[REVISED] The Frolic: 2024 Teaser & Presenters

SAVE THE DATE: August 6-11, 2024

In just a few short months, we will be hidden away with more than a hundred of our closest friends. Soaking up the sunshine, absorbing new skills, cuddling and laughing by firelight among the trees…It’s The Frolic 2024! Bigger, better, and so bougie! The theme is Questing for Paradise. You cannot predict how your quest for your inner/outer compass may change the direction of your journey.

A limited number of Early Bird tickets go on sale March 28, so watch for the flares to light up your media. VIP yurts will be auctioned off as well and they are so WOW! There will be a hot tub, indoor dungeon, outdoor play space, and six days of fantastical community on our own private field of dreams! 

Stay tuned! 

The Frolic Team

Need assistance to attend? Volunteer 10-20 hours during the event! Email frolic@thecspc.org

Call For Frolic Presenters!

The Frolic 2024 is accepting applications for presenters through April 3!

Anyone 18+ can attend! Tickets go on sale March 28. Keep an eye out on our website!

We encourage all levels of classes. We are planning to offer not only 101 classes but a variety of unusual advanced topics as well. Get your application in early, click here to apply! Up to eight class submissions allowed. 

  • Teach 1 class: pay $275 [First Tier pricing]

  • Teach 2 classes: pay $162.50 [Half off Third Tier pricing]

  • Teach 3 classes: FREE ticket upon approval

  • Non-member presenters will receive a gratuitous month of CSPC membership

Closing Date: Wednesday, April 3

Selection Date: Wednesday, April 10

Notification Date: Monday, April 15

Once we notify you that your submission(s) has/have been selected, you have one week to accept. And even if your idea isn't selected this round, we’ll keep a record of it for future opportunities. 

Questions? Email our Education Co-Leads at froliceducation@thecspc.org 

FROLIC VOLUNTEER MEETING!

Even though we’re months away from the event itself, The Frolic team is working hard behind-the-scenes to launch Early Bird tickets this month!

If this is your first time hearing about The Frolic, one thing that’s different about this event than other CSPC events is that all attendees commit to a community volunteer shift. Want the opportunity to volunteer for registration or security? We’re hosting our next virtual training on March 11 from 7-9 p.m. for active CSPC members who have completed the Volunteer Orientation!

Join Turtle and Mina, 2024 Frolic Co-Directors, at the next monthly virtual meeting on March 21 at 7:15 p.m.! 

The CSPC is a volunteer-based organization and we wouldn't be able to do all these fun events without our members donating their time to help create this space for their community. We're looking for folx with active CSPC memberships who may be interested in becoming a Frolic volunteer for leadership positions, web designers, presenters, etc.

Interested but have questions? Please join us! You do not need to register in advance, just click the Zoom link below when it's time for the meeting. 

The Frolic Team meets virtually every third Thursday at 7:15 p.m. As we get closer to the event, we'll add on additional meeting times.

Hope to see you there!

P.S. Volunteers are required to complete our self-service “Volunteer Orientation.” Click here to start the process!

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PPMT Reminiscing

By Turtle and Teeebone 

Teeebone and I are sitting here by Zoom reminiscing about the “good ol’ days” like we all promise not to do when we are young. “I’ll never do that…sit around thinking about ‘Remember when’…I’ll be too busy living!” Well, guess what? We are doing both! Double the pleasure, double the fun, with… oooo! Sorry for the earworm!

The good ol’ days circa 2012-2016 at the CSPC Interbay location included third Saturdays at the PPMT party (Power Play Mixed-Tape.) In fact, I asked someone to volunteer at the upcoming party and they said they weren’t available on the third Saturday. I said, “Great! Because it isn’t on the third Saturday anymore!” It’s a whole new world! Oops! Second earworm!

The party re-upped in 2021 on the “heels” of reopening post-Covid with some of the Interbay crew coming back out of nostalgia. We were thinking about what’s changed and what stayed the same.

I asked some of the previous Power Players what stuck out most to them. “Boobie dancing, feeling surrounded by scenes everywhere, high energy, intense scenes, dancing in my underwear, dancing free, the feeling of camaraderie on the team, great music, good friends, great conversations, warm hosts, fucktastic music, heavy players, possible blood scenes, amazing mix of laughter and screams, getting stuffed at TK’s Buffet, pogo dancing so hard I hit my head on the heater, everyone dressed up, everybody naked. You’re sexy and you know it!

The music still pounds the sound but downstairs is quieter so people have a choice in sound immersion. The great conversations, friendly attendees, and awesome hosts stay engaged with great outfits, fun scenes, and random people dancing on the stage. Plus, we have the Pick-up Play board for the impromptu in you!

Teeebone - “That feel you get when you experience compersion while watching your former primary partner having their first DP scene some 12 feet away while you’re being the DJ at PPMT. Everybody’s workin’ for the weekend!

Turtle - “That feeling of being surrounded by friends even if you don’t know them! I miss that so much! We openly welcome everyone and we will be talking, a certain song will come on and we will all rush to the dance floor together! Everyone included!”

Teeebone - “That feeling you get when you have had an intense scene and then realize you are the closing DJ. Whoomp there it is!”

Turtle - “I had a few anthems the team would all dance to, but before everyone got there, we’d have a pep rally that always ended with us singing ‘C is for Cookie!’

Teeebone - “I loved those cookies. They were the best.”

Turtle - “We were a family. A family that exists to this day. When we wanted to set up a general, heavy play party again…we realized just how far our existing volunteers were stretched. Hell, 50% of the volunteers are board members. So, it’s been five years since the last PPMT, and I started texting. Amazing PPMT members answer with just ‘I’m in’ then go and renew their membership. It’s that kind of dedication, love, and camaraderie we at PPMT live for. I’m so grateful for them re-igniting their fires to bring PPMT back to life!”

And now we have a new crew of die-hards who swear by the party!

Teeebone - *yells* “I got it! That feel you get when somebody says straight to three DJs’ faces ‘do you have any music I can dance to?’ and you’ve been playing dance music all night long. The only right answer to this question: I’M SORRY. WE HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO DANCE MUSIC WHATSOEVER!” 

Turtle - “And the look on Sir Nikolia’s face that suggested the heat of a 1,000 suns… Well, we’ll leave it at that! Actually, she came back later to thank us for playing the Rolling Stones. Who knew?”

Every summer, when Paradise (our annual camping trip) would roll around, PPMT would follow it. We’d have a sarong night called, “Sarong, it’s So Right!” One year, the Paradise theme was to “Keep the Fires Burning.” I could have never imagined, at the time, something like a modern day plague would take humanity out at the knees. That we’d let our fires burn low into coals. That fire is still there though. PPMT and all of the CSPC programming plan to help breathe those fires back to life…to reignite them into a conflagration of passion for ourselves and our community. Come out. Become whole again! Volunteer and make space for others to become whole too!

Turtle - “I loved that the staff, no matter the name tag, all worked together to make great things happen. They could have happened at any party. But PPMT just refuses to notice that there is a box at all, much less lines to color in.”

Teeebone - “The concept of the crew as ‘Fam’ was very strong with PPMT.”

Turtle - “You keep hearing hints about TK’s Buffet. Trust me. There wasn’t food, but if you had a vagina, you could get stuffed! 

Teeebone - “We like to think of it as an immersive experience.” *laughs* “Three of my partners have been to the Buffet Table and rate it five thumbs up!”

Turtle - “We are both DJs. We love music! We play it loud! It is important to us. So bring your earplugs or headphones if you need them. Also, if the music fits the theme and you contact us beforehand, we’ve been known to play certain songs for a scene. Be nice or we might Rickroll you! We Are Never Gonna Give You Up!”

Teeebone - “Get yourself ready for a hot night with a five-finger sex punch!”

By the way, come join us on March 9 and dress to the “Ls” in leather and latex! While not a requirement to attend the party, we highly encourage our attendees to adorn themselves in said fetish wear. At PPMT, we whip sensuality and BDSM all under the same roof!

ppmt@thecspc.org

Come to Power Play Mixed-Tape and let your body talk!

Consent Corner 24.05

By Emma Atkinson

Hello lovely ones! The Corner is on Spring Break—please carry on enjoying life as you were. 

Got a great consent tale to share? Yes, you do! Please share it at: info@thecspc.org

Itching to read about a consent-related topic? You know you are! Please send it along to: info@thecspc.org

Is 2024 all you dreamed it would be? Let your tale tickle our fancy at: info@thecspc.org

See you next time! 

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

PPMT is celebrating Leather and Latex in March!

By Teeebone

Come join us on March 9th and dress to the “L”s in Leather and Latex! While not a requirement to attend the party, we highly encourage our attendees to adorn themselves in said fetish wear. At PPMT, we whip sensuality and BDSM all under the same roof!

Power Play Mixed-Tape makes having a fantastic fucking time easy. Dress to impress and surround yourself with sensual sex and bass-pounding BDSM. Best yet—the music will be HOT. Throbbing beats from 8-10 pm with DJ ObliqueBanter and sizzling sexiness by DJ Boneman from 10 pm-midnight! Surge and doof with us! (The basement will ride a noticeably lower decibel level for your pleasure! Earplugs are available at the registration desk.)

FOMO is a thing, but we have time to sling! Take your time to play hard at PPMT! (Know all levels and types of play are welcome!) Let the music groove your body or be suspended from one of our hard points. Make someone dance on the rack or turn them over a spanking bench. Any play sanctioned by the CSPC is allowed at PPMT so review the CSPC's Essential House Rules. Expect sex anywhere and everywhere (except the bathroom, aftercare room, or stairs)! If it's going to be bloody, please bring your own plastic/tarp and linens.

PPMT ran from 2012 up until the closure of Interbay in 9/2016. PPMT was selected as 2012 Party of the Year as well as March 2014 Party of the Month. It is the first of the 2.0 parties to return to the CSPC to “Reignite Our Fires!”

One-Year CSPC Testimonial

By Rena

I can’t believe an entire year has already flown by since I’ve joined the CSPC! Let me give you the rundown of how I came to learn about the CSPC and how it has affected my life. 

Like most horny folx on the internet, I love to consume NSFW content, like smutty manga. After I came across a certain tale of a hedonistic social club, I began to complain to my wife about how these web pages were fiction, that there was no such place where I could find a group of like-minded, kinky, LGBTQ+, sex-positive people…

“You mean, like the CSPC?” she asked.

HUH?! I was floored. Not only was this fantasy place real, but in my state! (Given, as a lifetime Washingtonian, I should have known that there was something like this, but forgive my rural/small-town upbringing.) I rushed to my computer, registered for my first online discussion group (shoutout to the Queer DG!) and attended the virtual New Member Orientation. Speaking with people online made me realize how much I had been missing, how many people had similar interests as me (in and out of kink), how diverse of a community we have accumulated, and that I was adding myself to the never-ending supply of submissive bottoms. 

But my excitement to join quickly shifted to fear. Confidence was not my strong suit when you took me away from my computer. Like most, I have body image issues, gender identity crises, and the overall intrusive thought of “oh god, everyone is going to be leagues hotter than me, I’m going to be the awkward wall potato.” So, I did the most sensible thing and decided to go to PPMT in February 2023. I made a haphazard post in the CSPC Discord that I would be attending and I immediately felt the love and support of the community. People reacted with cute emojis, replied with words of encouragement, and some offered social anchorage, if I so desired. I’d never seen such a display of courtesy and kindness, especially toward an outsider like myself. 

Even though I didn’t play at PPMT, I soaked in all of the sounds, the sights, and the people. I remember standing in frozen awe, admiring as someone was flogged across the room while their moans of intense pleasure filled the atmosphere. I was stunned and was brought back to the present moment when a friendly face asked how I was acclimating. I honestly don’t even remember exactly what I said, but the friend and others in earshot began erupting in laughter. And then, it hit me. 

This wasn’t just a place to have safe, hot, kinky sex. This was an environment for joy, pleasure, laughter, and compassion. We aren’t just a space to “hookup,” but we give people the space to grow, evolve, and learn together. After a year with the CSPC, I have made wonderful connections, had exciting new experiences, joined the volunteer team, and found my place spreading laughter to all I meet. 

Betwixt and Between

By Turtle

TW: depression/loneliness 

I learned a long time ago that I'm the type of person who needs to overlap projects so that nothing completely starts or ends at the same time. I cannot allow a project to end with no plans to begin waiting for me. It's easy for me to get depressed following the excess energy that is the culmination of any large project, especially a successful one!

That depression occurred to me last year. I was stuck betwixt and between my inner and outer world. I had a large project that I was increasingly isolated from during the planning stage. The other people had other priorities pulling attention in their lives. That happens.

Due to a certain set of personal circumstances, I didn't ask for help. I was scared to ask for help. I didn't want anyone to see me as incapable. One of my greatest fears is failure. I learned that broaching that fear by pushing forward is the technique I use to work through it. At some point, in pushing my body and my mind to complete more work, I overwhelmed my logical thought and I forgot.

I felt like people had let me down and that so many things had gone wrong that didn't need to fail. It was an intense disappointment because I erroneously blamed the failures on myself and whether or not people wanted to work with me. Not whether or not they prioritized their work on the project. Ultimately, none of the successes or failures had anything to do with me. The successes and failures were those of the team working together. They worked hard to be flexible when there were issues. They deserved the event’s success! Everyone's excitement and passion for the project is what creates synergy.

So the project ends, a few people seem to step right over me in my leadership position without speaking to me, and I'm feeling very alone. Everyone else seemed to have a transformative experience. Created new community and friends. I did not. I went home alone to a busy partner. 

I received only a few short messages about other topics. It was as if the project had not happened at all. All the people I thought I'd made friends with were gone; gone home to recover, go back to work, reassimilated into the borg. Everyone I thought cared about me suddenly weren't there.

I readjusted, coming down from the high of what was a fairly successful project. Then I became completely deflated with no contact. No other project. I dropped into a deep depression. The loneliness was intense. I considered changing my life focus completely.

I was consumed with circling negative thoughts. Thoughts like, “If no one cares to contact me or even say hi, I guess I don't matter. No one values me. I suck. Guess I'll eat some worms.” 

Those thoughts don't do anybody any good. I'm neurodivergent with autism, among other diagnoses. I struggled from intense loneliness growing up. We moved a lot, and making new friends when you don't talk is an extraordinarily exhausting experience.

I eventually was given social skills training. Most of the time, I do well. But in this situation, it was as if I couldn't pick up the phone. I couldn't text anyone. I couldn't get on Discord without crying and seeing everyone else's joy. 

I had to rewrite my inner dialogue. I knew those voices weren't right, they weren't truthful. They were just old negative reels of thoughts that would spiral me down deeper and deeper. I called my doctors and got some help. I was lucky.

I also understood a universal concept when I spoke to other people later. They said, “Well, I would have been happy to talk to you if you would have called me but I was really busy,” or “I didn't know that was happening to you.”

And they do care. It's just life is frantically busy and, if our attention is scattered across a multitude of directions, it's hard to keep track of people. 

It's easy for people to get lost. Our community’s efforts toward extreme privacy and giving people room to do whatever they need to do without someone bugging the crap out of them…that is the antithesis of what people need at times. We are a community and a family.

If we reach out to each other when we haven't seen each other, just a check in when someone we enjoy has disappeared for a while, it can make a huge difference in feeling valued.

I'm NOT saying any of what happened during my depression is anyone else’s fault or responsibility. I wasn't expecting it and forgot to use all the tools in my toolbox.

I want to remind the community that we all have tools to help each other out.

  1. I wrote down a list of three people who are my closest support system. The deal now is that I tell them when I'm struggling. “Hey, I'm having a hard time,” kind of a contract. An informal, you're my “friends and family” contract. I'm much more likely to follow through on something I feel is a requirement to my belief system and how I live my life.

  2. Next, I wrote down a list of people who are on my friend list. And people I would like to be my friends. I made a commitment to myself to try to say hi or check in with them, whether it's once a week or once a month. This can be modified for whatever works for you, is comfortable for you, and enhances how you fit into the world socially.

  3. If I know someone's phone number and I know they are super busy, I put it on my calendar to text them with something funny or lighthearted. I tell them that I do not expect a reply. Just want to know in my head that I made them smile.

  4. I have no plans to post my personal drama on Discord. It often seems full of the occasional over-the-top emotional drama. I have a hard enough time handling it myself without other people “trying to help” en masse. Some of the Discord drama is just too much for me, even if well-meaning.

  5. I made a deal with a long-distance friend. I addressed a bunch of envelopes and put stamps on them. We take turns handwriting a letter to each other. We try to use unusual products as paper like an ad from a magazine or a piece of tree bark. It's a true pleasure to receive a handwritten note.

  6. I have a journal in which I write down all the good things that happen to me. I made a commitment to myself that if I wrote down something good that someone else did, I would share that with them. Or if I hear someone did something great, I will seek them out and share that with them, if I know them. I like spreading good gossip. That is the kind of gossip that brings people “up.” Good gossip doesn't put them down or make them less than. 

  7. It might be that you make plans to have coffee with somebody once a week. Or you meet up with someone who really wants to do something like karaoke but is afraid to go by themselves. 

Any of these options can help draw you out of your own depression. Help you find value for yourself in the community again. They will all increase community, strengthen the bond between members, and alleviate loneliness. These habits help keep people from falling off the radar. Pick one, just one, and commit to it. See what happens in both your life and the lives that surround you.

**If you or someone you know is in crisis, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 (para ayuda en español, llame al 988). The Lifeline provides 24-hour, confidential support to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Call 911 in life-threatening situations.

Consent Corner 24.04

BY Emma Atkinson 

Hello, super hot and sassy readers! It’s February and you know what that means? Please let me know if you do, because I don’t. 

The 2023 edition of Bumbershoot featured posters with the word “Consent” in large, easy-to-read letters. The word was turned into an acrostic (great word!), meaning that each letter of the word began a short phrase relating to the topic. Plus, having the word “Consent” easily visible everywhere you looked helped keep the concept front and center in attendees’ minds. Pretty great, no? Please look through recent Consent Corners to see all the delicious details. 

We’re so fortunate to live in a time when the concept of consent is being given its proper place of prominence. We have the right to give or withhold our consent as we see fit. “No” is a complete sentence and you can find support for maintaining your boundaries when you need it. 

There was a time when party hosts would encourage guests to have one more alcohol-based drink “for the road.” Yeesh! Today, we’re more aware of the risks of drinking and driving, and no self-respecting host would say anything of the sort. 

As with drinking and driving, there’s far more awareness today about the risks involved and the importance of consent and personal autonomy. Yay, right? 

Homework: Have you had a memorable experience with saying no? We’d love to hear about it at: info@thecspc.org.

“Be excellent to each other.” —Bill and Ted

“Be sexcellent to each other.” —Emma

Frolic Volunteer Opportunity!

Have you come upon the end of a CSPC event wishing that you had more time? Do you ever think about what it would be like to spend days exploring sex-positivity in a guided space?

Let us introduce you to the annual CSPC Frolic event! It’s a six-day kinky camping event hosted at a private venue towards the end of summer! We’re looking for members like you to volunteer and help make this event one for the memory books!

Join Turtle and Mina, 2024 Frolic Co-Directors, at the next monthly virtual meeting on February 15th at 7:15 p.m.! 

The CSPC is a volunteer-based organization and we wouldn't be able to do all these fun events without our members donating their time to help create this space for their community. We're looking for folx with active CSPC memberships that may be interested in becoming a Frolic volunteer for leadership positions, web designers, presenters, marketers, setup & strike, etc.  

Interested but have questions? Please join us! You do not need to register in advance, just click the Zoom link below when it's time for the meeting. 

The Frolic Team meets virtually every third Thursday at 7:15 p.m. As we get closer to the event, we'll add on additional meeting times.

Hope to see you there!

P.S. Volunteers are required to complete our self-service “Volunteer Orientation.” Click here to start the process!

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