all of their life but doesn't allow them to define them. In 1997, their body crashed allowing genetic Fibromyalgia to raise its formidable head accompanied by Chronic Fatigue Immunodeficiency Disorder, and Multiple Chemical Sensitivity. These have all since been reclassified as a cluster diagnosis of Central Sensitization Syndrome. TK was nearly completely bedridden in 1997 for many years. They believe in living proactively. They began attending workshops and doing research to better understand the challenges inherent to a life-altering illness. Through a team approach to health care, meditation, and a life lived in balance and moderation, TK Kasnick now leads a full and satisfying life.

Class List:

  • Finding Freedom from Fear

  • Planning for Trauma Response

Alex and trinity

Deafen Leaf

Laughing Willow

Evelyn Evey

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Navi

Turtle

Pride Parade Thank You!

Ten members met virtually to design the float. We begged and borrowed what we could and treasure hunted the best prices for the bits and bobs to decorate the float. We met at Kinky Acres, à la our building committee lead/board member, to build it. Our president designed 25th Anniversary banners. Our HR director brought us hand fans to distribute among adults. One very long-time member loaned us a trailer, another loaned us their truck, and drove the float trailer carefully at less than 2mph down the parade route when we finally started moving. 

Our builders arrived at 11 a.m. to assemble and decorate our float, which was simultaneously held together with screws and zip ties. One amazingly astute member brought a large cooler full of ice, water, and Gatorade for everyone! Another functioned as “marchers lead” to make sure everyone arrived safely and was assigned a spot. We stepped off at 1:40 p.m. leading off the kinky contingents, followed by the Leather community, Sea-PAH, and the largest group of furries I've ever had the pleasure to witness outside a convention. By some ironic turn of queerness, following all of us were the churches! 

Members in totally turned-out outfits carried the long front banner and others guarded each tire against potential accidents as required by Seattle Pride. One board member rode on the float, handing out earplugs for those people our members saw needed them. 

Crystal Fire Entertainment loaned us DJ Ren1 and their pounding sound system. We saw a golf cart go by carrying five event staff bouncing so hard from their dancing that it's a surprise they didn't roll it. We handed out fan after fan as we danced our way down 4th Ave, waving to watchers as they cheered and joined us by dancing! Previous CSPC members screamed and ran out to hug everyone they knew! Other contingents danced with us. We really had chosen the best music! But then, who sits still for Prince? Let's go crazy!

As we wound down to turn onto Denny way, there in the crowd stood our Events Director, waving hello and beaming the biggest smile!

Normally, marchers would run off to join the festivities. Not us! The entire crew of marchers stayed to help strike the float for travel back to Kinky Acres who had graciously been storing it for us as it was built. Then, the marchers hugged and left, some heading back into the festival for more volunteering at our CSPC table!

For pictures and videos, check out the CSPC Discord server, Pride planning channel.

Want to participate next year? Email Pride@thecspc.org and we will contact you next February!

F'in Precious!

Have you ever looked at a big, foofy diaper-butt or a kinky kitten and thought to yourself, “SO. F’ING. PRECIOUS!” Well, this is the party for you!

F’in Precious is an 18+ party featuring ageplay and petplay-appropriate activities and music! We set out to make a fun and inviting space specifically for littles, pets, caregivers, handlers, primals, and furries - whatever your interest, everyone is welcome! This is a space for people of all gender expressions, sexual orientations, and styles of play to feel comfortable being themselves.

New Member Orientation

Already a member? Get tickets for August HERE!