What's In the Bag?

Ever wonder what lurks in the bottom of all those massive toy bags you see people carting around at parties? What is part of someone's kinky kit?

We want you to share some of your favorite toys with us! Maybe you'll inspire someone to get that flogger they've been eyeing, or those claws they were unsure about. What's in your toy bag?

Name:

Ambrose McNibble

How long have you been a CSPC member?

I think I joined in 2000. I’m member #175.

What's your favorite CSPC party?

I haven’t attended in a decade but Grind was always good.

What's your favorite non-kink hobby?

Technology

This is Half-A-Cow and Son of Half-A-Cow. I made both of them. The handles are Elm from a 100-year old tree that grew in Bend, Oregon. Both have lead-loaded handles to attempt balance.

Right flogger:

Half-A-Cow is

• 46 inches long

• has 58 falls each three-quarter inch by 31 inches

• weighs 7.4 lbs

This is the biggest flogger most people have ever seen.

Left flogger:

Son of Half-A-Cow is

• 32.5 inches long

• has 45 falls each one-half inch by 19 inches

• weighs 2.2 lbs

WANT YOUR FAVORITE TOYS TO BE FEATURED IN A FUTURE NEWSLETTER? FILL OUT OUR GOOGLE FORM!

If you have any questions, please contact Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org.

All In!: All Out 2023! New Year’s Eve Event!

Beat out 2023 and fuck in 2024! Come celebrate New Year’s Eve by participating in your favorite kinky and sexy activity!

All In is an event for everyone!

Bondage or spanking or sex? It is All In! Flogging or biting or foot worship? It is All In!

If you want to do a scene you have never done, or you want to do an old favorite, is it All In!

Wear your finest latex, your worn leathers, your coziest onesie, or wear nothing, it is All In!

If it is allowed within the rules of the CSPC then it is All In!

New member orientation will start at 7:00 sharp, and the event will start at 8:00. We will be partying up until 12:30 a.m. for this event, so you can enter the New Year partaking in whatever kinky thing your sexy mind can come up with!

If you have questions, please email us at allin@thecspc.org! To stay up to date as well as discuss play plans, rides, scene ideas, or any other mischievous debauchery, check out and join our FetLife Group!

Want to come? Purchase your tickets online!

Community Matters

COMMUNITY MATTERS

By Eirikah Delaunay

The CSPC’s December Board Meeting is coming up next week from 7:00-9:00 pm on Wednesday, 12/13/2023! Everyone is welcome to attend. This month, the Board will be sharing our usual reports and an update on the efforts toward increasing transparency in incident reporting and reconsidering the CSPC’s mandatory masking policy.

During our last reconsideration of the masking policy, we announced that our next review of this policy would take place in February 2024. Changing policies related to events requires a minimum of 30 days notice of the change in order to make sure that our policies are clearly stated in all ticketing links. This practice is intended to allow fully informed member consent to the policies in effect prior to purchasing a ticket. Therefore, the Board will address this issue with a discussion and vote on a motion related to changing our policy to optional masking at events at our meeting this month.

Motion on Masking Policy Changes:

I move that the CSPC transition from its policy of mandatory masking with a KN95 or equivalent mask except when actively eating, drinking, or using one's mouth in a scene to optional masking in keeping with each individual's risk profile. KN95 masks will continue to be provided for use as desired, but volunteers will no longer enforce the mandatory masking policy. This policy change will be effective as of February 1, 2024, to allow members to purchase tickets with full knowledge of and consent to the new policy prior to implementation; all events prior to that date will still be under the current mandatory masking policy.

This change is aligned with current public health measures in effect in the State of Washington. The Board reserves the right and responsibility to revisit this decision as changing public health conditions require. We continue to recommend vaccination, voluntary masking, and regular hand washing/sanitizing to reduce the spread of infectious diseases including COVID, flu, and RSV. The CSPC is also pursuing options to improve ventilation and air quality at Gallery Erato to further protect our community at our events.

This is an important decision that affects all CSPC members. If you have something to say on this matter, please email board@thecspc.org and/or attend the online Board Meeting on Wednesday December 13, from 7-9pm. All emails related to the masking policy will be considered by Board Members as they prepare to vote at this meeting. Emails will not be replied to individually but rather discussed generally before and at the Board Meeting. After the introduction of the motion, members will be invited to share their thoughts (2-3 minute time limit per person, depending on the number of folx who wish to speak) prior to the Board’s vote.

What do you have to say? Click here for information on how to join us next week via Zoom!

Consent Corner 23.16

bY Emma Atkinson

Hello, my lovelies! Warm wishes for a wonderfully consent-filled holiday season.

Awesome future volunteer opportunity alert: The CSPC is creating a new volunteer position for parties: the Consent Advocate. The Consent Academy offered an amazing course on Zoom over two weekends last month and taught us a lot about what a Consent Advocate does and doesn’t do to create a safer and supportive environment. Too cool!

Keep an eye out in 2024 for information on this position from our HR Director and consider becoming a Consent Advocate volunteer and support the loving community that we all want to be a part of. And, when you see a Consent Advocate at a party, please say hello and thank them for all they do for us!

Homework: It’s the holiday season, so please be as kind as possible to yourself and others. Remember to let your light shine. And, every day is a good day to express your gratitude — just saying.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Sex Trivia Answers - 12-7-2023

Hello you smart, sexy humans!

As promised, here are the answers for the sex trivia that we ran in the November 16 issue. A huge thanks to our trivia masters, Naomi Price-Lazarus and Breona Mendoza! We can't wait to see what questions you bring us next time. And a friendly reminder to join the Papaya Project for in-person sex trivia on December 13th!

Question #1

All of these were common treatments for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during ancient times EXCEPT?

A. Applying fresh ginger to the anus or vagina

Question #2

Which of the following is NOT a kinky behavior done by these deep sea creatures?

D. Octopus males enjoy asphyxiation during mating

Question #3

What percent of partnered LGBTQ adults said they met their match using online dating?

C. 24%

Question #4

What hand motion stimulates both the G-spot and the P-spot?

Come-hither motion

Question #5

At what age can humans start experiencing erections?

A. In utero

The winner is…

Unfortunately, nobody got all the answers correct! (It's harder than it seems, isn't it?) But that just means there will be another opportunity for prizes next time! Sex trivia runs in the second newsletter each month, so you'll have another chance starting on December 21. Keep it smart and sexy!

If you have any questions or comments, please contact Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org.

Broaden Your Mind - 12.7.23

Other Community Events to Enjoy!

The CSPC throws amazing parties and hosts many important discussions on various topics. But luckily, we live in a place where there are many more options to dive into sex- and body-positive culture. The list below is just a sampling of some great events coming up in the next month.

We include non-CSPC events in the first issue each month. If you have an event suggestion, please email Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org and it might make it into our next issue!

December 9

Sex Positive World: Awesome Agreements ($0–25 | online)

In this class, you’ll learn how to decrease conflict and increase intimacy by making agreements that honor both personal autonomy and interpersonal connection. We will cover how to identify underlying needs, why agreements are more effective than rules, why things like “sunset” clauses can reduce resentment, and what you can do when an agreement is broken.

December 9

Toys 5: A Dungeon Party ($13–40 | in person)

Toys 5 is a dungeon party for men and for people who have lived experience as men. When you first enter the Toys party you'll walk through the exhibition of men-in-art (curated especially for the month of December). In this same area, we'll have several kinky tops who will be offering brief (10-15 minute) tastings in their areas of expertise.

December 13

Sex Trivia ($10–20 | in person)

Join us for a fun, educational night of sex trivia and to fundraise for comprehensive sexuality education! A portion of each ticket will be donated to the King County Sexual Assault Resource Center (KCSARC). KCSARC is an independent nonprofit serving survivors and their families throughout King County and engaging communities in building a world without sexual assault.

December 14

Revelry – A Night of Drag and Other Shenanigans ($35–55 | in person)

Help us ring (and sing!) in the holidays with a variety show featuring drag, music, dance, and campy surprises. Bid on fun items in our “Naughty & Nice” silent auction, have your picture taken with Santa, and participate in one of our opt-in games. Cash bar and concessions will be available throughout the night. This event is come-as-you-are casual, but festive attire is highly encouraged!

December 15

The Moth StorySLAM: Confession ($15 | in person)

Prepare a five-minute story about big reveals to dark secrets. Tumultuous affairs bubbling up to surface with gossip or devastating accidents in which broken heirlooms and treasures must be revealed. Anonymous tips on perpetrators and obvious scoundrels admitting to their wrong-doings. Stories also welcome about secret admirers finally getting the courage to spill the beans!

December 17

SEA-PAH Walkies to Wild Lanterns ($37 | in person)

It's that time of year and we are headed to Woodland Park Zoo's nighttime holiday light show and festival, Wild Lanterns! So grab your leash, your mittens, and a cup of cocoa, and let's head to the zoo! Make sure to buy your tickets for the 5pm slot if you want to walk with the group. We will meet at the penguin parking lot between 4:30-4:45 before heading inside.

March 9

Seattle Fetish Ball ($117–234 | in person)

We’re giving you a heads up, because tickets are on sale now! Beyond BDSM, the Seattle Fetish Ball is a celebration of eroticism, sensuality, and freedom of expression. Let loose, dress daringly, and embrace your inner kink in a safe, consensual, and respectful environment. Whether you're a seasoned fetish enthusiast or curious to explore, this is the perfect place to indulge your desires and let your inhibitions go.

Femmes On Top - Get excited for the January theme!

CSPC FEMMES ON TOP

Femmes On Top is back, and Mean Girls is our January theme! That's right, the hot, popular girls are in charge of this month's party, and they want you to know that on Wednesdays (and on January 19!), we wear pink.

This BDSM-focused party celebrates feminine power in all its forms. We welcome Mistresses, Mxtresses, Dommes, fem Tops, and all their submissives, bottoms, admirers, and followers. For January, we are especially excited to welcome cool moms (not regular moms), hot goth outsiders like Janis, and all mean girls of every type, Regina George-inspired or otherwise. The theme is meant to inspire, not prescribe, so please feel free to come as you are! Wear whatever makes you feel sexy — we know you will look so fetch!

Femmes On Top features a social-only hour from 8–9 p.m. on the main floor of the Gallery with an optional icebreaker game for attendees, while play is welcome downstairs all night from 8 p.m. to midnight. A meet-and-greet board and special flagging supplies will be available to help folks mingle and socialize. We welcome attendees of all genders and sexual orientations; trans and gender non-conforming attendees are especially encouraged to attend.

Sex Trivia 11-16-23

Get ready to spice up your inbox with our new Sex Trivia segment! We're here to tickle your brain with some tantalizing intellectual treats. In each biweekly newsletter, we'll erect your curiosity with some sizzling trivia questions. The catch? You'll have to wait until the next newsletter for us to announce the winner! “I see you shiver with antici…pation!” The more you play, the more chances you have to score some fabulous prizes down the road. Enjoy playing!

Question #1

All of these were common treatments for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during ancient times EXCEPT?

A. Applying fresh ginger to the anus or vagina

B. Douching or washing genitals in oil

C. Cauterizing (burning) herpes sores with a hot iron

D. Using mercury for the treatment of syphilis or gonorrhea

Question #2

Which of the following is NOT a kinky behavior done by these deep sea creatures?

A. Lobsters consider their urine a love potion

B. Sharks give love bites during mating

C. Mobula rays do belly flops to impress their mates

D. Octopus males enjoy asphyxiation during mating

Question #3

What percent of partnered LGBTQ adults said they met their match using online dating?

A. 2%

B. 9%

C. 24%

D. 48%

Question #4

What hand motion stimulates both the G-spot and the P-spot? Write in your answer.

Question #5

At what age can humans start experiencing erections?

A. In utero

B. 3-5 years old

C. 8-10 years old

D. 13-15 years old

Bonus!

What questions do YOU have about sex? Is there anything you're itching to know more about?

Submit your responses via our Google form HERE!

SEX TRIVIA LOGO BY PAPAYA PROJECT ORG

If anyone wants to try their hand at the full sex trivia, the next event is happening at Stoup Brewing in Capitol Hill on December 13! Buy tickets HERE! Sex Trivia began in 2022 as a way to provide a fun space to learn about sex, and to support comprehensive and queer-centered sexuality education. A portion of each ticket will be donated to a selected nonprofit organization whose mission aligns with our values of access, equity, and reproductive justice.

Prize

The first person to submit their response and answer all questions correctly will win two tickets to a future Sex Trivia night at Stoup Brewing on Capitol Hill. Winner will be announced in our December 7 newsletter.

Who are our brilliant trivia masters?

Naomi Price-Lazarus (she/her) is a sexuality educator, event facilitator, and dance party host. Naomi is the Founder of Papaya Project, a Seattle-based non-profit organization that offers comprehensive sexuality education and community-building events to youth and adults. With a queer-centered and pleasure-focused approach, Papaya Project aims to destigmatize and expand understandings of identity, sexuality, bodily autonomy, and pleasure. Naomi also creates and sells art that celebrates sexual anatomy and pleasure (@PapayaProjectOrg). Naomi spends her free time playing sports, baking cookies, and traveling around the world.

Breona Mendoza (she/her) is a queer sex educator, sex therapist, author, and avid supporter of self-love in all respects of the word. Her book, Clitaurus Chronicles, is a sex education story that uses art and metaphor to convey important lessons around communication, consent, and pleasure. She owns and operates a therapy practice called Colorful Therapy where she works with youth and adults to build relationships skills, self-love, and liberation. She spends the rest of her time cultivating a sex-positive community, eating absurd amounts of peanut butter, finding excuses to play dress up, and contemplating ingenious ways to empower people to become more comfortable and loving with their parts. Follow her @ClitaurusChronicles.

Honor system

We know that Google is a convenient and helpful tool, but please look upon this as an intellectual challenge; something fun and educational to help us learn and grow within the sex-positive and kink communities. Please don't look up the answers and respond simply to win stuff.

If you have any questions, please contact Marissa at newsletter@thecspc.org.

Consent Corner 23.15

Emma Atkinson

Hello, lovely readers!

We’ve been considering the Bumbershoot Consent model, using each letter of the word C.O.N.S.E.N.T. We’re up to “N”: No means no. Don’t make them say it twice.

“No” is a complete sentence, though, “No, thank you” is more polite. It’s probably best to begin a negative response first with something like, “Thanks so much for asking me…” Then you can decline the invitation with something like, “I can’t do that.” No explanation is necessary — keep it simple. Then, consider suggesting an alternative, as in: “How about if we talk over a cup of coffee in the next few weeks?” Of course, your suggestions would be what you’re willing to consent to. It might not hurt to come up with a few phrases you can use when needed.

For many of us, it can be quite challenging to say or to hear the word “no.” Practice may make it easier — give it a try and see how it goes for you!

Homework: Practice saying and hearing a “No” and share your thoughts at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma